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    Question How did you know?

    Okay, so I am totally new here. Only been reading posts on here for about an hour.

    How did you guys/gals know that you were a DL? I am having some issues coming to terms with the possibility of this. (Not that there is anything wrong with being an AB/DL) I have had some incon issues over the years off and on. Primarily stress wetting issues that started at about age 13-14.

    Where it starts to get hairy is the fact that I started hitting puberty while I was back in diapers. Meaning, I started to, do what I now know to be masturbating, while I was diapered. I still do this occasionally, but now I just still like to wear and pee in them.

    I don't know if its a comfort/convenience thing. I mean I do still have some wetting issues when my body gets overly stressed out, like finals week (Been swimming for a week).

    I don't do anything else besides the "diaper play", so I know its not "infantilism" or anything too far like that. The only ones I get turned on seeing in a diaper is myself or my fiance.

    That being mentioned, yes my fiance knows that I have to wear diapers because of my wetting issues. Yes has seen me like that. Another set of hands when you can get them is a big help/makes it easier when trying to deal with multiple tabs. She is amazing and supporting about all of it. She acknowledges that I get "excited" around my own diapers. (Not like with kids or anything. Just, no.) She is alright with it, as long as things don't get too out of hand. In other words, if the bottles and pacifers start to enter the bedroom, I told her to get me help and she agreed.

    So I guess my question is, do I bite the bullet on this and accept it?

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    Yes I would encourage you to have fun with your boyfriend and explore your interests. There are several threads that you might want to check out for reference as it looks like you may be a new member, welcome.

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    I became AB before I became DL, so I guess I'll tell both:

    I realized I was an AB literally the first time I masturbated. A fantasy about an "early bloomer" in my biology class quickly turned into me breast feeding and becoming regressed. It's kind of ironic really, because nowadays breast feeding isn't that much of a turn on for me. I think it just turned out that way because I hadn't ever seriously considered or thought about anything along the lines of AB/DL before...so since naturally breast feeding is somewhat connected with normal sexual activity, it came to mind.

    Generally though I still didn't really think about diapers very much for some time...mostly more innocent age regression fantasies. Eventually though, both because of the diaper-centric nature of a lot of AB/DL porno (which I typically don't search out), and because erotic literature tended to talk about wetting/messing, I got really into diapers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KidFlashed View Post
    Okay, so I am totally new here. Only been reading posts on here for about an hour.

    How did you guys/gals know that you were a DL? I am having some issues coming to terms with the possibility of this. (Not that there is anything wrong with being an AB/DL) I have had some incon issues over the years off and on. Primarily stress wetting issues that started at about age 13-14.

    Where it starts to get hairy is the fact that I started hitting puberty while I was back in diapers. Meaning, I started to, do what I now know to be masturbating, while I was diapered. I still do this occasionally, but now I just still like to wear and pee in them.

    I don't know if its a comfort/convenience thing. I mean I do still have some wetting issues when my body gets overly stressed out, like finals week (Been swimming for a week).

    I don't do anything else besides the "diaper play", so I know its not "infantilism" or anything too far like that. The only ones I get turned on seeing in a diaper is myself or my fiance.

    That being mentioned, yes my fiance knows that I have to wear diapers because of my wetting issues. Yes has seen me like that. Another set of hands when you can get them is a big help/makes it easier when trying to deal with multiple tabs. She is amazing and supporting about all of it. She acknowledges that I get "excited" around my own diapers. (Not like with kids or anything. Just, no.) She is alright with it, as long as things don't get too out of hand. In other words, if the bottles and pacifers start to enter the bedroom, I told her to get me help and she agreed.

    So I guess my question is, do I bite the bullet on this and accept it?
    Short answer: yes, you should accept it. Longer rambling is below.

    It sounds like you're in a slightly different situation than some, in that you already wear diapers occasionally and are trying to come to terms with the fact that you like wearing them. It seems like most people here (myself included) start out with a desire to wear diapers when they don't "need" them, and have to come to terms with that before they get over the guilt and shame from wearing them. Based on what you've written, it sounds like you had to wear them, and came to like them from that. That's somewhat common among posters here who suffer from IC, at least from what I can tell, so you're not alone in that.

    One the plus side, you have a fiance who knows about the diapers and seems accepting of them. Telling SOs can cause a lot of stress for people, but it sounds like you won't have that problem. In fact, she can probably help you come to terms with this.

    In terms of general acceptance there is an article on the site that might be helpful to look at:

    https://www.adisc.org/forum/content/...er-fetish.html

    Also, why does enjoying wearing diapers bother you? I'm not entirely sure I could answer that question myself, but it might be worth thinking about.

    Another site that you might be interesting in looking at is Understanding Infantilism. While it does have "Infantilism" in the title, which you've said you're not interested, it also discusses DLs. I'm not sure if you've noticed, but there are lots of terms (AB, DL, paraphilic infantilism, diaper fetishism) that all have slightly different meanings. There's even a recent thread about exactly this topic that you might be interested in.

