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Thread: when telling your wife goes horrably wrong :-(

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    ravin18

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    hello everyone,

    so about a year ago my wife and I were getting married and wanted to have a baby right away, so one night while we were lying in bed we were talking about things that turn us on. When it got to my turn i decided to tell her my biggest secret, that i like to wear diapers, at first she didnt say anything but amazingly was not mad but the conversation ended. that next day we went to a show and while we where driving home i asked her if she had any questions about what i told her the night before , she said that she didnt but i pushed the subject cause the point of me telling her was so that i could do it without hidding everything from her, she told me that she did not want me to wear them at all but she was ok if i thought about it and even if while we had sex i can think about it if it helps, this made me some what happy but not fully. i even told her that i would not involve her in any way unless she wanted to be but tta did not work so i had to tell her that i would truly try not to do it any more. well time when ton and i got a pck from the local cvs and wore them at work and stuff like that... so two nights ago i decided to bring up the subject again cause we just had a baby and im really stressed out at the moment and i really need my diapers to make nme feel better so one night i sat down with her right before bed lights out it was a perfect oppertunity, but of coures the baby started to cry right as i told her i wanted to talk and the lighs come on wow not shes looking right at me lol. so i told her if she remembers what we talked about last year and she did and told me to just ask what i wanted. i dont think she expected me to tell her that i wanted togo out and get a pack of diapers that i really needed them right now, i also told her that i had worn a few in the last few months. she was not happy. she told me that i have to promise her that i willl never wear another diaper again, which of coures i was like i cant do that she told me that we would have to get a divorse then that she can not live with me knowing tha i would be wearing them even if she never saw me doing it. this was a very hard ting to her because i love her very much and dont want to lose her and my daughter. so we talked about it for a few hours and i agreed that i would go see a doctor, she did how ever say that she is still ok with me looking it up online and reading stories if that will help she just does not want me to wear them, i tld her i would go see what the doctor said, her biggest problem was that she feels that there is smehthing menaly wrong with me and that is why she needs me to shee the doctor. of course i agreed that i would try everything to not do it but i would tell her if i can not stop and we wil have to part ways. now im scared i dont want to see a doctor i love diapers and dont want to stop wearing them i dont knw what to do, i guess im hoping that the doctor will just say there is nothing wrong with it and if she still dosnt alow it i might have to go my seperate way i just wanted to share this with everyone cause even when u are really in love things sometimes dont work out great i wish they did so my advice is to tell the person you love either befor u get married or make sure i you do tell them they are going to be ok i wish i never said anything and if she found out on her on then what ever i was really great at hidingn it and wish i left it that way. thanks for reading sorry if its jumps all over i am not the best a writing stories lol

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    Well, It's really sad for you. Your wife doesn't quite understand who you are and it look like she doesn't want to. This is pretty hard for you, but unfortunately, you'll have to make a choice. Maybe you should go see a specialist in wedded couples, it might help. Well, good luck and hope for the best.

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    ravin18

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    thanks i will continue to try and show her haw many people are like me this site will help out alot i will show her tonight and see if it does anyting. i hope

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    What a shame she feels she need to dictate what you're doing in your own time. My guess is that she has sinister perceptions of the ABDL community. Couples counseling will definitely help since it's important to you and she's is ignoring your pleas to communicate.

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    As a side note, I'd start looking for a good lawyer in case she tries to play this off as some kind of hidden paedophelia as a reason for full custody of your daughter. Also a good reason to see a professional psychologist or psychiatrist anyway, even if she's dead set on the divorce. Again, it could help if she tries to use this to get full custody of the child.

    As for her, you should try asking her why she has such a big problem with you actually wearing them. She might feel that you are cheating on her with the diapers, which would be pretty humiliating to her. She might actually believe that it's related somehow to paedophelia, so see if she mentions that. If she doesn't mention that on her own, don't bring it up. She might not have thought of that, and you mentioning it will only make her start thinking about it as a serious issue.

    I think your best course of action is to move away from trying to get permission, and start working on WHY she is so against you doing it even if she isn't involved.

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    I feel bad reading threads like this. I talk to my fiancée to get an 'outside' view of the AB/DL world and she just furrows her brow and shakes her head. If there's anything we can do to help you or your wife with family or 'outside' concerns outside of the AB/DL world, send me a PM.

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    I feel bad reading threads like this because the WORST possible time to "introduce" your DL to your partner is right after you had a baby, because they WILL assume there's a pedo thing going on...

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    acorn

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    It would appear that your wife is being very controlling, for all your sake's, I hope that this is a new and transient development in your relationship. Her defence for any behavour at this point in time is that she has just given birth. PND is very real and your wife is at increased risk of suffering from it for up to twelve months.

    Your timing and need for diapers is very inopportune as, she is emotionally unprepared to deal with your demands and I’d suspect that the money tree in your back yard is not going to be in bloom any time soon. I would advise you to be very careful in how you rock the boat. Patience is a virtue.

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    Quote Originally Posted by acorn View Post
    It would appear that your wife is being very controlling, for all your sake's, I hope that this is a new and transient development in your relationship. Her defence for any behavour at this point in time is that she has just given birth. PND is very real and your wife is at increased risk of suffering from it for up to twelve months.

    Your timing and need for diapers is very inopportune as, she is emotionally unprepared to deal with your demands and I’d suspect that the money tree in your back yard is not going to be in bloom any time soon. I would advise you to be very careful in how you rock the boat. Patience is a virtue.
    I couldn't have said this any better. Timing is everything, isn't it. I think you need to lay off for awhile and get into the swing of being a new daddy. Live in secret if you must. Approach the subject a year from now if that's possible. If you hadn't just had a baby, I would say she was blackmailing you, but Acorn is right. She's going through a lot of hormonal changes, plus she wants you to be the father/man to your child. She's going to have trouble getting her head around all of this.

    It would have been better to approach the whole diaper thing before you got married, but you didn't and here you are. Try to hang in there and make the best of it. A year from now she will be back down to earth.

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    ravin18

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    Thank you for your concern I agree it prob want the smartest timing .I'm sorry if I made her sound like a bad person she is being really good about it its not like she is mad she just doesn't understand we didn't fight we just talked about it and she is still thinking I'm sure. Plus she still trusts me with the baby and all so its not that she thinks I'm going to do anything like that. I just wish things went differently and your right maybe with some time and I am going to the doctor with her to talk about it so we will see what happens after that ill keep u updated thanks so much everyone

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