A Double Dose of "Different": Disorders and Diaper Loving

spddan

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Each of us, as an individual, has our own unique set of burdens to bear and paths to follow. For many of us, this whole ‘diaper thing’ can seem like quite a burden at times, and it poses a definite roadblock for our social lives, especially if we wish to be accepted in an intimate relationship. For some of us though, we are already experiencing difficulties at fitting in and experiencing challenges that go outside of the norm. We are the disabled, the disorderly, or the neurologically impaired, if you will.

Many ABDL community members have been diagnosed with some sort of a disability, or could be diagnosed if we sought it out. We’ve been told we have Asperger’s Syndrome, ADHD, Dyslexia, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or any other of a long list of potential impairments and invisible disorders. We are also infantilists. There seems to be a lot of us who can claim to be both neurologically impaired and involved in this unique lifestyle.


The Big Question: Are They Related?

It has often been pondered whether or not there is a correlation between having a neurological disorder and being a member of the AB/TB/DL community. It has been debated not only throughout our social circle, but has even been brought up in certain places within the neurological disability community, as well.

So what’s the answer? Is there a direct correlation between having a neurological difference and being an infantilist? It is through experience, analysis, and anecdotal evidence that it becomes quite visible that there is a plausible correlation between the two. However, this isn’t exactly an 'X caused Y' or a 'Y caused X' relationship, but rather, a case of an increased likelihood toward infantilism for those of us who qualify as neurologically disabled.


How can being neurologically disabled lead to diaper loving?

There are many ways in which being disabled can lead to a desire and/or need to regress or wear diapers. When determining the likelihood of a disabled individual developing the fetish or becoming a part of the lifestyle, one must look at the type of disorder the individual has, as well as its severity.

In general, neurological impairments such as Autism Spectrum Disorders (including Asperger’s Syndrome), Attention Deficit Disorder, and Sensory Processing Disorder each have a large variety of unique ways in which they can impact a person. No matter what the neurological disorder though, one can expect to find a general difficulty in fitting in with peers, a hard time meeting the day to day requirements the world has placed on people, and an increased likelihood of depression and difficulties coping with stress.

Infantilists are into the lifestyle for a variety of reasons, as well. Many of us are here because we have always liked feeling younger and having less responsibility from time to time, or appreciate or love wearing diapers. For many of us, this is a great way to relieve stress and temporarily remove ourselves from the harsh demands of the adult world. So, what does that mean for the neurologically impaired?


Attachment to babyish coping mechanisms

For those who are neurologically different from their peers, regressive patterns and coping mechanisms can be an attractive option for coping with stress and emotional hardship. Because many had many challenges while attempting to adapt to their social environment throughout the early ages of life, developmental milestones may have been reached late or missed entirely. Essentially, many neurologically disabled individuals have a relatively weak foundation in many of the areas that are required for a happy and well-rounded childhood.

To cope with these difficulties, many develop bonds with habits and items that can be found in their environment. This could be a plushy (stuffed animal), pacifier, bottle, blanket, or diapers, to name some of the most common babyhood coping mechanisms and comfort tools. Essentially, they develop bonds with these coping mechanisms that greatly exceed the bonds that their peers developed for the same items.

When it came time for most neurologically typical children to give up diapers, pacifiers, or their blankie, it was likely to be a minor challenge, but one that they ultimately took and moved on smoothly from, without needing to look back. For disabled kids, on the other hand, it was much harder. Because they lacked many of the same neurological capabilities of the other children, they didn’t feel as safe in their environment, and did not feel comfortable giving up their calming safety tools. This may be a common period in which such a child may begin to develop into an infantilist, refusing to give up on what they had always had before. Even if they do submit to the demands of society and try to move beyond such things, they will ultimately still have a strong emotional attachment.

Another common issue that is typical for people with neurological impairments is the likelihood of sensory problems. It has been stated before that as many as half of every person diagnosed with ADHD, as well as virtually every person diagnosed on the autism spectrum has some level of sensory difficulties. These difficulties have been discovered in children that have none of the aforementioned disabilities, and it has been given its own diagnostic label, Sensory Processing Disorder.


Ways autism and neurological sensory issues can lead to infantilism

One of the most common problems for people who have Autism Spectrum Disorders and Sensory Processing Disorder (making up approximately five percent of the world) is a difficulty with changes in the environment and transitions from one thing to another. Going from being able to wear diapers to having to use a toilet is a very big transition, and a definite change in a child’s environment.

