SissyDLE said:
Dash,
Firstly, you need to know that I am transgender. I know quite a bit about all this as I have had to learn to survive.
Stop equating gender related stuff like a sissy fetish with sexuality. Psychologically, Gender and sexuality are unrelated. Also your sex is also unrelated:
Sex - Biological form of your body - Male / Female / Intersex
Gender - Gender is defined 'the relations between men and women, both perceptual and material. Gender is not determined biologically, as a result of sexual characteristics of either women or men, but is constructed socially. Gender is actually a spectrum and not binary as constructed socially in western cultures.
Sexuality - Who you are attracted to - Look up the work of Alfred Kinsey if you want to understand more about this.
To put this into perspective:
Sex - I am male as i have the organs of a male
Gender - I am Female - Most probably due to a hormonal imbalance in the first trimester of pregnancy. therefore., I am transgender and suffer from Gender Dysphoria due to the mismatch (In my case I am undergoing transition to sort this out)
Sexuality - I am predominantly attracted to those who are of the female sex (see above).
The Sissy fetish relates to Gender, not sex or sexuality.
in short, this is most probably hard wired and there is nothing that you can do to change it.
Am I saying you are transgender like me? No. I'm the extreme form but it is a spectrum. What we have in the Sissy fetish is threefold: A desire for something female (a transgender trait). A desire to be little - This tends to be due to upbringing. It is a desire for innocence among other things. Finally, many Sissy's wish to cede control to another and / or be humiliated. This is a Submissive trait in common with BDSM and is more related to sexuality.
Hope that helps unpack this just a little. PM me if you want to chat offline.
DLE
I have to respectfully disagree with some of this.
To me
Sissy is actually very much a
sexuality thing in that sissy is a fetish. You might have some non-sexual enjoyment of it at times like many fetishes, but sissy implies some level of fetish interest to me. If you just enjoy girlish behaviors without any sexual aspects to it, to me you are a LG, not a Sissy.
Having actual gender questions is a whole different thing, and someone can have both.. but it's still different. It can be just a fetish, a kink, and not involved in how one expresses their gender the rest of the time. So in this case, I see the "sissy fetish" far more a aspect of one's sexuality and actually not apart of their gender.
I think the OP IS expressing some non-fetish desire for feminine things, which he should understand is totally fine. Don't get me wrong, I totally agree with the intention of your post, to explore with the OP the difference between gender and sex and how one relates to them and all that.
I just have trouble with the idea that the "sissy fetish is an aspect of one's gender". I just don't want to equate sissy as something it isn't. It's not like "transgender-lite". Being sissy does not necessitate any disconnect or confusion about one's gender at all. I would also imply that enjoying being an adult male who enjoys things normally only allowed to "little girls" is fine too, and that interest in these things does not make him any less "male" and certainly has nothing to do with his interest in men or women. Being feminine does not mean liking men just like being masculine does not mean liking women. I think this is what you were trying to point out, with your post.. but I think it ended up implying other things as well.
In some way, I even disagree with the way you described sex. I'm a female. I have a penis, but I'm female. This is how terms like "assigned male at birth" started rather then "male-to-female" which in my opinion is a bit of an outdated term. Because it implies that some point in my life I "was" male and I've just become a female. No. I've just always been a female with a penis.