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    Unhappy Nearly caught. Completely stressed out.

    I have been hiding my adult baby activities since I was thirteen years old with only a few minor hiccups along the way. I have never told anyone and thankfully never had to explain this to anyone before.
    Two days ago a mutual friend between my sister and I approached me in front of a group of our friends and informed me that my sister had given her boyfriend a small memory card that she found in my room. This memory card contained a lot of pictures of women in nappies. He asked me if I knew anything about it and naturally I said no, claiming that I had a number of phones in my bedroom that didn't belong to me. I don't know how believable I was but conversation seemed to move on in the group swiftly enough which I am thankful for. The problem now is mostly with myself. I can't stop thinking about what this could mean. There is a strong possibility that rumors will circulate and I cannot bear to think of what affect they could have on me.
    Please help me. I don't know what top do except lay low until this possibly blows over. I am stressed out and I can't stop worrying.......I guess the bottom line is that I'm scared.

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    Oh wow man, that really sucks. I've always been paranoid about the people in my city knowing little secrets about me that I've told ex-friends and it eats me up inside. I can only imagine what it would feel like to be in your situation.

    But speculation does not affect you directly, we're only beating ourselves up by constantly worrying about such things. Until you know for sure they know that card was yours and have spread the word around, chances are it's not the case. Hopefully the issue just dies out.

    Feel better dude, don't let it get you down.

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    I'm trying my best to quiet my mind about it. I take comfort that he brought it up in front of people, I assume that means he already had his doubts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mouse View Post
    I don't know what top do except lay low until this possibly blows over.
    If you intend to keep your AB/DL side a secret, than laying low could be the best option. Often when situations like this occur, the mind runs through all the scenarios that could arise. Sometimes these scenarios spin around in the mind and the situation gets bigger.. and bigger and bigger.. and this causes more and more distress towards the person thinking about it.

    What we need to understand is that such consequences you listed (i.e circulating rumours) have a tiny chance, if any, of actually happening. As most people are not into wearing diapers, the views of your mutual friend, and the group of friends will significantly differ to yours. To us, the subject of diapers linger in the mind, we think about it every day and it is something close to us. But to everyone else, it is just an underwear babies and old people wear.

    If I was to see a photo of something sexual I was not into .for example.. a woman engaging in golden showers or scat, I would think to myself 'oo thats werid..' and after a short period of time, I wouldn't even remember what happened. It wouldn't stick in my brain, because there is no emotional connection to what the woman is doing in the photo and my real life desires/interests.

    So in conclusion, don't worry. I know this is easier said than done, but you gave your story that it wasn't your phone, and they have no reason to believe that you downloaded these images of diapered women. And as you said, the conversation moved on.

    Just assume its not going to happen. Go for a walk and clear your mind. Hell, even wear a diaper and relax!

    I hope everything works out-

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    Quote Originally Posted by RouteLeader View Post
    If you intend to keep your AB/DL side a secret, than laying low could be the best option. Often when situations like this occur, the mind runs through all the scenarios that could arise. Sometimes these scenarios spin around in the mind and the situation gets bigger.. and bigger and bigger.. and this causes more and more distress towards the person thinking about it.

    What we need to understand is that such consequences you listed (i.e circulating rumours) have a tiny chance, if any, of actually happening. As most people are not into wearing diapers, the views of your mutual friend, and the group of friends will significantly differ to yours. To us, the subject of diapers linger in the mind, we think about it every day and it is something close to us. But to everyone else, it is just an underwear babies and old people wear.

    If I was to see a photo of something sexual I was not into .for example.. a woman engaging in golden showers or scat, I would think to myself 'oo thats werid..' and after a short period of time, I wouldn't even remember what happened. It wouldn't stick in my brain, because there is no emotional connection to what the woman is doing in the photo and my real life desires/interests.

    So in conclusion, don't worry. I know this is easier said than done, but you gave your story that it wasn't your phone, and they have no reason to believe that you downloaded these images of diapered women. And as you said, the conversation moved on.

    Just assume its not going to happen. Go for a walk and clear your mind. Hell, even wear a diaper and relax!