Many people with these disabilities have a very hard time breaking from what they are doing, even for something as mundane as going to the bathroom, and hence, don’t want to do it. This inability to break away from a task to perform a vital bodily function, coupled with a hard time deciphering and experiencing the urge to use the bathroom (another common problem here), is what keeps many children with these disorders from potty training early.

One look at the websites dedicated to parents in the autism or SPD communities will reveal that potty training is a very difficult issue for a good number of children with these conditions. It is not very uncommon for a lot of these kids to be wearing diapers full time until, or even beyond, the age of 5. Many have issues with bedwetting that go on for years later, as well.

People who are hypersensitive to sensory input often have a hard time with a noisy and uncomfortable bathroom environment, and find the seams on most forms of underwear to be extremely agitating. They may prefer the feeling of a smooth porous diaper instead of underwear. Those who are under-sensitive to sensory input may not even feel the need to go until it is too late, causing chronic bedwetting accidents, and those who are sensory seekers may actually crave the sensory input diapers provide.

That’s right, many kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders, Sensory Processing Disorder, and ADHD may actually find the sensory stimuli that comes from diapers addictive, in a sense, and may fixate on them and need them to help maintain better focus and internal regulation. The scent of the powder, the feeling of the interior of the diaper, especially when wet or perhaps even messy, and the bonding pressure of the snug undergarments are all very attractive sensations to many people who are sensory seekers.


So what can be concluded?

It seems quite possible that a person with neurological impairments may be led to this lifestyle. While it is purely illogical to state that having these disorders causes infantilism, it is not too hard to imagine the appeal diapers, pacifiers, and other regression based tools for those who have an abnormal nervous system. Likewise, it is also completely unfounded to suggest that all infantilists have some form of neurological condition.

As for me, I have had Sensory Processing Disorder my whole life, and I never wanted to be potty trained. I intensely seek out the input that diapers can offer me, and have a difficult time with bathrooms, certain clothing textures, and breaking from my tasks to head to the restroom every hour or two. I feel that it is likely that this played a pivotal role in what has brought me to where I am today, as a discreetly open infantilist and diaper lover.

I have made a lot of friends in the SPD community, and most of them turned out to have some sort of regression-type habit, even if they weren’t involved in the ABDL community. I have also made quite a few friends in the ABDL community, and have never been very surprised to see a lot of them suffer from some sort of sensory processing difficulties or neurological differences.

For those of us who are neurologically impaired members of the ABDL community, we have a couple of definite hurdles to overcome when it comes to personal and social acceptance, as well as intimate relationships. If we are able to accept ourselves for both our challenges and our lifestyle, and find someone who is able to love both our unique quirkiness and our diapering interests, then it is something that is truly special, and a sign of true internal strength.

Between our diapers and our disorders, we are indeed very unique and interesting people.
 
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BabyFaceMike

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Wow how ironic. I have aspergers also which is a form of mild autism and I have had urges to wear diapers my whole life. They make me so happy
 

alannanicole

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aspie.... dyslexic... never had great controll.. always had somewetting issues then injury finished off my major controlll ability.. so pretty much rrequire 24/7
 

ToddySmurf

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Wonderful post. Excellently written! You gave me a lot to think about :)
 

Sheepies

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Severe anxiety with a sprinkle of OCD over here.

Love your post, it's wonderfully written and actually makes a whole lot of sense as to why many of us enjoy these activities.
 

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I have noticed that there seems to be a higher incidence of neurological issues among us, or maybe it's that being open about our little side allows us to be more open about our neurological issues.
Me, I have major depression (treated with meds).
 

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I have had several head injuries and have trouble relating to people. I have ended up getting involved with people who take advantage of me (I have heard people say this behind my back) because I cannot read non verbal cues very well or talk well from aphasia. So I have come to the conclusion that periods of time being an active AB/DL to take care of certain sensual needs are better than getting involved in the relationships I used to have.
 

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i found this very interesting I like sensory things I love it when you can dim the lights so it sets a warm and cozy environment and I like things soft like blankets and stuffies I would love to have some sort of sensory room when I get my own place I was born part downsydrome but I was raised as a "normal" child you can tell by minute indications but I vew myself and everyone views me as norma and the subjects rarly comes up as I don't find it a a big part of me
 

trouble63

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This is me. I have an anxiety disorder which is treated w meds and on/ off counseling. I can see in myself both a physical need (OAB, intense urge and weak control) and a psychological need (stress). Naturally the 2 feed each other in a vicious circle.
 

