yfront said:
I'm hoping to take part, for the first time. I hope my wife won't notice I'm wearing a diaper. But at least she won't have any reason to grumble about me getting up in the middle of the night for a pee, like I usually do.
Whoa WAIT! Your wife doesn't know about your diapers? Man that is a big mistake! When she does find out you will be in a world of trouble- one that is only going to get worse the longer till she finds out. And she will eventually.
You're in luck though. Slowly turn that lie into a truth (yeah by lying- but this part to save her more than it is to save you). Start out by not wearing tomorrow night (or tonight even). Skip SIDF, this is more important. But most importantly, wet the bed on purpose (the middle of the night is best, but at least and hour before you normally get up so the pee can cool down). Apologize to your wife in the morning, and promise it won't happen again. That maybe it's just stress, it's a one-time thing, so don't worry about it.
If you're feeling lucky, buy some cheap depends from the store. Tell here it's for just in case. Wear them the next night, but don't wet them. The night after, wet them by flooding them. They will leak, badly. Discuss "options" with your wife the next morning and suggest trying to find something different while also going to see the doctor. If you're not feeling lucky, wet the bed again then suggest seeing a doctor.
Wet the bed only periodically in the mean time. Don't push it, but make it look like it's not your fault too. Tell the doc you don't know what's going on, but don't want pills and the test looks like something else you don't want. Ask if diapers are ok to use instead. Buy said diapers you like, and once again apologize to your wife for being in this situation. In this way, the long term lie you've been keeping with your wife (by not telling her) is that your ongoing need for diapers will slowly become a new need for diapers that's ongoing. It will in effect become a loose truth.