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Thread: I need to say this to myself. (Read at own risk)

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    Reword

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    I am not an abdl. I was merely a kid that grew up way too fast and longs for simpler times every so often. I accidentally discovered this group at an age when I was starting puberty and the only thing that draws me to the lifestyle is the pornographic side. This is a sick, unhealthy lifestyle that has no justification to be practiced by any human being. Wanting to be up young again is ok, but to sexualize babies, and small children is immoral and unhealthy. Adults can't be babies no matter how much they want to. This isn't you. Move on. Live life like a normal adult. Be healthy.

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    I don't think anyone here has a fixation on actual children. Nor do I think they sexualize babies and children. I would say that statement is what is wrong with evryone's cultural perception of ABDL/Littles etcetera. I think being one's self is the healthiest thing anyone can do.
    And if that means I'm happy to wear a diaper with teddy bears and balloons on it, and listen to lullabies - well frankly that is not hurting anyone. Furthermore I do not relate myself to real children at all.
    What is "unhealthy" is to think so poorly of yourself and others.
    I would also recommend that if you think we should "move on" you "move on" as well, and off of the site.

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    If you don't mind me asking -- You have a posting history here. It's not like you signed up to this website just to cast a quick judgement or cast everyone on this website into one mold and maybe make reference to religious or biblical damnation. Surely you should realize from your time and interaction with posting members here that there is much more going on here, moreover, that this isn't some shady website.

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    For some people being an adult baby is sexual, for others it is not. But it is NOT the same as having sexual feelings toward children or wanting to do sexual things with children.

    You say that what draws you to this lifestyle is the ''pornographic side,'' but then you say this is a ''sick, unhealthy lifestyle.'' That's a bit of a contradiction. You also state that we should ''live life like a normal adult,'' but that ''wanting to be young again is ok.'' To me it sounds like you're frustrated and angry with yourself for having babyish desires.

    Like GlitteredArtist said, being ab hurts no one, and frankly life is too short to not do what makes us happy just because some people might not understand.

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    I can't speak for everyone, but for me (and every AB/DL I've spoken to), being an AB has absolutely no connection to sexualising children. I actually think people in this community are more aware and protective of childrens' innocence and against that innocence being sexually (or otherwise) exploited than anyone else.

    That appreciation of innocence is key to why being an AB/little is such a comfort for many of us. As for diaper wearing, that isn't anything to do with sexualising children either. It's to do with the fact that wearing them feels nice (just as some people enjoy wearing leather, for example), and helps one to get into a more relaxed mindset. Some people like messing, which I don't personally see the appeal of, but again, it has nothing to do with sexualising children.

    I've never thought that AB was to do with seeing children or babies in a sexual way. I find the concept disgusting. I also don't see any issue with being an AB, especially if you feel content and stress-free by doing so. I think for some of us, we do feel guilty and ashamed, but I think the vast majority of ABs think and act in a way which doesn't harm anyone else, and isn't morally wrong. Unfortunately, I think society still promotes shame for acting in ways which aren't the social norm, but that doesn't mean that there's always a good reason for feeling guilty about those behaviours - being an AB/Little/Ageplayer being a case in point.
    Last edited by Sanch; 28-Sep-2014 at 15:02. Reason: Re-read the original post and wanted to add a few things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Reword View Post
    I am not an abdl. I was merely a kid that grew up way too fast and longs for simpler times every so often. I accidentally discovered this group at an age when I was starting puberty and the only thing that draws me to the lifestyle is the pornographic side. This is a sick, unhealthy lifestyle that has no justification to be practiced by any human being. Wanting to be up young again is ok, but to sexualize babies, and small children is immoral and unhealthy. Adults can't be babies no matter how much they want to. This isn't you. Move on. Live life like a normal adult. Be healthy.
    Also, I'd like to point out, (Because it sounds like we have similar worldviews.) that just because the thing draws YOU to this "lifestyle" is the pornographic side, that doesn't mean you can (reasonably) condemn all of it. If diaper porn bothers you, don't go on tumblr, and put a blocker on your computer.

    But, don't tell me to live life like a "normal" adult. That's not a Christian response to the "problem." A problem that IS a problem because no one in church will ever be able to understand or help with it.

    This is me, this is healthy. God loves me. Have a good day.

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    BrandonSleepypuppy

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    I saw the thread title and saw a call for help. It is not with real children and the
    actions are ussually private and alone despite what one sees on youtube and dprtube.
    It is important to know the SEPERATION of these two types in your body and mind.
    when first trying you might mix them. But there is nothing wrong and you are not
    hurting anyone at all even to the slightest. your just merely acting a little diffrent
    trying to find a smaller younger side

    PLEASE READ THIS!!-- the site is shut down due to some idiots forcing it to the floor,
    but I got it on digital time capsule. It was one of the BIGGEST BEST ABDL support
    sites ever. Had a lot of people like you cofused on the balance *which is entirely normal*

    I BEG OF YOU READ THIS. http://web.archive.org/web/201011191...urning-points/ YOU WILL SOON UNDERSTAND.

