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    So I'm contemplating coming out to my therapist about being a DL and possibly an AB. I already told him that I think I like being a toddler but he couldn't read it and I couldn't explain it to him at the time.

    Explain that I'm not only incontinent but am a DL. I like dressing like a toddler. That I enjoy being fed baby food/snacks and being tickled, held, hugged. That the playing with other little children and on several occasions, the toys in his office, wasn't a coincidence. I also brought in toys to play along side his. I'm not interested in little children. I have a lot of similarities with my father and one of the things my father had was Peter pan syndrome, don't know if this could be relevant.

    Would it be bad to explain that aside from my professional life I rather be a toddler as oppose to just liking the memory of being a toddler? Or should I just leave it at the memories? I don't wish to stir up anything I just need to say it, safely. I want to explore it. I don't want to be creepy. I know the family I'm staying with wouldn't accept it.

    Has anybody else came out to their therapist? If you don't mind sharing, how did it go from there? If not, your thoughts are also welcome. I get anxious for I am way too sensitive boy.

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    I think if you start the talk by establishing the privacy rules that therapists practice by you should be fine. You said the family that you live with, so I'm assuming you're in some sort of placement situation, so that might effect the way this plays out.

    First, I'd do some self reflecting and determine what you want to accomplish from telling your therapist. Do you want his advice on how to stop? His affirmation that what you're doing is okay? Are you just looking for a non biased person to talk out your feelings? Do you feel like you need to stop or change in some way and you want him to help you? Going into the sessions with a plan is probably your best bet at coming out of the session feeling like you didn't make a mistake.

    Second, if you know what you want to talk about, and you're leaning toward telling him, I would make sure that there's no way your therapist could tell anyone without your specific written consent (before bringing anything sensitive up). If you're part of a foster care or halfway house program I know that sometimes seeing a therapist is mandated, and they might keep a (sealed) file on you while you are in that type of situation. Sometimes this file can be opened under specific circumstances, so educate yourself. Ask about the privacy of your sessions and if anything you say gets written down and put into a file that could be potentially exposed. On the flip side of this, you are paying for his listening skills. He might not like everything you have to say, but you're paying him to listen, and it's his job to let you talk out your feelings and thoughts, so if he's a good therapist he'll guide you in the direction you choose and provide you with someone to talk to guilt free while knowing he can't reveal your thoughts to anyone.

    There are pros and cons to telling him. You really need to make judgments based on your specific situation. If he reacts negatively, and you end up feeling uncomfortable seeing him anymore, do you have an out? Do you feel comfortable, or do you have the opportunity to replace him with another therapist and start over? It's important you think about the potential consequences.

    I want to conclude by saying that even with all my negative consequences talk, I think it's important for everyone to have someone to talk to about personal things like this. In my opinion good mental health is achieved in people who have someone they trust to act as a confidant for their secrets. So good luck, I hope it all works out for you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Airon View Post
    So I'm contemplating coming out to my therapist about being a DL and possibly an AB. I already told him that I think I like being a toddler but he couldn't read it and I couldn't explain it to him at the time.

    Explain that I'm not only incontinent but am a DL. I like dressing like a toddler. That I enjoy being fed baby food/snacks and being tickled, held, hugged. That the playing with other little children and on several occasions, the toys in his office, wasn't a coincidence. I also brought in toys to play along side his. I'm not interested in little children. I have a lot of similarities with my father and one of the things my father had was Peter pan syndrome, don't know if this could be relevant.

    Would it be bad to explain that aside from my professional life I rather be a toddler as oppose to just liking the memory of being a toddler? Or should I just leave it at the memories? I don't wish to stir up anything I just need to say it, safely. I want to explore it. I don't want to be creepy. I know the family I'm staying with wouldn't accept it.

    Has anybody else came out to their therapist? If you don't mind sharing, how did it go from there? If not, your thoughts are also welcome. I get anxious for I am way too sensitive boy.
    I had to come out to my therapist when I was in college as my mom found my stash along with gay porn. She was not a happy camper so she made an appointment for me with a psychiatrist. It all was very upsetting, especially since I was having a psychotic break at the time. So my wearing diapers and being into regression was discussed, but he thought I'd outgrow it. They really didn't know much about infantalism and regression back then, but it's surprising how many still don't know.

    This question comes up now and again and I typically ask, is regressing and wanting to be a toddler impacting negatively on your life? If you are comfortable with it and don't have feelings of guilt, and if it's not interfering with functioning as an adult, it might not be necessary to bring it up. On the other hand, it is, from what you've said, an important part of you, and perhaps a coping mechanism. Giving your therapist that information would give him/her a better understanding of you and how you function.

    If you have a good relationship with your therapist and are happy with that person, I don't see a problem in bringing it up. Because they might not know much about infantalism, you should know as much as possible. Go over in your mind what you're going to say. There's actually a good article on Wikipedia and of course, BitterGray has a very good site.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Airon View Post
    So I'm contemplating coming out to my therapist about being a DL and possibly an AB. I already told him that I think I like being a toddler but he couldn't read it and I couldn't explain it to him at the time.

