My boy friend and I have been in a relationship for 6 years. About 2 years in I found a stash and he told me his DL secret. At first I was very shocked but we had been together for awhile and made myself get over it. As the years went on the need for me to become involved, changing and wearing in the bedroom has become more of an issue for me. Growing up I wet the bed untill I was 13 or 14. I had to wear diapers to bed and to sleepovers all the time. One time it was found by a friend and was spread around that I wore them and was shamed for wetting the bed. I hated the diapers so much I almost think I made myself stop bed wetting from sheer force of will. Flash forword now to my relationship and I'm being asked to participate in this fetish is kinda a problem. The diapers are a turn off they kill any sexual desire In the moment for me. Are we doomed? Any advice? I feel like my childhood trauma is in direct conflict with his sexual fetish.