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    Post taken from adrian sureleys blog, what do you think of it?

    Diaper lovers in particular are a unique group of individuals in my opinion. There are all sorts of people out there that love other physical objects such as stuffed animals, toys, shoes, feet, etc etc but when it comes to diaper lovers they stand out. The mindset behind a typical diaper lover is not of anything sexual but more of comfort and security. Ask any diaper lover why exactly they love diapers and the first thing the comes to their mind is not sexual but of a feeling they can’t really explain but only use words such as comfort, security, and relaxing to describe their love for diapers. This sets apart the group of diaper lovers from many other groups out there.

    Understanding a diaper lover really isn’t that hard if you can keep an open mind and be non-judgmental. The key to understanding is letting go of preconceptions and be more open-minded and willing to understand. The average diaper lover does not wear diapers or “fixate” on diapers for sexual reasons but merely an object that calms or relaxes them. I know, personally, that even being incontinent – putting on a diaper has a overwhelming relaxation effect on me and calming effect. This bodes true for many other diapers lovers. They are not looking to harm anyone or interfere with other people’s lives. They do want others to understand and not look at them like a freak.

    A diaper lover by him/herself is separate from an adult baby. Some diaper lovers are adult babies and some are strictly just diaper lovers (DL’s). A diaper lover merely just likes the act of wearing diapers or participating in diapers while an adult baby enjoys a lot of the “processes” and activities behind acting like a baby outside of diapers. Many diaper lovers usually have some sort of percentage or degree of “adult babyism” in them.

    A diaper lover can be your best friend, a coworker, a boss, governor, doctor, attorney, etc. You would just never know it because diaper lovers are typically more discreet than an adult baby. What if you found out your best friend of 20 years wore diapers? Would you automatically classify him as a freak or would you be a lot more understanding an it not be as big of a deal? Well, that is how the average diaper lover wants to be looked at from an understanding perspective – they want you to understand them the same way you would if you found out a best friend wore diapers – more respect, more understanding, and more care rather than automatic judgments.

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    It sounds like he has a solid base in what he is describing. I liked the post in general, however I am curious about what audience it was directed at.

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    I think it's a pretty good description is good, but I think plenty of people just like diapers for sexual reasons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by diaperedteenager View Post
    Well, that is how the average diaper lover wants to be looked at from an understanding perspective – they want you to understand them the same way you would if you found out a best friend wore diapers – more respect, more understanding, and more care rather than automatic judgments.
    I am pretty sure everyone wants to be understood that way, but it's natural for people to shun what they don't understand.

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    I like the blog. I'd like to print it out and show it to my wife...

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    I think he put into words what we only feel

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    Maybe that article, or a link to it, should be posted in the wiki. It would be a good article to show your parents/caretaker/girlfriend/boyfriend/anyone else if you want to explain things to them, or post it in the links section. What do you people think about this idea?

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    I think it doesn't jibe with our own polls on the matter, my observations here, or my personal experience:

    http://www.adisc.org/forum/diaper-ta...le-1-10-a.html

    http://www.adisc.org/forum/diaper-ta...tml#post265238

    I also don't think we're doing the overall deviant community (and I mean deviant in the most non-judgmental way) any favors by saying we're better than others with different fixations. We're certainly different but I'd be pretty sure that the range of variation among the members of our community overcome the differences between the various communities themselves. Communities that some (many?) of us are also involved with as one bit of strangeness often seems to lead to another. In short, the whole thing seems incorrect and unhelpful to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by newDl View Post
    I agree with the wiki idea.
    Yes, but someone should probably ask Adrian first, as it is her work.



    Quote Originally Posted by babykumar View Post
    I think he put into words what we only feel
    Y'all know that Adrian is a girl, right?

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