I am asexual

bobbilly

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I find sex repulsive, I have never had sex or looked at porn be that make or female. I don’t find looking at peoples bodies that appealing. I love my nappies and wearing them and wetting, I love to pretend I'm incontinent.

I'm asexual! Trying to tell ''normal'' people your asexual they haven't got a clue what asexual means and I hate explaining to them so its easier to tell them I'm gay (its keeps the women away) but they always ask ''I have a gay best friend, when did you know you were gay?) it feels uncomfortable sometimes. I am not straight or gay, I have a sexual feelings for nappies. If I said that I would be the alien in the room.

Do you have similar experiences?
 
yeah get hit on by guys sometimes which I kind of find annoying as I'm not sexually attracted to people and if I swayed anyway it's really towards the female body, but meh it's too much of a complication really.
 
I'm honestly not sure where I fit in to that right now. I "used" to be bisexual, and may or may not still be. I recently had my prostrate removed, and although they used the nerve sparing technique I find I just don't get erections or turned on by anything anymore. I'm still married and love my wife, but it seems our relationship is now asexual, which I don't know I guess makes me asexual as well.
 
bobbilly said:
I find sex repulsive, I have never had sex or looked at porn be that make or female. I don’t find looking at peoples bodies that appealing. I love my nappies and wearing them and wetting, I love to pretend I'm incontinent.

I'm asexual! Trying to tell ''normal'' people your asexual they haven't got a clue what asexual means and I hate explaining to them so its easier to tell them I'm gay (its keeps the women away) but they always ask ''I have a gay best friend, when did you know you were gay?) it feels uncomfortable sometimes. I am not straight or gay, I have a sexual feelings for nappies. If I said that I would be the alien in the room.

Do you have similar experiences?

Same with me! Very rare exceptions.

But in strong need for tender body contact to stay healthy.
Also strong non-sexual emotions towards others.
 
bobbilly said:
I find sex repulsive, I have never had sex

bobbilly said:
Do you have similar experiences?


No, I typically do not say that I'm repulsed by something that I have no experience with.
 
mayhem said:
No, I typically do not say that I'm repulsed by something that I have no experience with.

I know I feel repulsed by it.. I have got to 32 years old and I can say I find sex 1000% repulsive, Ewwww totally!!
 
im 50, always ben a bed wetter. scared by aids and HIV convinced the Olney safe sex is on sex.
No one wants to sher a bed with a giy in a diaper so the hell with trying. and im ok with myself.
No S T Ds for me .
 
bobbilly said:
I know I feel repulsed by it.. I have got to 32 years old and I can say I find sex 1000% repulsive, Ewwww totally!!

So you make your judgment based off of ignorance. That is like saying “I’ve live 32 years and I hate potatoes even though I’ve never ate one”.
 
mayhem said:
So you make your judgment based off of ignorance. That is like saying “I’ve live 32 years and I hate potatoes even though I’ve never ate one”.

I find this to be a very interesting reply. And I will be honest here. The respondent is truthful, in that he is stating what 99% of the population feels towards those who do not date, or have a significant partner. People will judge those who do not have a partner very negatively, especially those who actually choose to not have one. This is because it does not fit the norm.

The typical body language is the refusal to include someone in a conversation, letting another person step into a conversation to change a subject, and then excluding the individual from that conversation. The one who chooses to not have a partner is also usually looked at with a considerable amount of condescension and sensationalism. Most of the time, the individual gets approached for negative reasons, not positive.

Society should progress to where it is more open, and inclusive of those who unmarried and uninvolved with the dating scene. Even out-spoken gay individuals are more highly favored than someone who does not date.

Thanks, Mayhem. Sorry I had to quote you. You are OK.
 
mayhem said:
So you make your judgment based off of ignorance. That is like saying “I’ve live 32 years and I hate potatoes even though I’ve never ate one”.