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    You are looking for justification for acting on these desires but, unfortunately, we here have not yet been able to agree on just who is in charge of justification on this planet. In the meantime we just pretty much go along with the artificial justification found in the absence of laws to the contrary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Reword View Post
    I am not an abdl. I was merely a kid that grew up way too fast and longs for simpler times every so often. I accidentally discovered this group at an age when I was starting puberty and the only thing that draws me to the lifestyle is the pornographic side. This is a sick, unhealthy lifestyle that has no justification to be practiced by any human being. Wanting to be up young again is ok, but to sexualize babies, and small children is immoral and unhealthy. Adults can't be babies no matter how much they want to. This isn't you. Move on. Live life like a normal adult. Be healthy.
    Hey there Reword,

    I hear you. I've said the same thing myself many, many times. For a good fourteen years, I bounced between wanting to be a baby and being disgusted with myself for my interests. That's the tension we all know so well; so many of us hate this part of ourselves, but it just keeps coming back. I managed to not wear a diaper or regress for a year and a half, but it didn't do anything for the constant flood of wanting to.

    The truth is, we will keep drifting back to these thoughts. The number of ABDLs who have stopped having their desires is astronomically low. But there will be days like this, when you loathe this part of yourself with every part of your being. Why does that happen? I think it can come from two places: comparing ourselves to what others think, and fearing that we may actually be deeply unhealthy.

    You seem very worried about the second point; that being ABDL may be sexualizing babies and small children. If that's true, then it's wrong and disgusting, and I don't think anyone here would disagree. But is it? Does being an ABDL mean sexualizing babies? While everyone has to ask that question of themselves, I can say for myself that it isn't. To me, being an AB is returning to an idealized childhood, and feeling safe, loved, and expressing a special part of myself. That isn't sexual at all. There's also a part of me that is DL, which means that I get sexually excited by being an adult who is caught or forced into diapers. Not by children. So speaking for myself, ABDL isn't about sexualizing children or babies. Everyone must search their own hearts on this, but I think the vast majority are like me. ABDL isn't wrong or immoral. It doesn't inherently make a person a pervert, and the vast majority of us aren't perverts. We simply have unusual desires that other people confuse.

    And that leads into the second reason why people might hate themselves. We compare ourselves to society and what other people do. It's clear that most outsiders don't like ABDL - but if you listen to reasons why, they have no basis in reality. I was found out by my parents, and they tried to tell me that it was immoral and wrong because it could affect my job (as though I'd wear diapers to work!), it looked weird (see above), and it just wasn't 'healthy' (when accepting myself has done a ton for my well-being and self-acceptance, more than fighting myself ever did). The truth is, everyone is weird in some way or another. Our oddity happens to be out there, but everyone has something unusual about themselves. And trying to deny who you are brings a lot of heartache. I know that firsthand, as do most of us who spent a long time repressing our ABDL sides.

    All this is to say that yes, I do understand what you're saying, and I don't fault you for thinking it. I do think, though, that it would be helpful for you to look at why you feel the way you do. You've given reasons why ABDL is wrong - it's sick and unhealthy, it sexualizes people who shouldn't be, adults can't be babies - but look into those reasons a bit deeper. Are they true for you? If ABDL is affecting your health, it would be wise to set limits on it, or talk to some of the wiser members on here about how to find balance (most therapists have no idea about ABDL). If ABDL is actually a sort of pedophilia for you (that is, it leads you to sexual thoughts about children), then you've been most courageous in speaking up, and should talk to a psychologist if possible - because ABDL isn't the problem here. And if you're feeling wrong because adults can't become babies, then accept that as true. We can't. But we can pretend, and get in touch with some important feelings in doing so.

    Overall, it's OK to feel the way you do. But question the assumptions that led to those feelings. You may find yourself much happier and more secure if you do. And if you want to talk further, please reply, or send me a PM if you want to talk in private.

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    Reword

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    I'm not saying this lifestyle involves pedophilia. Especially when you all want to be the child I get that, but I still believe that psychologically it is very unhealthy for a grown adult to act like a helpless baby. I see the appeal but it just isn't a healthy practice.

    Now, what is immoral and wrong are daddy and little relationships that are highly sexual. (warning nsfw) there are pictures of women practicing oral sex with a male and the caption states, "my baby girl is hungry so daddy is feeding her". This is role playing incest and incest is frowned upon by all modern society and any sane human being. I see no way in justifying this highly immoral sexual role playing and I would be pleased if you could prove me wrong.

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