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    Ok bit of awkward question here but I've been contemplating using the services of a 'mommy' for some time but I have a problem, for me I am primarily an ABDL fetishist but I wish to explore my AB side and to do so I wish to play with someone else who can baby me, but I do not think I can compleatly separate from the sex side after all I would likely find any AB play very arousing, most mummy/nanny websites all state something along the lines of NO SEXUAL ACTIVIITY WILL BE TOLLERATED! Now while I have no interest in solicitating sexual services but I find it unlikely I could get through a session without the urge to umm........well you know! The nearest nanny to me states proudly most abdl players are averse to any sexual content! Well this made me wonder is this true? If your an AB then baby play probably won't be sexual but you may still engage in sex in nappies (diapers) and if you are a DL then I would expect sex would become a part of it, so really I just want to know how many of us do and do not mix diapers with sex? And for those that do can you separate them?

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    I've never been to a mommy or other paid caretaker. I do have some AB action going on, although I'm more of a DL. However, even that AB portion is sexually driven, so I think I get where you are coming from.

    As I started to be more social with other ABDLs this was a big concern for me. The idea of hanging out in diapers would eventually arise in some cases and with it being a sexual thing for me, it was an uncomfortable idea. I declined to participate but was okay with others doing so. I found that this didn't make me into a raging sex monster; it was just friends in different clothes.

    I have done some caretaking and even had a bit in return. It has all been non-sexual and it's really been wonderful. I'm not sure how it would have been had I just dived in but taking it slow and acclimating, I have carved out a separate headspace for social AB activity. It's not like it isn't ever arousing but it's just not relevant to that situation. I doubt it will ever replace the sexual side and I wouldn't want it to but they seem to be able to exist happily together. The one caution I would have for you is that having started later in life, I'm not really sure if this is something I could have learned to do when I was younger and the sexual urges were stronger. I'd like to think so as they are still pretty strong even in middle age.

    I wouldn't discourage anyone from trying the paid caretaker route, but if you have (or can make) friends who are into this, I'd, I'd suggest that route as a cheaper alternative and one that will give you more time to work out your different comfort levels without being on the clock. You can send a PM if you have other questions. Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilsteve View Post
    ... I do not think I can compleatly separate from the sex side after all I would likely find any AB play very arousing, most mummy/nanny websites all state something along the lines of NO SEXUAL ACTIVIITY WILL BE TOLLERATED!
    I've never used a professional service and like Trevor, discoverred my non-sexual AB-side late in life, though I have been a lifelong DL, with AB fantasy as a sexual DL accessory. I'm sure that phrase doesn't mean you can't ... by yourself when the provider is out of the room while you are having a "nap." The purpose of that caviot is probably to make sure that they clarify that they are not a prostitution service. Best advise is to ask them to clarify what they mean by that phrase, and then you yourself clarify that you have no interest in sexual participation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    I've never been to a mommy or other paid caretaker. I do have some AB action going on
    Go on...

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    Quote Originally Posted by AEsahaettr View Post
    Go on...
    This one summer at band camp...I'm sure no one is interested. Not really relevant anyhow.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    This one summer at band camp...
    So many things happened at band camp... almost makes me wish I had stuck with the tuba...

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    I think those pay-mommies specifically cater to non-sexual ABs. Adding sexual stuff for money is probably one mental stop further from just being an AB mommy, and I reckon that not all pay-mommies are willing or ready to go that extra step to get it through their head that they're essentially spreading their legs for money like any other prostitute. If you're offering non-sexual AB services you can still tell yourself that you're just a particularly odd nurse or kindergarten teacher doing your job for people who're way beyond the kindergarten age or don't need any nursing.

    If you need sexual services, you may be better off looking for a fetish-friendly prostitute where the sexual activities are a given for both sides and the AB parts are just something to 'get you going'.

    And personally, having been a baby and a caretaker many times, I find it mentally odd to jump from either role to being sexual. There's this mental block that says that caretakers should not sexually "(ab)use" their "babies", or that babies should not be sexual. Mixing both doesn't really work well. Maybe the AB mommies have similar reservations.

    Peachy

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    Quote Originally Posted by Trevor View Post
    I've never been to a mommy or other paid caretaker. I do have some AB action going on, although I'm more of a DL. However, even that AB portion is sexually driven, so I think I get where you are coming from.

    As I started to be more social with other ABDLs this was a big concern for me. The idea of hanging out in diapers would eventually arise in some cases and with it being a sexual thing for me, it was an uncomfortable idea. I declined to participate but was okay with others doing so. I found that this didn't make me into a raging sex monster; it was just friends in different clothes.

    I have done some caretaking and even had a bit in return. It has all been non-sexual and it's really been wonderful. I'm not sure how it would have been had I just dived in but taking it slow and acclimating, I have carved out a separate headspace for social AB activity. It's not like it isn't ever arousing but it's just not relevant to that situation. I doubt it will ever replace the sexual side and I wouldn't want it to but they seem to be able to exist happily together. The one caution I would have for you is that having started later in life, I'm not really sure if this is something I could have learned to do when I was younger and the sexual urges were stronger. I'd like to think so as they are still pretty strong even in middle age.

    I wouldn't discourage anyone from trying the paid caretaker route, but if you have (or can make) friends who are into this, I'd, I'd suggest that route as a cheaper alternative and one that will give you more time to work out your different comfort levels without being on the clock. You can send a PM if you have other questions. Good luck.
    Thanks mate, I do try to make friends but so far the only two people who i ever Arranged to meet up with either cancelled on me or acted kinda weird (he talked about holidaying together within like ten minuets of me arriving)
    Last edited by HogansHeroes; 22-Jul-2012 at 04:15.

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    Not sure about laws throughout the world. But I know in a lot of different places. Prostitution is illegal. And if they said they offered sexual services. That would be considered a form of prostitution some might think... then again different areas of the world have different rules and definitions on words. And well if prostitution is illegal where they lived specifically and they offered sexual services. It probably wouldn't be long till they were shut down and prosecuted I would assume. So probably to play it safe they state that on their sites. That way the government can stay out of their business.

    Because I know soliciting sex is illegal where I live. So people put "escort service" ads in the paper and various websites. Which is basically the work around for selling sex without saying "sex" in the ads and getting in trouble by the government for selling sexual services.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wula View Post
    Not sure about laws throughout the world. But I know in a lot of different places. Prostitution is illegal. And if they said they offered sexual services. That would be considered a form of prostitution some might think... then again different areas of the world have different rules and definitions on words. And well if prostitution is illegal where they lived specifically and they offered sexual services. It probably wouldn't be long till they were shut down and prosecuted I would assume. So probably to play it safe they state that on their sites. That way the government can stay out of their business.

    Because I know soliciting sex is illegal where I live. So people put "escort service" ads in the paper and various websites. Which is basically the work around for selling sex without saying "sex" in the ads and getting in trouble by the government for selling sexual services.
    Well in actual fact prostitution is NOT illegal in the uk, Solicitation is, as is running a brothel with more that two beds! This means most legally operating prostitutes operate at home over the net.
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