Afraid to open ABDL side to DR

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I'm seeing a doctor right now through my work and as much as I want to open up about my ABDL desires I am afraid she will breach my confidentially AND or send me to hospital for having such "crazy" thoughts in her eyes. Am I overthinking this one, or does this seem like a legitimate concern?
 
I believe you are over-thinking this one. Your doctor must keep things confidential to keep her license and to build your trust. Do you believe she will risk her job to share? Doctors do not do that. I believe she will want to build your trust so that she can help you. As far as having these thoughts, the following links share a glimpse of what mental health doctors recently thought about us.

http://understanding.infantilism.org/what_is_infantilism.php
http://understanding.infantilism.org/paraphilic_infantilism.php

Your ABDL desires are not enough to make her think you are crazy and need to be in a hospital. The police, doctors, and other people can only force you into a hospital if they think you are a threat to yourself or others. Are you thinking clearly and rationally? Or are you confused enough that someone could get hurt? This is why people people get sent to hospitals. Please, read the rules for your location.

What is scary about going to a hospital? There are doctors, nurses, and technicians right there to help. Everyone wants to make things better. If you had a bad experience at one, try to go to a different one if entering a hospital is needed. For me, it was a necessary safe place to figure out what was wrong with me. I asked questions, tried to understand what was happening, and made the best of an unpleasant experience.

Yes, they have restraints in hospitals. The use of restraints is restricted even more than forcing a hospital stay. As long as a patient is compliant with the staff and not threatening harm, they cannot use the restraints. Trust me. No matter how nicely I asked, hospital staff would not restrain me. Those are only allowed when a patient is in immediate danger due to severe confusion, agitation, or depression. Polite requests do not match the criteria.

I am so glad to hear that you are seeing a doctor. You do not need to live with anxiety and depression. Best of luck! We are here for you.
 
Basically, all the Doctor will do is ask if you feel it has unhealthily affected your daily life and refer you a therapist(s) if so. If she's a therapist or psychiatrist or psychologist, it'll be the same thing, but they will try to help you control it if that's the case.
 
oh he or she could find that I'm "not fit" to take care of myself and therefore let the authorities step in. I don't trust hospitals after my last experience ended in an INJECTION/.
 
Nah. Not gonna happen unless there are other physical or mental issues that make it impossible for you to take care of yourself. Regression as a coping mechanism or for pleasure/relaxation isn't an issue, just like other habits, unless it completely interferes with your life and makes you able to not function as an adult.

You are completely over reacting, with the current information you have shared with us. I guess my question is, if he or she is just a regular medical doctor, is there a need to actually open up about it, or would it be better to ask for a referral to a therapist?
 
No psychologist in the last 15 years will take any issue with AB/DL activities. People aren't locked up for BDSM stuff so don't worry. As for them telling, they might but they won't reference you by name. You'll literally just be "some old/former patient of mine". If they break the confidentially that's strong grounds for their license to be pulled at least for a bit.
 
Well thats good to know. I have my next appointment tomorrow. If I can work up the guts I'd like to be able to open up to her about this side of me. I've heard there are actual "regression therapists" I'm wondering if maybe that might be something to look into. One of the best ways I know how to provide self comfort to myself is regressing back.
 
My doctor, a psychiatrist, didn't admit me when I told him I was AB/DL. Actually, I didn't tell him. My mom did. She was the one who sent me because of a number of things, infantalism, discovered my gay porn and I was having a psychotic break. With all of that, I was an out patient even though I saw him at a residential mental facility. It was scary, though.
 
noahVmiller said:
I've heard there are actual "regression therapists" I'm wondering if maybe that might be something to look into.

Those are mainly for people who had a past experience that's mostly traumatic that they need help getting over. Not really meant for AB/DL stuff at all.
 
To give you an idea: I have seen the same therapist for 8 years he knows I wear diapers ( as I have for 20 years) however since its nothing I have ever brought up he has no idea if I wear for ABDL or for incontinence issues. He has also never inquirer.

You will be fine talking about whatever you need with complite privacy. Worry not my friend!
 
