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    Default It's An Addiction

    It is for me, anyway. I know addiction, and I am an addict.

    I've read so many personal stories here. Thanks for all the honesty, btw. So many have embraced and enjoy this lifestyle. I am not one of them. I have not come to terms with it. I know I don't like liking it, though.

    I'm curious if there is anyone here who has actually quit? Or does anyone know someone who has? I've only gone a year at most without breaking.

    It seems that professional help is severely lacking in this arena. As I understand it, the most "help" I'd get is with the binge/purge cycle - promoting and encouraging a stable state of mind. That is not enough for me. As I said, I really want to stop. I am determined to find an answer. Any help/insight from other perspectives is appreciated.

    FYI - I'm a straight, closet (obviously) DL but nothing else. The AB side of it doesn't interest me. Having been molested as a young child, I'd think it would, but no. Also, I was informed about the abuse in very little detail - too young to remember. I'm divorced, early 30's. Got married too young. She didn't know, btw.

    I've tried everything I can think of to stop on my own and nothing has worked. So now I'm asking for help (first time to tell somebody). Thoughts?

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    All I can say is that stopping is going to hurt, but if you hate it that much by all means. I doubt anyone whos (effectivly and perminantly) stopped would come back here though. Most professional methodes are BS, hypnosis maybe as it has proven to stop certain fears. But be willing to dish out money at a risk if you go for hypnosis.

    I guess I can't offer much help, but I can only say its alot easier to accept it and not worry than not accept it and worry. But, again, if you hate it that much...

    Usually its 'uncurable'. There is no easy way out of this stuff but I think its possible. Most people who try to quit fail, and it hurts them bad in the end. It sounds like you've lead a pretty rough life, maybe the reason you have these feelings is because of that. As you said, the therapies will help you cope but won't remove. Its like trying to remove memories, you can only bury it. How deep you bury it will probably be your 'cure'.

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    People manage to quit, sometime even for years at a time. But unless they find something else to replace diapers they find them again. Figuring out what diapers do for you so you can find something to replace them is not easy and the new addiction might be more harmful.

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    I've gone years without in the past and I know of others who have and do though the desire lingers. I don't really think I could do anything to fully squelch the urge, but it's my choice to act on it or not. Now that I'm on my own, I see no reason not to indulge when the mood strikes if time and circumstances permit. Accepting it as just another thing I like really helped me put it in perspective and I would not classify it as an addiction for myself by any reasonable stretch of the imagination.

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    I'm sure most of us on this forum have thought about quitting. Here's what I've come to accept the past year... it's not possible to change the desires, however it is possible to change your habits to make yourself completely stop. It will take willpower, and won't be satisfying for you, but if you view it the way you do for a while and beat the cycle, it is entirely possible for you to stop.

    It's kind of like being born gay and wanting to be straight. It just can't happen, it won't happen, but you can still marry. Will it be enjoyable? That is to decide what it means to enjoy life. For me, I've learned to accept that I will secretly keep wearing as long as I'm happy. If you aren't happy with your life, maybe you need to distinguish what it is in your life that is bringing you down. You just may be mistaken if you think it's solely the desire to wear diapers.

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    I've heard there are some people who have been able to stop (very few, and I've never heard anything specific) but most of the time people can't. These desires may be a result of being molested, but we'll never really know for sure.

    I don't think you should try quitting. I'd just do it every so often so that you can keep it out of your thoughts for he most part afterward.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CrashAndBurn View Post
    It is for me, anyway. I know addiction, and I am an addict.

    I've read so many personal stories here. Thanks for all the honesty, btw. So many have embraced and enjoy this lifestyle. I am not one of them. I have not come to terms with it. I know I don't like liking it, though.

    I'm curious if there is anyone here who has actually quit? Or does anyone know someone who has? I've only gone a year at most without breaking.
    I haven't ever met anyone who has been able to successfully quit without eventually succumbing to their urges eventually. At the best, all they do is drag out their 'purge' part of the Binge-Purge Cycle to extreme lengths, which only makes the 'binge' part that much worse when they finally hit it.

    Like it's already been said, if someone was really able to quit, they wouldn't come back to tell us. But, as far as I can remember, every single person who has tried to quit on ADISC since I've been a member has ended up coming back at some point.



