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    So I'm back from being in treatment and getting my meds straightened out. So while I was gone my parents were told by the facility to do room searches.... So now I'm back after 63 days and feeling much better and able to cope with life much better.

    Can anyone give me some advice on how to explain my AB/DL side if needed if they question my diaper stash? I need to be confident even though I will turn bright red in the face. I am scared and I need some pointers.

    Thanks

    I know this is probably a topic discussed frequently, but I want to ask so I get a more personalized answer. Thanks for you patience.

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    Considering that your situation is different from most of ours, I think if you know you're going to wear and use diapers at home, you simply need to sit down with your parents and explain where you're coming from. I would start with which ever parent you have your best relationship with, or the parent that is likely to be most accepting.

    When I was in college, I came home from school one weekend, and had a psychotic break. My mom made an appointment for me to see a psychiatrist at a residential mental facility, but before I went, she searched my room and found my stash along with some gay porn. I had to explain all of that to her, and then later, to the psychiatrist.

    Obviously you have to make a decision. Do you want to wear, and thus have the conversation, or would you rather go without. One thing I would consider is your overall mental health. Will divulging set you back from your mental progress? I think you should weigh the alternatives and do the one thing which is best for your mental stability. I wish you well in this. I've been there, though I don't think my problems were as extreme as yours, as I was never a resident. I know I came close because I was a threat to myself and to others. I'm sure you know what that means. I did improve my life, and I wish that for you.

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    Be Honest, Be forward, Be Prepared

    Be Honest about your interests in wearing diapers. For you, it may be an emotional need, express this. Let them know that there is nothing wrong with this lifestyle.

    Be forward, honor their decisions.

    Be Prepared. If they accept your wearing, then do it in moderation, keep clean. If not, be prepared to throw your stash away... Or, you could just hide it somewhere least expecting? Maybe a shed, storage compartment, maybe?

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    Quote Originally Posted by dogboy View Post
    Considering that your situation is different from most of ours, I think if you know you're going to wear and use diapers at home, you simply need to sit down with your parents and explain where you're coming from. I would start with which ever parent you have your best relationship with, or the parent that is likely to be most accepting.

    When I was in college, I came home from school one weekend, and had a psychotic break. My mom made an appointment for me to see a psychiatrist at a residential mental facility, but before I went, she searched my room and found my stash along with some gay porn. I had to explain all of that to her, and then later, to the psychiatrist.

    Obviously you have to make a decision. Do you want to wear, and thus have the conversation, or would you rather go without. One thing I would consider is your overall mental health. Will divulging set you back from your mental progress? I think you should weigh the alternatives and do the one thing which is best for your mental stability. I wish you well in this. I've been there, though I don't think my problems were as extreme as yours, as I was never a resident. I know I came close because I was a threat to myself and to others. I'm sure you know what that means. I did improve my life, and I wish that for you.
    I guess I'm more afraid of them relating diapers to addiction since I was in treatment for alcohol and k2 that devil k2 crap as well as getting off lithium . I've only ordered diapers twice ever in 3 years. Lol I mean they may see the bambino teddys too, I'm flushed in the face as I think about it. The place I went to gave me a lot of tools to work with situations though so I just need to be calm and confident.

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    This is a very difficult situation and I think trust is the key factor. Both for you and your parents. If there isn't trust in each other, things will get ugly. So I would suggest that best you can do is try to maintain the trust level that you have or try to improve it. If they find your stash and confront you, honest responses is the best. The risk is if they find it and you didn't come forward with it if asked.....well, there's loss of trust. But if you come forward, they may still feel you have been hiding it.

    So it's a personal judgement call on your part and my only guidance would be your view of how you expect your parents to react to diaper interests. Do they do well when you have come forward with other things in the past or not? ("Hey, I broke the.....whatever"). If their reaction is always negative, best to not come forward.

    Be careful with how much you say in all cases, honest answers to direct questions will result in maintaining the best level of trust that is possible even when it's something they don't want to hear. If they are asking, they already suspect, so they are ready to hear it.

