Bobsled
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I have been living with overactive bladder for some time. I am seeing a urologist, and am trying medications. But I've not seen an improvement yet.
I am generally not incontinent, unless my urge gets too great and I can't make it to a bathroom in time. I have had leaks in those cases, but thankfully they are rare. Depending on my fluid intake, I may be able to go 2-3 hours without needing to urinate. But other times, the urge may occur less than 15 minutes after urinating. I am a bit cautious about managing fluids, because I have had three urinary tract infections in the last five months, and concentrated urine may be a factor in them. So, managing intake may be a two-edged sword.
For a long time, I have been in denial about how this affects me. But it is something that I have to make adjustments for all the time. I almost never leave the house, my office, etc. without trying to empty my bladder - "just in case". I keep a bottle in my car, just in case. But that's not always easy to use discreetly. Normally, if I pee just before I leave work, I have enough time to get home before experiencing another urge. But, I fear getting stuck in traffic for an extended period. And if I have to stop anywhere (the market, pharmacy, etc.), I will usually find the nearest bathroom and urinate there (I can name at least a half dozen stores that I know the bathroom locations and have used them regularly).
I often have to get up during a regular two hour meeting at work, because I need to urinate. I keep paper cups in my office. I've urinated into them (with the office door closed!) during one hour conference calls because of the urge, then discreetly poured the contents into the toilet later.
When I go to a movie, I urinate when I get to the theater, avoid drinking anything during the film, and urinate before leaving the theater.
I've been experimenting with pullups and briefs. The advantage of pullups is that I can pee normally using the toilet most of the time. But if I get the urge at an inopportune time, I can urinate into the pullup. The disadvantage is that depending on the type of pullup, I might have to change after a wetting (maybe 2 or possibly 3). That may or may not be easy to do discreetly.
Briefs are good in that they hold a lot. So, I could go a while before needing to change. But I can't really pee normally, without first having to unfasten tapes (and some briefs aren't great for refastening). So once I put on a brief, I am pretty much committed to peeing into it for most of the work day.
With OAB, it's not great having to urinate all the time. I have to constantly plan for urinating to avoid a crisis later. But it's starting to look like using pullups or briefs will still require me to plan my day - just in a different way. I am concluding that I should have a supply of both, with different absorbencies. Which one I use will depend on what is on my schedule for the day. Will I be tied up for 2-3 hours at a meeting or traveling? Will it be convenient to change out of a pullup after the meeting/trip? Or, should I put on a brief to buy extra time?
I am not an AB/DL. So it is not my goal to wear a diaper. I just want something that will work when it needs to, can be worn discreetly. And I don't want to have to change any more than absolutely necessary. So if I have no meetings scheduled, I might wear a moderate abosorbency pullup and pee normally throughout the day. I would just be wearing it to handle unforeseen situations. But if I have a two hour meeting followed by a lunch, I might either wear a higher absorbency pullup (like Abena Abri-Flex), or a brief.
Anyone else in this situation? How have you dealt with this? Do you adjust what you wear based on the situation?
I am generally not incontinent, unless my urge gets too great and I can't make it to a bathroom in time. I have had leaks in those cases, but thankfully they are rare. Depending on my fluid intake, I may be able to go 2-3 hours without needing to urinate. But other times, the urge may occur less than 15 minutes after urinating. I am a bit cautious about managing fluids, because I have had three urinary tract infections in the last five months, and concentrated urine may be a factor in them. So, managing intake may be a two-edged sword.
For a long time, I have been in denial about how this affects me. But it is something that I have to make adjustments for all the time. I almost never leave the house, my office, etc. without trying to empty my bladder - "just in case". I keep a bottle in my car, just in case. But that's not always easy to use discreetly. Normally, if I pee just before I leave work, I have enough time to get home before experiencing another urge. But, I fear getting stuck in traffic for an extended period. And if I have to stop anywhere (the market, pharmacy, etc.), I will usually find the nearest bathroom and urinate there (I can name at least a half dozen stores that I know the bathroom locations and have used them regularly).
I often have to get up during a regular two hour meeting at work, because I need to urinate. I keep paper cups in my office. I've urinated into them (with the office door closed!) during one hour conference calls because of the urge, then discreetly poured the contents into the toilet later.
When I go to a movie, I urinate when I get to the theater, avoid drinking anything during the film, and urinate before leaving the theater.
I've been experimenting with pullups and briefs. The advantage of pullups is that I can pee normally using the toilet most of the time. But if I get the urge at an inopportune time, I can urinate into the pullup. The disadvantage is that depending on the type of pullup, I might have to change after a wetting (maybe 2 or possibly 3). That may or may not be easy to do discreetly.
Briefs are good in that they hold a lot. So, I could go a while before needing to change. But I can't really pee normally, without first having to unfasten tapes (and some briefs aren't great for refastening). So once I put on a brief, I am pretty much committed to peeing into it for most of the work day.
With OAB, it's not great having to urinate all the time. I have to constantly plan for urinating to avoid a crisis later. But it's starting to look like using pullups or briefs will still require me to plan my day - just in a different way. I am concluding that I should have a supply of both, with different absorbencies. Which one I use will depend on what is on my schedule for the day. Will I be tied up for 2-3 hours at a meeting or traveling? Will it be convenient to change out of a pullup after the meeting/trip? Or, should I put on a brief to buy extra time?
I am not an AB/DL. So it is not my goal to wear a diaper. I just want something that will work when it needs to, can be worn discreetly. And I don't want to have to change any more than absolutely necessary. So if I have no meetings scheduled, I might wear a moderate abosorbency pullup and pee normally throughout the day. I would just be wearing it to handle unforeseen situations. But if I have a two hour meeting followed by a lunch, I might either wear a higher absorbency pullup (like Abena Abri-Flex), or a brief.
Anyone else in this situation? How have you dealt with this? Do you adjust what you wear based on the situation?