    Explain that I'm not only incontinent but am a DL. I like dressing like a toddler. That I enjoy being fed baby food/snacks and being tickled, held, hugged. That the playing with other little children and on several occasions, the toys in his office, wasn't a coincidence. I also brought in toys to play along side his. I'm not interested in little children. I have a lot of similarities with my father and one of the things my father had was Peter pan syndrome, don't know if this could be relevant.

    Would it be bad to explain that aside from my professional life I rather be a toddler as oppose to just liking the memory of being a toddler? Or should I just leave it at the memories? I don't wish to stir up anything I just need to say it, safely. I want to explore it. I don't want to be creepy. I know the family I'm staying with wouldn't accept it.

    Has anybody else came out to their therapist? If you don't mind sharing, how did it go from there? If not, your thoughts are also welcome. I get anxious for I am way too sensitive boy.
    I came out to my therapist. The first day actually... she was completely understanding and told me that because it's not hurting anyone, it's not a big deal. I told her because I had no emotional attachment. I figured since I paid to be there, I shouldn't hold back.

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    This was my personal experience, maybe it will help you?

    So I was going through a mental breakdown at one point. I got word from my mom that my little brother was back in rehab due to a relapse. This is a big deal to me because I already lost my older brother to a crack overdose when he was twenty four. To have to go through it all again would just kill me. Needless to say this started affecting my performance at work big time where they eventually sent me to a therapist to get help. I had never been to one. I never liked the idea of someone prying into my personal life and thinking everything was fixable with drugs. I didn't want to be dependent on drugs most of all. The fear of the unknowing of how they would affect scared the hell out of me.

    I remember when I was driving there though, kept thinking in the back of my mind "take a Uturn, you're almost there ....screw this!". Before I knew it I was walking in the office door like a nervous wreck.

    We tackled quite a lot and def. made some connections to what was going on in my head. I continued to see her and each time it felt more right. Eventually I did tell her about the whole ab/dl thing. I don't know how I did it but it just felt like I already trusted her with so much as it is, why not go all out?

    I told her what bugged me the most is the fact I can't control these desires. As I stated I absolutely hate feeling dependent on something, letting it control me instead of vice versa. Though that issue is far too deep to handle it did help to hear from a professional level such as herself that it's pretty damn normal.

    She related it all to a "coping mechanism". It's how I deal with stress and probably explains why my ocd is through the roof. The rest of what she said is things I already knew considering I'm not exactly a moron BUT it was nice to hear her thoughts mirrored back from mine. When it comes out of the mouth of a professional such as her, it's a pretty amazing feeling.

    Basically though, we're not harming anyone. Everyone has something they do, be it behind closed doors even of how they cope with every day pressures. There's worse things you could be into as well, like rape, murder, sniffing blow off a diaper crack, slapping hoes who don't pay up. You get the idea In the end though we just gotta do what makes us happy and if it's not harming anyone then by all means don't stop. You only live once, make the most of it.

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    If it isn't harming you or anybody else, I wouldn't worry about it. If you are just needing someone non-biased such as people before have mentioned here, then I don't think that'd hurt matters any.

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    It's a good thing to do. I've infantilistically come out to three therapists (actually they were the only one's...it's not like I'm saying I've had more than 3 therapists and plz dont think such a thing where I'm concerned!) and every time it was helpful to me - also every time...it worked out and wasn't an utter disaster! Therapists can clarify for you things related to yor psykey that you wer only skirting round and wood hav continued to be badly stuck (skirting etc.) without that particular kind of help. bms

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    I think it can be good. I'm in the process right now of coming out to my psychologist, and it's hard, but good. Although my thing is feeling like I'm lying to people if I don't tell them everything, so by not telling her about my abdl/little side, I felt like I wasn't being honest with her.
    It was also something I felt like I had to share after I met my wonderful Daddy, and was talking about my relationship with him. Although it's not all about the abdl world, our relationship is definitely focused around the Daddy/daughter dynamic, something I felt I couldn't explain without talking about abdl as well.
    She had never heard of any of it before, and the first time I found it super hard to explain. Partially because it sounded stupid to me saying some of the things out loud (like even the words diaper lover for example), but also because I still don't know what being an abdl means for me personally.
    I haven't told her much yet, but it is nice to have started the conversation, and I do expect to continue to tell her things about my abdl side in the future. But I do have to admit, I probably wouldn't have embraced it without her help on other things, as I was finally able to answer the 'why' question, although that was kind of a pleasant result, not at all the goal of seeing her.
    Hope this helps, good luck!

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    I also feel like it would be lying if I didn't tell this person everything, only considering how we go about working on things. Key word "like" it would be lying.

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