Hi I truly think you are over thinking things as well. When I was in the hospital for my cancer the doctors and nurses helped me out in anyway they can they even helped change me when I needed to be changed. I have all kinds of medical problems. I see a doctor as well to talk to every week and I was afraid a little bit about telling him that I wear and why I wear thinking the say way you are but I spoke to someone else and they said the same thing Jeremiah said about the doctors losing the jobs and everything so please don't be affraid to say anything they are there to help and support you and to build trust with you. Once I opened up about me wearing diapers and everything the trust was much much better between me and my doctor and now I am getting lots of help with that as well. He is helping me get my diapers and working with my doctor to get all the paperwork in to the place to keep my order coming. So like I said don't ever be affraid to open up to your doctor you will feel better knowing you did it. You know after I said that to my doctor I was able to tell my family and friends about me wearing and they completely understand now why wear diapers which is a great feeling inside when you get it all out lime that. Please we are here to help and support if you need us please feel free to ask anything and make new friends here this site is an awesome site. Rob
 
Why to say about some kind of "strange vicious," if it's not something which limits/harms yourself or others ? It can bring more problems than solutions. Narrow minded people are between docs/shrinks too.
 
CrazySmoker said:
Why to say about some kind of "strange vicious," if it's not something which limits/harms yourself or others ? It can bring more problems than solutions. Narrow minded people are between docs/shrinks too.
There is a difference between Doctors/shrinks and others: obligation to treat. Medical professionals have taken an oath to first do no harm. Narrow minded people have not.

Why say something about this? Because some people (myself included) visit for depression, anxiety, and other difficulties in which we decide this information is relevant. Doctors need to know what is happening in our brains before treating. If we do not share our concerns, we are only wasting our time and theirs.

Do we have to share this? No, if it is not related. Going for help with work stress, anger management, and a number of others reasons, we may not even consider it as they may be completely seperate parts of our life. Now, a few things reach into every part of our life: anxiety and depression. Deciding what is relevant is more difficult. Some may not see it related and have decided not to share. It is an individual decision.


CrazySmoker, did you consider the possibility that anxiety and depression seriously harms and limits people. This is your test for seeking help. When AB/DL activities are a portion of the anxiety and depression, do you think it is worth mentioning? When I go to the doctor with joint concerns, I usually give background details. For example, "I think my right knee is damaged because a motorcycle fell on it." The doctor will then examine the knee, determine what is actually wrong, and then decide how to treat it. Mental health is the same way. The patient shares relevant information and the doctor provides treatment. The psychiatrists know now that the motorcycle will not magically disappear; their job is treatment.
 
Jeremiah said:
There is a difference between Doctors/shrinks and others: obligation to treat. Medical professionals have taken an oath to first do no harm. Narrow minded people have not.

Why say something about this? Because some people (myself included) visit for depression, anxiety, and other difficulties in which we decide this information is relevant. Doctors need to know what is happening in our brains before treating. If we do not share our concerns, we are only wasting our time and theirs.

Do we have to share this? No, if it is not related. Going for help with work stress, anger management, and a number of others reasons, we may not even consider it as they may be completely seperate parts of our life. Now, a few things reach into every part of our life: anxiety and depression. Deciding what is relevant is more difficult. Some may not see it related and have decided not to share. It is an individual decision.


CrazySmoker, did you consider the possibility that anxiety and depression seriously harms and limits people. This is your test for seeking help. When AB/DL activities are a portion of the anxiety and depression, do you think it is worth mentioning? When I go to the doctor with joint concerns, I usually give background details. For example, "I think my right knee is damaged because a motorcycle fell on it." The doctor will then examine the knee, determine what is actually wrong, and then decide how to treat it. Mental health is the same way. The patient shares relevant information and the doctor provides treatment. The psychiatrists know now that the motorcycle will not magically disappear; their job is treatment.

You're right about anxiety and depresoins need to treat. BUT... If you find some doc/shrink who's comrensive and not limited in ABDL world, so OK. IMHO is less % than is necesary. We've to admit the fact how low % of population is into ABDL, I think less than LGTB. It's not very frecuent and lot of docs/shrinks haven't seen any AB/DL person in whole life. Just it's my experience...
 
I don't want to pry but if your seeing a doctor for work I would hold off on sharing that info, are you because of something negative or are there for a routine thing ( security clearance..or witness to trama) if your seeking help for a private matter there's nothing wrong with telling, but if it's for a work related thing I wouldn't be so open with a lifestyle choice unless you feel obligated to tell
 
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