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    Just tonight I've begun analyzing the burden of being an ab/dl. Has anyone ever felt like this burden is a tough thing to cope with?

    I was out with a close friend for my 23 b-day and through the course of conversation began to analyize in my head, everything he was saying. We were talking about hot girls on the the other side of the bar etc. but when it comes down to it whats hot for me is not hot for 99% of the population. It feels like im lying when i say this and that about a girl. However im not fully lying I find them hot and what not only i picture them in a diaper or taking care of me and its these thoughts that are non -removable that bother me.

    Why is it that we are the only few who have to deal with the burden of always being different... weather its just in our heads or everyones. It feels like I'm an alien in my own world... Idk i guess by now I'm just rambling but i just wonder how many cope with being ... different. Maybe i havent fully accepted my self or what not but i just wonder what people do to get through the hard times?

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    Imagine being white and liking a black person 100 years ago... We're not that unique... or being GAY! Same issue. They could be saying a girl is hot, but really they are thinking of a guy.

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    my dad and his friend like porn. I been to his friends house where he shows me and my dad a picture of a naked chicken online for some odd reasons.. most of the time since its funny, or just incredibly hot by their standards. Every time I express no interest in it at all. I have no problem for saying I don't like breasts, naked women, lesbian clips etc.

    If I really don't care about something I will express that if asked and even explain why.. mainly to prove I am not gay but still to explain my situation. Of course if they never ask about me being a AB I never tell and even if they did I might try deny depending on who it is.

    In any case you shouldn't really lie when you shouldn't have to, it just creates problems and fear they might figure out you lied.

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    What Fire2Box said. It's much easier on oneself when you become comfortable enough to express what you're truly thinking. I can't find someone hot unless I know how they are on the inside.

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    Quote Originally Posted by somfme View Post
    I was out with a close friend for my 23 b-day and through the course of conversation began to analyize in my head, everything he was saying. We were talking about hot girls on the the other side of the bar etc. but when it comes down to it whats hot for me is not hot for 99% of the population. It feels like im lying when i say this and that about a girl. However im not fully lying I find them hot and what not only i picture them in a diaper or taking care of me and its these thoughts that are non -removable that bother me.
    Maybe your friend is just exhibiting the stereotypical behavior of finding certain qualities in girls "hot"...like long blond hair, big boobs, long legs, skinny... When you look at couples, however, you'll notice that virtually none of the girls looks that way (and frankly, if they do, they usually make you want to claw your brains out because that's the only way you can stand their arrogance and stupidity). The few good looking and intelligent girls are few and far between, and virtually all guys have to settle for something more realistic.
    Yeah, you can dream, but then you'll either spend loads of cash on porn movies, or put your expectations so high that no one can fulfill them. So the other guy (and every guy) is probably no better off finding the girl of his dreams than you are.

    Peachy

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    I wouldn't overcompensate when you're with friends... but I know what you mean by the burden. I feel like there are two sides of me, the 'normal', straight side that genuinely finds girls hot, then the other AB/DL side.

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    the way i cope with it is i have a complete other persona when im out in bars with friends, and i tend to just be a ass hole and everything works out fine...... although its probally more like im a horrible drunk rather then a different persona. either way its a laugh

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    I always found that guy who was so overly heterosexual, constantly saying "look at the hot chick" not only extremely annoying, but also not convincing. These kind of people seem to always be over compensating for something. There are so many more important and rewarding things in life.

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    This might have something to do with why I've told a few friends. Albeit I feel good about who I am and I've accepted that, there is certainly a small chasm I feel between me and everyone else I know well. And that might very well have a lot to do with why I told a few people as to close up that gap completely to how things are to be if I wasn't this. It isn't something that makes it impossible to relate but all these little situations begin to add up into not loneliness but just a tangible distance between friends and family alike.

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