    Generally, however, AB activities are not sexual in nature (broadly speaking - of course there are exceptions), and DL activities may or may not be. Being an AB is generally more about entering a different (non-sexual) mindset by using regressed/childish behaviors. That may not be a perfect explanation, but I think it's a start.

    All of that said, everyone is different. Personally I think I look ridiculous wearing a diaper (but still like wearing one), so I don't really get turned on by seeing anyone in a diaper. I've only recently started to understand the AB side of things, but it's beginning to make sense. About the only thing that everyone has in common on this site is wearing/liking diapers for some reason, and even that's not universal.

    Also, none of this involves actual children. It's a common misconception (or something that we fear is a common misconception - I'm not actually sure how common it is), but even though there are a lot things associated with children involved in ABDL activities, children are not involved, and everyone here is very quick to criticize/judge/condemn anyone who does involve children. An adult engaging in these activities should only involve other adults. There are a lot of teen members, but that's why the site has a strict PG-13 policy, and teens interacting with adults outside the site is highly discouraged or prohibited.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittleAcorn View Post
    Short answer: yes, you should accept it. Longer rambling is below.

    It sounds like you're in a slightly different situation than some, in that you already wear diapers occasionally and are trying to come to terms with the fact that you like wearing them. It seems like most people here (myself included) start out with a desire to wear diapers when they don't "need" them, and have to come to terms with that before they get over the guilt and shame from wearing them. Based on what you've written, it sounds like you had to wear them, and came to like them from that. That's somewhat common among posters here who suffer from IC, at least from what I can tell, so you're not alone in that.

    One the plus side, you have a fiance who knows about the diapers and seems accepting of them. Telling SOs can cause a lot of stress for people, but it sounds like you won't have that problem. In fact, she can probably help you come to terms with this.

    In terms of general acceptance there is an article on the site that might be helpful to look at:

    https://www.adisc.org/forum/content/...er-fetish.html

    Also, why does enjoying wearing diapers bother you? I'm not entirely sure I could answer that question myself, but it might be worth thinking about.

    Another site that you might be interesting in looking at is Understanding Infantilism. While it does have "Infantilism" in the title, which you've said you're not interested, it also discusses DLs. I'm not sure if you've noticed, but there are lots of terms (AB, DL, paraphilic infantilism, diaper fetishism) that all have slightly different meanings. There's even a recent thread about exactly this topic that you might be interested in.

    Generally, however, AB activities are not sexual in nature (broadly speaking - of course there are exceptions), and DL activities may or may not be. Being an AB is generally more about entering a different (non-sexual) mindset by using regressed/childish behaviors. That may not be a perfect explanation, but I think it's a start.

    All of that said, everyone is different. Personally I think I look ridiculous wearing a diaper (but still like wearing one), so I don't really get turned on by seeing anyone in a diaper. I've only recently started to understand the AB side of things, but it's beginning to make sense. About the only thing that everyone has in common on this site is wearing/liking diapers for some reason, and even that's not universal.

    Also, none of this involves actual children. It's a common misconception (or something that we fear is a common misconception - I'm not actually sure how common it is), but even though there are a lot things associated with children involved in ABDL activities, children are not involved, and everyone here is very quick to criticize/judge/condemn anyone who does involve children. An adult engaging in these activities should only involve other adults. There are a lot of teen members, but that's why the site has a strict PG-13 policy, and teens interacting with adults outside the site is highly discouraged or prohibited.
    Wow. Littleacorn, thank you so much from truly taking the time to give me a an awesome reply. That post by Moo about accepting things, honestly helped SOOO much!

    As to why it bothers me, its just not a normal thing. Not that anything about me is normal. (lol) I guess I have just tried to avoid wearing diapers for more than the wetting issues in the past, and it doesnt last long. I know that there is nothing wrong with it now, I just didnt want to admit it to myself.

    I guess I also had a negative connotation with the AB/DL community. I used to post on the Goodnights and Depends forum boards and when we encountered an AB/DL on there, it was always just someone wanting people to tell them that they needed diapers or other things like that. So, you can see why I tried to avoid that title.

    Another thing is that I am a college student who is majoring in Psychology and wants to do counseling. So it has me wondering about the psychological side of AB/DL/Infantilism. I mean, I know that I wasnt potty trained until age 3 and had some wetting issues on and off after that, but I dont have any parental neglect/abandonment issues or what might be viewed as usual causes in these type of scenarios. So, I dont know. lol

    My fiance is starting to get into the diaper play a little bit with me. She likes to play with me in them, but I think she does that mainly so that she can enjoy ripping the diaper off to claim her prize. LOL

    So all of this being said, I am coming to terms that I like to wear diapers and that I am not alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KidFlashed View Post
    Wow. Littleacorn, thank you so much from truly taking the time to give me a an awesome reply. That post by Moo about accepting things, honestly helped SOOO much!
    Glad to help - other people here have helped me a lot, so it's the least I can do.



