More questions need a, "lemme explain," box, and more options in general. On one question, I thought, "I'd be extremely selective about who I told, no matter how accepted it was, just because it's not everyone's beeswax."
IC doesn't mean utterly so, so, it doesn't automatically mean diapers. and it doesn't mean absolutely no control, all the time. I have some control, most of the time, and, oddly, full control while sleeping, because I'm sleeping, and the athetoid movement of my bladder leaves me the heck alone while I sleep. Now, if the urge hits hard enough to wake me, I might not make it. Gotta wake up, get the covers off, sit up, get in the wheelchair, make it to the bathroom, boost my clothes down, make it to the toilet, and not make a toilet of anything that, isn't a toilet. That's a lot of movement, steps in the process, and time, when you've gotta pee.
Also, if I can let go of being freaked the hell out by it, regressing relaxes me. If not, nope. If not, I'm scared and timid. There was no option for, "freaked out on one hand, relaxed if I can gain access to the other hand."
It's because I'm a bothie. I'm disabled, and like this.
My disabilities are always like, "Okay, we get it. This is you, but don't you dare lose muscle, and don't you dare be mistaken as having the IQ of a houseplant!"
it's a major balance tool, being disabled, but, it made my answers weird. A good portion of us like the idea of IC. For me, I have to remind myself I'm still worthy of life, every time my IC flares up, or changes.