    Daddy Eric

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    I always feel that the only window in which explaining diapers would be difficult, really, is the teens. Before that you're too little to make a decision and after that you're an adult who A) can make adult decisions and B) might honestly need them.

    If you do wear them recreationally then you should be honest about that but, really, you're a legal adult and your choices are yours to make.

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    Yes, he's a legally aged adult, but he's also home from a 63 day stay in a treatment facility, and that changes all the "home" rules. In addition to that, we're all different. I was 22 when I was caught, a senior in college. I still needed to finish my last year, but there was more to it than just that. I loved my parents and I didn't want to disappoint them. Of course, this was before the internet which I think has afforded the population with more acceptance to such things. Regardless, I respected my parents and their house, their rules. In fact, I knew my mom couldn't afford the psychiatric bills, my dad retired on full disability.

    Addiction can be a terrible thing. The ironic thing is that I was a binge drinker, and on pot every night, so we have similarities. I recovered and broke free from my past life, and I did it mostly on my own. I hope you can do this too, LittlePony.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dogboy View Post
    Yes, he's a legally aged adult, but he's also home from a 63 day stay in a treatment facility, and that changes all the "home" rules. In addition to that, we're all different. I was 22 when I was caught, a senior in college. I still needed to finish my last year, but there was more to it than just that. I loved my parents and I didn't want to disappoint them. Of course, this was before the internet which I think has afforded the population with more acceptance to such things. Regardless, I respected my parents and their house, their rules. In fact, I knew my mom couldn't afford the psychiatric bills, my dad retired on full disability.

    Addiction can be a terrible thing. The ironic thing is that I was a binge drinker, and on pot every night, so we have similarities. I recovered and broke free from my past life, and I did it mostly on my own. I hope you can do this too, LittlePony.
    Thanks Dogboy, it's good to know other people are accepting and have been there too. The rules around the house have definitely changed. Things are much stricter. I even have a curfew and can't ride my crotch rocket anywhere but meetings and appointments.

    As for my parents, they are very open minded people. They love me no matter and accept my and my quirks no matter what. I am just so scared they will bring up the diapers before I get to see my therapist this week. Either way I am so scared they won't understand it. I have Asperger's so my parents have always known I'm different and accept me for who I am.

    But for some reason I am so scared about just saying even, "Mom I wear diapers to self soothe and for security, just like the blankie you made me 5 years ago that I love"

    idk, I guess I just gotta do it, but I'm gonna wait to talk to my therapist first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LittlePony View Post
    Thanks Dogboy, it's good to know other people are accepting and have been there too. The rules around the house have definitely changed. Things are much stricter. I even have a curfew and can't ride my crotch rocket anywhere but meetings and appointments.

    As for my parents, they are very open minded people. They love me no matter and accept my and my quirks no matter what. I am just so scared they will bring up the diapers before I get to see my therapist this week. Either way I am so scared they won't understand it. I have Asperger's so my parents have always known I'm different and accept me for who I am.

    But for some reason I am so scared about just saying even, "Mom I wear diapers to self soothe and for security, just like the blankie you made me 5 years ago that I love"

    idk, I guess I just gotta do it, but I'm gonna wait to talk to my therapist first.
    My thoughts will be with you. I can remember having that conversation with my mom and I felt very ashamed. I think since you have Asperger's, they will be more understanding. At the same time, my guess is that they are more protective as well. Maybe that's okay, because it shows how much they love you, and want you to be happy and do well in life.

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    With the situation you are in, not being honest and trying to hide anything from your parents will only seem like a violation of what little trust you might have left with them. Think about it this way, diapers vs drugs. Honestly, if you approach them with the mindset of, I am trying to deal with the stress and anxiety, post treatment, and wearing diapers seems to help me cope. They might get weird on you, but at this point, honestly, what's the worst that can happen? They freak out? I have a feeling the other stuff you / they have been dealing with over the last few months pales in comparison to you wanting to wear diapers. I don't know that I would go into too many details about the ab side of things at first, don't overwhelm them in one sitting, but do be honest. One point of advice though, if they say no and are against it, you may best be served by respecting them for the time being. The worst thing you can do for yourself right now is once again betray their trust.

    Best of luck to you!

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