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I have neurogenic bowel and bladder and have no control and can't get an erection. I use pads full time.
 

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I am mildly autistic as well. Though I am not sure if certain disabilities lead to infantilism or some type of diaper/baby fetish. I found one thing that usually comes in up with allot off ones I have spoken with. The majority of infantilists have some type of connection to trauma. weather that be say physical,psychological, or even sexual. The majority of times it comes up, and usually those baby wants manifest during the preteen years. I am not saying either theory is wrong or right, but thee idea of say a disability, mental health, or trauma can all play a part. Myself, I can only guess what got me started. Could have been a curiosity, exposure from forms of media, or even just myself wanting to escape to a worlds where I thought it was only myself. Before I forget to mention this. Well done on your explanation about infantilism spddan. I raise my glass to you.
 

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I believe there is a very close correlation going on here too. (though correlation does not equal causation).

I am a DL. My older sister is bipolar. My younger brother is now my trans-gendered sister (M-F). All of these "disabilities" have a very strong neurological link to them. I do not believe these three are related per se, but I do believe there is some sort of underlying and common neurological link to them. Now what that link is, and how to go about identifying it is beyond my understanding though.

I suppose one loose comparison would be like if all three of us had weakened immune systems. All three of us could likely succumb to one disease or another, but those diseases and how we get them would not be individually linked. The underlying cause would still be there thought.
 

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I was diagnosed as high functioning in 1967, they didn't have the diagnosis of Aspergers yet. The public schools in Del Rio Tx (if you wonder where it's at, its this side of the rio grande from Acun(ya) like the ZZ Top song "Mexican Blackbird") thought I was "retarded" because I didn't do the hokey pokey dance, didn't recite the alphabet or count in sequence 1-10, so they thought I didn't know left from right, or any of the other stuff. Plus I had only been pretending to be pottie trained just before age 5.
So they sent me to San Antonio, Lackland AFB, to determine how severely and what treatment plan. They started out with the 'illiterate' test which the first ten pattern could literally be done by a chimp, starting with four block and only two colors, two sides red, two sides white, and two sides with both with a diagonal division... and you make patterns based on a picture in a flip-book, Progressively more complex. I went through the whole book. They realized at that point that it wasn't what they thought. Then they tested my reading (3rd grade level at the time) and how high I could count and that I knew left to right, I just wasn't interested in showing any of Them a damn thing.

A lot of the neural progression in Autism was basically in it's "infancy" if you will. The disorder was first given attention as a separate disorder in 1948, 12 years before I was born. I took every opportunity to either wear a diaper or simply wet the bed sometimes deliberately. I was mostly a bedwetter without conscious control until I was 14. If I woke up dry, though, I'd deliberately do it because I "liked" being a baby. And wetting the bed wasn't so much demonized by the medical establishment anymore.

I believe, though, that there's a very physical/psychic intertwining, quantum physics on the hoof. Quantum is my hiding place. Some kids had tree houses or cardboard box forts. Maybe the physical anomalies in bladder control conditions the psyche to accept as "fun" because it has very little harmful effects and the hygiene part is the biggest part we can actually control, at least partially, like wearing diapers and taking baths, and society still penalizes us for actually enjoying the journey. The taboo effect comes into play, and the mind does have the capacity to change the physical. Like in the book Stranger in a Strange Land, the doctor in the group remarks about the one astronaut who was muslim got drunk and had a cycle of repentance, "if Brother Stinky gets more mileage from his sins by regretting them, good for him". And the physical effects of wetting yourself can alter your mental phases and so forth and so on. Maybe I'll be the one to find a cure for autism, Who knows?
 

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I am so pleased to read this. I have pondered the same things about sensory stimuli and the conection between the spectrum and infantilism. Working with kids on the spectrum ive noticed many stimming activities which are not too dissimilar to infantilist needs and desires. Things like needing the weight of a blanket or chewy neclaces to bite/suck on, not much different than curling up with a blanky and paci. I myself have bipolar and borderline personality disorder and although not formally diagnosed, consider myself on the spectrum as I display many of the characteristics of high functioning autism.

Great article, now only if mainstream psychology would focus on these correlations and not label it just a sexual fetish, we would be much closer to being socialy accepted than we are now.
 
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