    Quote Originally Posted by KidFlashed View Post
    As to why it bothers me, its just not a normal thing. Not that anything about me is normal. (lol) I guess I have just tried to avoid wearing diapers for more than the wetting issues in the past, and it doesnt last long. I know that there is nothing wrong with it now, I just didnt want to admit it to myself.
    Yeah, that's a familiar feeling. It sounds sort of like a binge/purge cycle. I kind of go through the same thing - sometimes I my attitude is "I like diapers and it's ok," and sometimes it's "diapers? really? that's weird." While I've never actually binged or purged, I think the mental aspects are similar. Posting here has certainly helped me realize that a lot of other ABDLs are normal, relatively well-adjusted people, which has helped - I think the acceptance article mentions that).

    There's an article about the binge/purge cycle, too:

    https://www.adisc.org/forum/content/...rge-cycle.html

    Actually, all of the articles are good, so it might be worth browsing through them if you haven't already.



    Quote Originally Posted by KidFlashed View Post
    I guess I also had a negative connotation with the AB/DL community. I used to post on the Goodnights and Depends forum boards and when we encountered an AB/DL on there, it was always just someone wanting people to tell them that they needed diapers or other things like that. So, you can see why I tried to avoid that title.
    Any community is going to have some weirdos. Trolling other forums is frowned upon here, and would probably get one banned. There are actually a few threads in the IC forum about the relationship between AB/DL and IC communities/forums that might be interesting to check out.



    Quote Originally Posted by KidFlashed View Post
    Another thing is that I am a college student who is majoring in Psychology and wants to do counseling. So it has me wondering about the psychological side of AB/DL/Infantilism. I mean, I know that I wasnt potty trained until age 3 and had some wetting issues on and off after that, but I dont have any parental neglect/abandonment issues or what might be viewed as usual causes in these type of scenarios. So, I dont know. lol
    I like speculating on the origins of AB/DL feelings as well, but have pretty much decided that I'll never quite know why I'm this way. My current theory is that I have a couple of fairly strong diaper related memories from when I was 3 or 4 that I remembered in elementary school and somehow reinforced enough to set them. That's not really satisfactory, but it's the best I've come up with so far. I don't have any trauma/extended bedwetting/neglect that explains it either.

    Were you interested in diapers from when you were little, or only from 13/14? I can't quite tell from your post, and I suppose it doesn't really matter, but like I said, I think it's fun to speculate.
    Last edited by LittleAcorn; 06-Dec-2012 at 21:51. Reason: Oops - you already posted an introduction.

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    I found out at 17 because I saw we had all these terms, adult baby, teen baby, diaper lover. I liked diapers and had an interest in them so i wondered if it made me a diaper over. I liked reading about people wearing them and liked women in them.

    IMHO if you are incontinent, only way to tell if you are a DL is if you would still continue to wear them if you no longer had that problem anymore. Other than that, you are not one even if you like your diapers. Was I pad lover when I liked wearing my pads during my periods and right before and after for security so no blood get on my underwear? I liked them because they kept me protected from the mess, same reason why an incontinent person would like diapers. It keeps them from wetting and messing their pants. Same as someone with bladder problems if they have no access to the restroom, wear one just for in case they have to go and can't get to one in time. Same as for someone who is a bed wetter, better than waking up in wet sheets. If they ear during the day when they don't need to because they like them, then I would say they are a DL. I also know some women will wear a diaper for their heavy periods but that wouldn't make them a DL, they just want to be protected from the blood and I doubt they use their diapers for their purpose.

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    I have and do wear them during the day, even though I do not have problems during the day.
    Yes I wore them before 13/14 and tried to do what ever I could to get diapers before I could go get my own, including nabbing size 6's and pull ons from the church nursery. Perks to being small. I think that honestly if not for the money issue, I would wear a diaper more often than not. I just like the comfort, security and convenience of them.
    Last edited by TheTapedCrusader; 06-Dec-2012 at 23:51. Reason: Bumped submit... stupid mobile!

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    I somewhat fell into it, I was a very frail sickly child and I had terrible bladder strength so I would often have accidents as I still do on occasion. Well day time dribbles were easy to hide once I figured out how, but night time accidents... not so much. My older sister also had issues so she helped me hide that even after she had started to outgrow her bladder issues for however long that lasted. After a while they became a security blanket and they rest as they say is history.

    I say just go with what feels natural, it's what I find works the best.

    P.S. (Please don't do anything stupid or extreme if that's what feels "Natural" to you.)
    Last edited by Goofy; 07-Dec-2012 at 00:31. Reason: Added a P.S.

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    Thanks for the advice Goofy. Yeah I understand how you feel. Whenever I am sick, I dont really want to get up and diapers make that easier.

    Also, I love the licking Umbreon. LOL

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