I've been in 4 different relationships where I got to the point that I told my girlfriends my deep dark secret, (2) ran for the hills, (1) took it in stride, didnt participate but knew about it and my 4th (hopefully last) and has been my fiancee for 2 years and loves me for being me, she has bought me ab/dl clothing, toys, diapers, ect.. changes me a lot and accepts me for this part of my personality.
My advice, don't give up and be fair, in relationships there is plenty of give and take, she's not a servant to me, and I'm not to her, but I do a lot of things out of love for her and she see's it, also relationships are not always smooth going either, there are and will be many bumps in the road, we've had many disagreements along our journey so far together, but never once did any of our arguments get bitter were she hit a low ball and attacked my ab side, that's when you know you've found a genuine / unconditional love.