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    Yesterday i ended up on a date with a girl who is kind and she loves to smile. I look forward to seeing her again. The good news that i cant tell her is, my diaper did fine through the date and all was well on that part. If it goes farther and turns into a relationship, at some point im gonna have to tell her that which i fear to.

    So today i dont fret over it, but one day i may have to.

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    congrats, keep positive and all will work out as it should!

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    Everyone has wierdnesses and defects that have to come out as relationships develop. You do, she does, I do, everybody does.

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    Whilst it doesn't help if it goes wrong:

    if you're an interesting, honest person, and she isn't an ignorant one - then your "problem" will not be a problem.

    Trust me, I'm incontinent & a bedwetter... so that "secret" had to be shared very early on in my relationship. And sure, I was "afraid" she might take it wrond and run away... but you know what? it's been over ten years and we're still together, loving, respecting, having lots of fun

    I think there's a few things to consider:

    - how to YOU approach the subject... make a VERY big deal out of it and it will be a very big deal to deal with...
    - hiding... is bad. That's about trust - and hiding it invokes mistrust...
    - Be "mature" about it... afterall if you're IC, it's medical.

    The following is "personal" (depending on your IC / needs) but the basic idea is "universal" I guess
    I'm moderatly day-time incon (I dribble, like mostly - but small quantities... and sometimes have an "accident" (can't hold it for far too long), need frequent bathroom breaks...) and I'm a bedwetter (I wet like 5 out of 7 nights or more... rarely less.
    Meds are a problem (yes I've been to countless specialists over the years) mostly because of the side effects and the effectiveness. so absorbent products are my best help.
    What I already do is to keep a watch on my fluid intake... (I keep well hydrated, but don't "over-drink"... I stay away from caffeinated beverages and sodas, most of the time from alcohol too... I watch what I eat, etc... all that can have a huge impact on the severeness of your IC - again, depending on what you have).
    With that in mind:

    I'm DISCRETE ABOUT IT...
    -No one, will know that I'm Incontinent/Bedwetting unless they're really really close to my daily life routine or have to sleep in the same room (and even then...).
    -I wear discrete products during the day (pads, pull-ups or thin diapers if I have to travel for longer distances) and change frequently (health, smell,... general hygien)
    - During the night I wear a moderate diaper... not something that makes me look completely weird and waddling / spreading my legs. I WEAR BOXER SHORTS OVER the diapers.
    - I'm clean and take great care of my hygiene (and shape ).
    - I don't let my Incontenince products lying around and I trash discretely.

    The things this: I lead a normal day-to-day active life, I go on hikes, ride cycles, motorcycles, do sports, go out with friends.... I don't let my IC get into my way most of the times...

    I don't make a big deal out of it in front of my girlfriend...
    But I try not to wave it around.
    I guess it's about the same as she with her feminine hygineic products (pads / tampons) - I know she uses them, I know where they are, I buy them for her if she needs some and I'm out shopping... but I rarely see her make use of them (why would I).... and I think it should be the same with Incontinence products.

    if you're willing to make an effort, that your IC doesn't get "in the way" of your life... and try to not be a pushy DL or AB or wahtever I think there's nothing to worry.

    if she's anything like a "mature person" - then it will not be an issue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sihcara View Post
    Yesterday i ended up on a date with a girl who is kind and she loves to smile. I look forward to seeing her again. The good news that i cant tell her is, my diaper did fine through the date and all was well on that part. If it goes farther and turns into a relationship, at some point im gonna have to tell her that which i fear to.

    So today i dont fret over it, but one day i may have to.
    Are you IC? Or ABDL? Or both?

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