SweetPrincess said:
You didn't get owned. You said so yourself, it doesn't harm you like smoking does. So now that being said it is now incomparable to smoking. It's in fact more like how you like any other interest like a sport such as tennis. You'll need to buy balls, racquet, pay for court usage each week (these are your diaper costs).
But now here is the real question...why do you like tennis? Like seriously why? I could find millions of people out there that absolutely loathe tennis. They hate to watch it, hate to play it. Yet you like it...why? What makes your positive reasons for playing tennis correct and the negative reasons others have incorrect?...Can't answer? Well that's because they are both correct.
Each individual likes and dislikes different things and we are free to do so as long as it doesn't harm others. Yours as with me happens to be diapers. And that is perfectly OK.
I love this.
Agomma said:
Had a recent discussion with my wife about my DL side. As this is a "wear when she is not around" situation, I was trying to talk to her a little more and trying to figure out why she needs this space between her and my DL side.
We talked for a while before she told me that as I'm not in a medical need of diapers, she cant get why I choose to wear them. They are not for free and I should be able to choose not to wear them. She referred to the time she choosed to quit smoking, even though she feels the urge to smoke from time to time.
Even though smoking and wearing diapers are different things conserning health. I did not find any further arguments to her point and ended it there, feeling I got owned bigtime.
Its only been a short time since i told her, but have anyone managed to turn your wife/husband to beeing more positive for you to just wear around them (not participateing.) Im not expexting her to charge her mind in the near future, but im afraid she will never charge her mind.
O.P., may I tell you what I'd say?
"You, wife, do not have a blood sugar low currently threatening your life, therefore, you have no medical need for that chocolate cake! It's not free, and you should choose not to eat it! It's better than Midol, or Prozac? Why should that matter!? I don't understand your need for that! How could you want to be near me, and eat that!? It's disgusting! The only needs are medical ones! Give me the chocolate cake!"
Take it, render it inedible, and throw it in the garbage.
"Damn it, husband! I'm grown! I'm entitled to a slice of cake, every now and then. My money went to pay for it. You can't stop me!"
"Really, wife? Then, I'm entitled to a diaper every now and then, just because it's good."
"You, wife, are not threatening to end your life, because I won't hug you, and be a good husband, and help you regain composure, and self-control, when you're upset, therefore, you have no medical need for me to do it. Therefore, I don't understand it, and, as such, I choose to be an unsupportive mucwad, and I won't! What do you mean it's my job!? So what if I made vows!? Oh, it's how you know I love you? I don't care! It's repulsive! The only needs are medical ones! I am, however, aware of a fellow ABDL, who had his life saved, because, his wife, who understands it's his, 'love language,' said, 'No, you're not, 'going for a walk,' alone, in the woods, with your hunting rifle. We're going to go home, get you diapered, put your footed pajamas on, and watch a movie. I love you so much! That's why I'm also calling your psychologist.'"
Any time she does anything to calm herself, or, to enjoy herself, say, "You know that's not free? You know there's no medical need for joy?"
Hell, anytime she needs a damn thing from you, say, "Nope, you have no medical need for that."
She'll get it pretty darn quickly!
She, first, needs to understand that it's literally how you know you're loved, and, that she called your, "love language," repulsive, and, that's why it hurts so much.
If she's too silly to understand that rips your heart out, you need to tell her. She may even understand, by the end of you mirroring her misbehavior, how lack of diapers could even lead you to medical need for antidepressants. You wearing a diaper hurts no one, provided you don't let your muscles weaken, or, you aren't wasting 16 hours a day looking at diapers, to make up for an inability to wear, but,
you not wearing a diaper hurts
you, in the long run, because of how your love map is wired. It's not your fault, and has been there since your formative years.