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    Default grown up life getting in the way :(

    I want most deffinately to be a diapered
    Toddler all the time.im not trying to make
    myself incontinent.im just not going to use
    the big kid potty.
    But at the moment im not managing too -
    the last few weeks in the uk have been so
    hot it was unbarable at work in diapers
    with no aircon.
    And work in itself,i hate going to work in
    grown up underwear (i just go commando)
    but i worry about being discovered im in
    nappies.and having to explain/maybe get
    sacked.but then i need to be employed
    to have money to buy nappies and change
    supplies.
    I hate only wearing nappies at night and on
    days off,its not enough,and im really startin
    to resent my non toddler life.
    What do i do?try to find a new part time job?
    But this job is a really good position.
    Im at work as im typing,wishing i was in
    my nappy

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    well first off, you can't be sacked for wearing a diaper, just say you're incontinent if somebody notices. Second off, you're much more likely to get sacked for using your work computer for personal reasons than you ever are for wearing the underwear of your choice so stop looking at this site while you're at work!!

    third: Don't quit your job. The key to living a healthy life is balance and moderation. You need to have a grownup life with a job and friends because that's what we are; grown ups. Save the baby feelings for the special times when you can be a baby! aka the weekend and days off.

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    slow down...my advice is two pronged: First prong-don't visit ADISC on your work computer. It could be monitored. Second, don't get too caught up in toddlerville, you are a "grown-up" even though you like to regress...I don't want to see you homeless in a diaper drooling...stay at work and work while there.. also you self-identify as incontinent so why do you say wearing diapers is an option? It seems to me that diapers would be a requirement..

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    This is what I always tell my little.... sometimes you are going to have to be a big boy, work a big boy job so that you can pay for the things that the little boy wants and needs.

    After all there must be an ADULT in the Adult Baby or else it is all baby.

    Some tips:
    - promise and follow through on giving your little time that he/she wants (ok, almost the weekend, as soon as I get home you can get padded up and be liittle)
    - I treat my little like a seperate person, like a child you could say. He cannot get what he wants all the time whenever he wants it.

    Failing to follow through on promises could lead to little meltdown, which could bleed over into the grown up's time.

    All in all you need self control and moderation.

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    It seems that your ABDL life is getting in the way of your adult life, rather than vice versa. I'd advise you to seek psychiatric assistance. It's fine as a harmless kink or habit, but if you're having problems working an adult job because you want to wear diapers all the time, that's a sign it's impairing your ability to function normally in society, which is the basic definition of a psychiatric disorder.

    It's likely that it's not the ABDL itself that's the issue, it may well simply be the way you're dealing with an underlying problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cushiebabe View Post
    slow down...my advice is two pronged: First prong-don't visit ADISC on your work computer. It could be monitored. Second, don't get too caught up in toddlerville, you are a "grown-up" even though you like to regress...I don't want to see you homeless in a diaper drooling...stay at work and work while there.
    Agree totally, misuse of company IT facilities is often a gross misconduct matter - i.e. "put your stuff in this box and security will escort you out of the building". Especially if the sites you look at are a bit "unusual" (that's us btw!).

    As others have said, our AB has to be a minority thing for us to function in the real world! Would be nice it were different, but it's the best we're ever going to get!

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    Hi Dan,

    Don't quit your job mate, before you do anything rash consider that although this job won't be for the rest of your life it is for now and a job not only gives you income it is also part of your identity and how others view you (agree this shouldn't be important but it is.)

    Have you tried looking around for other jobs to apply that might be a bit more flexible for to make the bridge from one to the other?

    Have you tried wearing a pull-on to work (you know more discreet and cloth backed, thinner and cooler) rather than a nappy? Might not be the same but could give you some stress relief while you work things out.

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    I'm very much on the same boat! Although I wish to live life as a baby, it simply isn't attainable. Some sort of adult life is necessary to keep yourself mentally healthy and physically steady..sure, it'd be nice to glide through life not having to lift a finger, but it simply isn't healthy. You can, however, be a baby outside of work. I know plenty of blogs of people who basically live as a baby every minute outside of work, and although it's not common, it's still attainable. Just be happy with what you have now. Some people don't have the means or privacy to indulge in their AB side AT ALL..so just try and be appreciative that you can even live the way you're living now. It'll all work out, bud. Just hang in there!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BabyKayla View Post
    I know plenty of blogs of people who basically live as a baby every minute outside of work, and although it's not common, it's still attainable.
    I'm massively constrained on the time I can spend being little, so that does sound very cool (get home, take off big boy clothes, etc lol),

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    I feel similar things and this is the way I've come to understand things. Ab/dl is not interfering with my grown up life. The fact that I don't feel like I can be myself openly and live my life truthfully is what's interfering with my grown up life. Diapers for ab/dl's are a need, not a luxury. For me, being able to wear diapers and ab/dl clothing to work (be myself) would help me to function and perform better in my job and my adult life, not hinder me.

    I have no desire to be an actual baby full time or to be completely dependent on another person to take care of me. Quite the opposite. I have the desire to be independent and self sufficient, be able to provide for my own needs and take care of myself. A key part of the term here is the "adult" in adult baby. But trying to suppress my authentic self expression (how i like to dress and what type of underwear i like) is what is causing me the grief.

    It's great that you're being honest with yourself in acknowledging that wearing diapers part time is not enough for you.

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