Hello Everyone

Hi All

I'm a semi-retired freelance trainer having left the Royal Navy some 10 years ago after serving for 22 years.

I've had an interest in nappies for as long as I can remember and grew up feeling confused and frightened, convinced I was the only one in the world who had these strange feelings. Then the internet happened, thank God!

I've been married for nearly 30 years and although my wife has always been aware of my interests I've never been able to pluck up the courage to include her in my activities or really talk to her about it. That is until recently when she found a load of AB/DL porn on my computer and was very upset about it, I think she saw it almost like I was being unfaithful.

Anyway it all led to a real heart to heart and I finally found the courage to be honest with her about my feelings and desires. She was incredibly understanding and is now a willing participant in my activities which has transformed our intimate relationship and made the porn totally redundant!

I've been into sailing my whole life and now have a small yacht which I cruise on the English east coast. I'm also very interested in politics (don't get me started on Brexit!) and really enjoy a good debate.

Joining this forum is all part of my new open approach to my nappy interests. I don't mean that I'm going around telling everyone I know that I'm into nappies but rather, after nearly 40 years, I've finally stopped feeling guilty about it and have come to accept that nappies are just part of who I am.

I'm sure I'll find lots of useful info on here (I've already checked out the nappy reviews) and hope I may be able to support other who are yet to come to terms with their feeling or aren't lucky enough to have a wife as amazing and understanding as mine.

Welcom to Adisc, Mistral (nice nautical name).
Hopefully both you and your wife will find the group supportive. If you look at the top of the page you wil see a link entitled ADISC Intros, Rules and tips. Click on it and have a read there is a lot of useful information in it that is useful to new members. Then find a forum or forums you like, join them and more importantly join in. Enjoy the community.

I'm an ex-Royal Marine Commando and had to leave the service forllowing the Falklands as I got a spine full of grenade shrapnel. Up until then i had, had problems with bladder leakage but was always able to cope. When I metmy wife and explained aboit the incontinence it wasn't a problem as she was a nurse, she also didn't mind me occasionally wanting little time. Many years on my spine is now collapsing and I'm totally bladder incontinet.

Hi and welcome. I grew up along Barnegat Bay in New Jersey and spend much of my youth sailing.

Hello Mistral
Welcome to the group

Hello Mistral. Your second paragraph is me in a nutshell, except for the porn bit (not that I'm against it, particularly). Anyway, my difficulties opening up about it are so deeply ingrained that I find myself steeped in bafflement at my inability to find a voice to explain it properly to my wife.

Don't want to spoil the fun by blathering on, so I'll just say congrats on your success! Oh, and welcome.

Hi DeepBlue

I know exactly what you mean. I found it so hard to really open up and I guess what I was really worried about was rejection but at the end of the day, assuming she knows about it in principle, what's the worse that can happen? Probably "Okay but I don't want anything to do with it". No worse off than you already are.

I think it's a big deal for us users because it's so highly emotionally charged but to others it's just a bit odd. If your wife said to you "I've been keeping this secret for ages but I get really turned on by sitting on balloons" what would you think? Probably "Well a bit odd but totally harmless and if it makes you happy"

I remember the first time my wife indulged me, afterwards I was so grateful. Her response? A slightly baffled "well you only had to ask".

Go for it my friend, pick a good time and just open up to her. In my experience you'll feel a whole lot better about yourself afterwards.

Good Luck.

PS. The balloon thing is real, saw it on TV!

Simple yet elegant advice. You are absolutely right. It's not that my very much better half is unaware, it's more that we don't really talk about it. Which is not good and my own fault. I can't seem to find the clarity in my own head to do the subject justice verbally. Also, if procrastination were a Nobel prize category, I'd be proudly wearing the gong. I'm in the process of giving myself a damn good talking to, though, so I'll get there yet.

Very much like your balloon analogy and I'm very much afraid I may have to steal it from you!


PS. Now I think about it, I'm sure I also saw it on TV. Forgot all about it until you mentioned it.

Deepblue, a couple of tips, if you think you may get tongue-tied write down what you plan to say, that way you can always read it out. Do it at home, no alcohol before hand, try to explain what it really means to you, whether it is a comfort thing, whether you really want to be babied or even if it's sexual, Be totally honest and open don't hide anything it will come out later. if you want to try something different then discuss it before hand not during a session.

My Mummy (not related) and I are currently trying a couple of new things in our relationship, one is suckling at her breasts which she wants to try and she also wants me to become more dependent on her and nearer to my stated little age (2). both these changes were discussed beforehand.

Thanks for the advice, PCBaby. It's incredibly helpful.

I recently read your post on your early life. It was absorbing and well written. So, another thanks for sharing.

Thank you and you are welcome.