    Quote Originally Posted by CrashAndBurn View Post
    It seems that professional help is severely lacking in this arena. As I understand it, the most "help" I'd get is with the binge/purge cycle - promoting and encouraging a stable state of mind. That is not enough for me. As I said, I really want to stop. I am determined to find an answer. Any help/insight from other perspectives is appreciated.
    Professional help is lacking in this regard because, as far as we're concerned, there is no professional way to "cure" oneself of being an *B/DL. Like you've already said, the best thing that you can do is find a good balance between your binge and purge, and put your energy into changing your urges from an addiction to a desire that can be easily controlled.

    I would suggest working toward figuring out why you aren't able to come to terms with your own desires. You may consider seeing a Psychologist to help you better understand yourself. There's nothing wrong with being an *B/DL, and I think you should try to understand why you feel otherwise, rather than put all your energy into suppressing your desires.



    Quote Originally Posted by CrashAndBurn View Post
    FYI - I'm a straight, closet (obviously) DL but nothing else. The AB side of it doesn't interest me. Having been molested as a young child, I'd think it would, but no. Also, I was informed about the abuse in very little detail - too young to remember. I'm divorced, early 30's. Got married too young. She didn't know, btw.
    Now I would definitely consider seeing a Psychologist about all of this. There could be something affecting you that you don't remember. But, either way, it'd still be helpful to you if you had a professional to talk to about your problems in general, whatever they may be.



    Quote Originally Posted by CrashAndBurn View Post
    I've tried everything I can think of to stop on my own and nothing has worked. So now I'm asking for help (first time to tell somebody). Thoughts?
    Well, I honestly don't think that there is anything that you can do to "cure" yourself, or make yourself quit.

    But if you insist on looking around here for information, there have been a few other threads about this kind of thing that you may want to read through...



    http://www.adisc.org/forum/diaper-ta...uit-dlism.html

    http://www.adisc.org/forum/teenbaby/...ing-tb-dl.html

    http://www.adisc.org/forum/teenbaby/...e-way-out.html

    http://www.adisc.org/forum/diaper-ta...op-fetish.html

    Don't expect any magical answers in any of these threads either, though... In every single one, we basically told the person the same thing we've told you - that we don't think there's a way to quit, and that they should try to work at feeling better about themselves and being an *B/DL.

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    For most people this isn't exactly something you can stop. For a DL deciding to stop wearing diapers could be compared to a normal person deciding to be celebate. Like a celebate person you would always have the same desires, you just wouldn't act them out. As for getting rid of the desires alltogether? I think that's impossible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CrashAndBurn View Post
    It is for me, anyway. I know addiction, and I am an addict.
    This is NOT an addiction. You have a sensory processing or integration condition.



    It seems that professional help is severely lacking in this arena. As I understand it, the most "help" I'd get is with the binge/purge cycle - promoting and encouraging a stable state of mind. That is not enough for me. As I said, I really want to stop. I am determined to find an answer. Any help/insight from other perspectives is appreciated.
    Purging wont' do any good, so don't do it. You can perhaps help it some by purchasing some toddler or youth sized cloth prefold diapers, and inserting them into regular briefs. The purpose is to reduce the discomfort from cold and sweat, as well as insulate you from the hard seams and textures in regular clothing.



    FYI - I'm a straight, closet (obviously) DL but nothing else. The AB side of it doesn't interest me. Having been molested as a young child, I'd think it would, but no. Also, I was informed about the abuse in very little detail - too young to remember. I'm divorced, early 30's. Got married too young. She didn't know, btw.
    If you have a sensory processing dysfunction like I do, then you are obviously not going to fit into the AB category. If you don't like "using" the diapers for their "intended purpose", then you are not really a DL either.



    I've tried everything I can think of to stop on my own and nothing has worked. So now I'm asking for help (first time to tell somebody). Thoughts?
    This will be very difficult. Perhaps your best option would be to find a specialist, and see if there may be other ways to relieve the discomfort from regular clothing. If the problem is deemed bad enough, you may even be able to get a prescription for products that can help you cope. Good luck. I know I can use all the luck I can get, as this has cost me plenty over the years.

    Honeywell6180

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    If it's not causing any harm to you personally, or others around you, then why would you need to stop? My advice is to learn to accept yourself for who you are. You like to wear diapers, so what? Sure it's a little weird, but it makes sense to you, doesn't it?

    Maybe it makes you feel comforted and secure, (like it does for me)...What's so bad about that? I hate to break this to you, but this is a part of you and it will never go away no matter how much you may want it to. Attempting to fight your urges will only cause harm and distress.

    Just live your life, do what you need to do to be happy, and that's it. I guess I'm fortunate to have accepted who I am at such a young age, (even if other people cast me out for how I am). Fuck 'em.

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