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Thread: Effect of childhood on AB?

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    Default Effect of childhood on AB?

    I'm curious to know if there is any correlation in childhood experiences and AB or DL tendancies in adults. Specifically, do you tick any of the following boxes:

    * Only child (or enough of a gap between you and siblings that you weren't in competition for parental attention?
    *Dominant mother (or perhaps other dominant female authority figures growing up)?
    *Had more than average amount of pressure to succeed at a young age (military involvement, public/grammar school, high achieving peers, etc)?
    *Spent a lot of time alone (either due to lack of interest in socialising or a lack of skills)?

    The above are all characteristics I've noticed in people I've known with AB/DL interests, so I'm interested in whether they are shared traits with people here?

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    I don't think there would be too much correlation. It probably has to do with sensory experiences, possibly even ones that we don't entirely remember. I remember fantasizing about diapers when I was three years old.

    That being said I did spend a lot of time by myself because other kids treated me like crap. I wasn't interested in sports or outdoor activities except riding my bike.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HouseGirl View Post
    I'm curious to know if there is any correlation in childhood experiences and AB or DL tendancies in adults. Specifically, do you tick any of the following boxes:

    * Only child (or enough of a gap between you and siblings that you weren't in competition for parental attention?
    *Dominant mother (or perhaps other dominant female authority figures growing up)?
    *Had more than average amount of pressure to succeed at a young age (military involvement, public/grammar school, high achieving peers, etc)?
    *Spent a lot of time alone (either due to lack of interest in socialising or a lack of skills)?

    The above are all characteristics I've noticed in people I've known with AB/DL interests, so I'm interested in whether they are shared traits with people here?
    I would identify with the first 3. Growing up, I didn't feel like I isolated myself but now in my adult life, I do feel lonely.

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    Although I'm sure there are people for whom these apply, in general they seem like plot points for a Diaper Fiction story, to be honest. I don't think the environment's impact on the development of the brain is that straightforward at all.

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    To be honest I cannot relate to any unfortunately.

    I have two brother, we are all aged six years apart, my mother was very caring and not overly authoritative, my parents were not to bothered about school so long as you passed and I had lots of friends and a social life since I can remember.

    I agree with Bart, it is very early experiences I had that led to the way I am, I can almost trace it back to one experience I had when I was four. Good thread though.

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    Yeah. I was the oldest of three, all very close in age (barely more than a year between each of us). My parents were very liberal socially and politically. They didn't even have a problem with me smoking pot when I was a kid, because my dad smoked too. They weren't even freaked out when they found out about me being ABDL.

    I was the overachiever of the family, gettings A's in everything but math and gym class. But the pressure was something I put on myself; my parents would have loved me if I'd been a slacker.

    Like I said though, I was never very good at socializing with other kids and I had maybe two or three good friends growing up. I think my Asperger's affected my neural and sexual development but I couldn't tell you to what extent without it being merely speculation.
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    I identify with the first and last one. My half brother and I were almost 12 years apart, and he left the house when I was about 7. Secondly, I was homeschooled, and got pretty much no interaction with other children. My days have always been spent with my mother.

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    For for the purposes of your informal inquiries, I can check off box 1 (only sibling six years older than me, so big difference), box 3, and box 4.

    That being said I have to share this post by Zeek. I think this cleared up a lot of my own confusion about the purposes of psychological diagnoses in general and the way ABDLism fits into the world of psychology. I'm starting to think questions like these, which I would have been all over in the past, make little difference.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HouseGirl View Post
    I'm curious to know if there is any correlation in childhood experiences and AB or DL tendancies in adults. Specifically, do you tick any of the following boxes:

    * Only child (or enough of a gap between you and siblings that you weren't in competition for parental attention?
    *Dominant mother (or perhaps other dominant female authority figures growing up)?
    *Had more than average amount of pressure to succeed at a young age (military involvement, public/grammar school, high achieving peers, etc)?
    *Spent a lot of time alone (either due to lack of interest in socialising or a lack of skills)?

    The above are all characteristics I've noticed in people I've known with AB/DL interests, so I'm interested in whether they are shared traits with people here?
    OK so boxes:

    I have a sister 2.5 years younger than me - I don't recall feeling like there was a huge competition for parental love, but I'm the eldest... if you asked her she'd probably tell you I was hogging the attention ;-)

    IDK what the definition of "dominant mother" is... my mother was a stay-at-home-mum until I was 10, and my dad was a commuter who worked long hours so I saw an awful lot more of her than him... as for other female authority figures, I'd say most of the authority figures in the lives of most people under 18 are probably women, given that women do the majority of work relating to children and young people. I'm not sure how you tie this question to being ABDL? Maybe some would connect it with being a "sissy" or an "LG" but I don't see it myself.

    I think I had a more than average amount of expectation that I would succeed... which is not the same thing. I'm a boy, I'm white, my parents were well educated and I grew up in the 1990s... I think most people involved in my education assumed based on that - regardless of their estimation of my individual talents - that I would be above average in educational achievement. Ironically having people assume that I was "clever" made it very hard to ask for help or to accept inevitable failure that is part of the learning process.

    I did spend a lot of time alone... I'm an introvert, as a younger kid I was very outgoing but I definitely needed my recharging time, after the age of 9 or 10 I didn't fit in very well for reasons to complex to examine here so I became more isolated.

    I guess I score 2/4? A lot of people I'm friends with could score 2/4 or 3/4 on these and they aren't ABDLs...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frogsy View Post
    I'm starting to think questions like these, which I would have been all over in the past, make little difference.
    Same.

    I would be more interested in the question "What effect did being ABDL have on your childhood?" I think we have to treat being ABDL as a given in our lives - for me at least it's something I've been carrying with my since I was 4 or 5 in some form or another, although I didn't know it was something with a name that I shared with others till I was 13.

    I think it did make me more secretive, growing up with something that while I didn't feel ashamed of it, certainly wasn't something I could comfortably share with anyone else and expect them to understand.

    What do other people think about that? Did you ever find yourself pushing people away in case they found your deep dark secret?

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