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    skyfoxpup

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    I have thought about telling my dad. But what if he takes it wrong and goes besaerk. I trust him but don't want to ruin my relation shop with him

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    Always your best bet is to not tell. When you think about a risk reward for telling your dad there is little reward but a lot of risk. I have always thought about telling my parents but in the end there is no need!

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    Cygnus

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    Step back and analyze your situation. What are you looking to gain from telling your father? Many times the possible pros outweugh the cons. If he did accept it, you could openly be yourself in front of him. If he didn't, you'd constantly have to censor and stifle yourself. You have to carefully look at who he is as a person, how you'd think he'd react, and how much damage could be done if he were to take it badly.

    About three years ago, I thought it would be a great idea to tell my parents I was furry. Looking back upon it, it was the (no exaggeration) worst decision I've made in my life. They definitely didn't accept it and long story short, they told me to "never go on those websites again." Since then, I've rejected myself as a furry, re-accepted myself, had to stifle myself, and have had overall stress which was a big factor in my recent depression which culminated in suicidal idealization. It sucks.

    So, from my experience alone, DON'T DO IT, MAN!

    From my observations, parents are more likely to not understand or reject the fandom than to accept it. Your father may be different, but the vast majority of stories I've heard have been horror stories.

    If you do decide to tell him, don't sit him down and say 'dad, I have something to tell you...' in fact, I wouldn't even recommend telling him. If I had to do it over again, I'd just slowly introduce them to the culture. I'd openly look at art and do other furry stuffs without hiding it. Then if they ask about it, I'd say 'oh, it's just this culture on the Internet of people that like human-like animals. It's pretty cool.'

    If you sit them down, their mind goes absolutely nuts with possibilities of what you're going to tell them, and they're expecting the worst. You're pretty much setting yourself up for failure.

    So, I'd suggest not telling him. But, if you choose to tell him, play it off like it's no big deal at first, then as you get more and more involved in the culture, let them see how important it is to you.

    Good luck ^_^

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    Quote Originally Posted by cronis View Post
    I have thought about telling my dad. But what if he takes it wrong and goes besaerk. I trust him but don't want to ruin my relation shop with him
    If I may ask, but why does he need to know? It's nothing medical, and it certainly isn't something that would increase your standing with him. And seeing that you are a DL, it's sexual... Why share sexual oddities with your immediate family? They don't share theirs with you, and if they did, it would not make you feel all that comfortable, would it? The same goes both ways.

    I would just keep it down if I were you.

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    Yeah I agree with everyone else. Don't bother. If this were about being gay or transgender or something like that then yeah. But as it stands parents don't need to know about the fandom.

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    skyfoxpup

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    Ok so don't got it

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    Ermm I don't understand this stress over telling someone your Furry. If you mean AB/DL and just posted in the wrong section then okay I can see that

    But as for Furry! This is generally how it goes everybody.

    "Hey, I like anthromorphic creatures."
    "Cool story bro. I like cheese."

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    Cygnus

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    Quote Originally Posted by Okamiyasha View Post


    Ermm I don't understand this stress over telling someone your Furry. If you mean AB/DL and just posted in the wrong section then okay I can see that

    But as for Furry! This is generally how it goes everybody.

    "Hey, I like anthromorphic creatures."
    "Cool story bro. I like cheese."
    Parents are a different story. A lot of furries think that they need to tell their parents like it's a major life descision. Parents may not understand what furry is, which would cause them to react more like this:

    "Mom, Dad, I have something to tell you."

    "Shit, are you gay?"

    "No, I'm... I'm a furry."

    "What the hell is a furry?"

    "I like anthropomorphic animals which are animals with human characteristics kinda like Mickey Mouse and it's really important to me and please please please please accept me 'cause parents usually don't accept it but please do and they don't accept it because some furries have sex in costumes but I don't have sex in costumes and there's a lot of porn on the Internet but I don't look at porn on the Internet and I want to go to a convention next week sign paper please?"

    "What the hell are you getting into?"

    It's mostly the furry in question's fault. If they didn't make a big deal about it, it would end up more like your scenario.

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    what is a relation shop? Is it a store to sign up for Big Brothers and Big Sisters?

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    skyfoxpup

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