    I hope everything works out-
    Well said. To add to this, even if your friend true to start a rumor for whatever rain, it'll be easy enough to deny. If someone tries to claim you're looking at girls in diapers, it would be easy to say, "Riiiight, girls in diapers. Good one, guys! So, what creepy website did you use to find those?" Just deny, because it's easy enough to direct such a wild accusation. Good luck, and hopefully nothing comes of it!

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    when i was like 13 or 14 I once wore a diaper to a friends house and showed him i was wearing it, as a way of telling him but i played it off more or less to see how he would react to something so wierd, at first it seemed ok but then he teased me about it a couple times, then like a month later mentioned it in front of me to another one of our friends and i denied it. i repeatedly denied that it ever happened, and within a week it was forgotten. years later my friend brought it up again and i still denied it and he then responded as if it may have been a dream to him. Nowadays im sure its almost completely forgotten, but if the same situation arose again where if someone was to ask me specifically i would tell them, if they freaked out i would tell them "hey, you wanted to know."
    You can't let the situation cause you too much stress and get the better of you. If it doesn't pass over after a while you may consider talking to the person privately this time and explain it to them and how you don't want the whole world or your sister to know. If they are a true friend they should be understanding and able to keep this a secret between you and them, and if they don't you can always continue to deny it like you have been, after all only they would know and who's gonna believe them now if they havent already.

    There's also the route of coming to terms with it and accepting who you are. You shouldn't have to fear your AB/DL side, and likely there's nothing to fear about a few people knowing, if more people knew an AB or DL IRL then they wouldn't think of it to be such an out of the ordinary thing. Naturally, if someone doesn't have the same interest its gonna seem weird to them, but that's just their opinion of it, they dont have to like it but they shouldnt hate you for it and you shouldnt be ridiculed for it. I.E. Im not into sports(as in football and baseball) and i think that its weird and even stupid as hell that people would spend hundreds of dollars for memorabilia or skip school or work so they can see the game. I don't like to talk sports with people, and i really dont even like to be around people when they talk about sports, sometimes you dont get a choice though thats a part of life. I dont hate the people and go around trying to make them feel stupid about it. Thats their interest and their life, not mine, and i have no business trying to convince them that they're stupid or wasting their life. If i did try and make them see things my way, then they'd be just as entitled to try and make me see things their way. It's ok to be open about your interests and opinions, but its not ok to try and force them on others. People don't all enjoy the same things, but we're not bad or wrong for being different. Don't fear what others might think of you, who are they to judge. Just be yourself and do whatever it takes to be happy.

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    In all honesty somone who is close to you weather it be family or friends is very likely to find out you wear diapers. Sorry... I mean I am not saying it's going to happen but what I am saying is to be prepared for it, My mom found out my secret and she flipped a new one... hahahaah she got over it a few months later I just think she felt like she didn't know me or something after she found out. Stay yourself things will work out don't worry too much about being caught. It's not like you have killed somone, you just like to wear padded underwear (among other things possibly) I support your derision and I don't even know you

    -Cheers

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    I leant an external hard drive to a friend a few years ago, when he gave it back I realised that there was some diaper pics in the root directory. Luckily he is pretty conservative and didn't mention anything, I'm sure he must have seen them though and it freaked me out a bit at the time.

    Unfortunately as this is a misunderstood and misrepresented thing we have to live with these problems occasionally :/

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    Chances are they won't find out. If they do, chances are they won't tell anyone, it'll be like "ok, I found porn on it, doot dee doo..."

    By the way, if anyone mentions it to you later, the strategy that worked for me was playing it off as just another weird sexual fetish. Even if it isn't all that sexual. When my mom mentioned that she knew about the whole diaper thing, I basically said "and you're saying you've never had your own sexual fetish before? As if you didn't expect that your introverted teenage son doesn't have odd likes and dislikes in his nonexistent sex life? No, I don't do it outside of home when no one's around, and I certainly won't do it when I have a roommate in college. Treat this like you found my porno stash".

    Somehow, people react better if you play it off as porn than if you try to justify something weird.

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