One way that may help to understand it is to think of how most people feel about the sex to which they are not attracted. An asexual can feel this way toward everyone. It is a spectrum, like most everything. An asexual may be disgusted, as noted here, or simply not aroused. Whether it's based in experience or not, the feeling is no less strongly held.
 
I consider myself as asexual as well. I think of my friends as family member titles. (Brother, sister, mom, dad, etc...) depending on their personality.
Sometimes there might ge someone that is cute or adorable, but I don't think of it in a sexual type of reference. I don't care for sex talk either.
 
bobbilly said:
I find sex repulsive, I have never had sex or looked at porn be that make or female. I don’t find looking at peoples bodies that appealing. I love my nappies and wearing them and wetting, I love to pretend I'm incontinent.

I'm asexual! Trying to tell ''normal'' people your asexual they haven't got a clue what asexual means and I hate explaining to them so its easier to tell them I'm gay (its keeps the women away) but they always ask ''I have a gay best friend, when did you know you were gay?) it feels uncomfortable sometimes. I am not straight or gay, I have a sexual feelings for nappies. If I said that I would be the alien in the room.

Do you have similar experiences?

Why not if some one asks, just say you are not interested at this time. That all I say. People don't need to know what I am interested in or not interested it. It is non of their business if I am asexual or not, all they need to know is I am not interested in them or who they are trying to fix me up with.

And yes, finally someone said it, I find the idea of sex repulsive, it just sounds gross to me, first time someone described it to me, I felt like I was going to vomit.
 
bobbilly said:
I know I feel repulsed by it.. I have got to 32 years old and I can say I find sex 1000% repulsive, Ewwww totally!!

mayhem said:
So you make your judgment based off of ignorance. That is like saying “I’ve live 32 years and I hate potatoes even though I’ve never ate one”.
It's not ignorance. He knows he feels repulsed by it. Enjoyment of potatoes is an acquired taste through conscious experience; not the same thing as how sexual orientation is acquired.
 
mayhem said:
No, I typically do not say that I'm repulsed by something that I have no experience with.

Doesn't mean that asexual's have no experience with it. A LOT of us get pressured by people "OH YOU HAVE TO TRY IT! How can you know you don't like it if you don't try it?" So they do once or twice, get nothing from it and are somewhat exasperated when people say that again. :p

It goes from "Try it!" to "Well, you didn't get the right person/position/star alignment that time...try again!" to "There's something physically/mentally wrong with you."

Me? I know all about what sexual intercourse requires and I don't want it because the idea of someone stuffing part of their body inside mine kind of grosses me out. The same kind of grosses me out as if someone asked you to lick days old roadkill. O_O

So therefore, no, I do not need to 'try it' to know that I would probably just be terrified and disgusted. Thanks. :p

And asexuals get this reaction CONSTANTLY. I get badgered by people, well-meaning and just ignorant and pushy, that I should find 'somebody'. Even though I would be miserably unhappy. One guy said he would kidnap me and force me to marry him so I wouldn't be alone anymore and I said "I would kill myself, dude. I would totally just kill myself." So yeah.

I get along with people on a non-sexual level, I'll even giggle at people's lewd jokes or such, but I have zero interest in it and I make that clear on a daily basis to at least six people. :p (Because they think I must be 'playing hard to get' and I'm not. Ugh.)

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babyboy said:
Why not if some one asks, just say you are not interested at this time. That all I say. People don't need to know what I am interested in or not interested it. It is non of their business if I am asexual or not, all they need to know is I am not interested in them or who they are trying to fix me up with.

And yes, finally someone said it, I find the idea of sex repulsive, it just sounds gross to me, first time someone described it to me, I felt like I was going to vomit.

I don't do this because everyone just keeps on trying anyway. To the point that it just irritates me and makes me grumpy and angry. :p They 'double down' on trying to hook me up with someone. (Funny enough, the only two people who understand what I'm on about are a crazy redneck-looking beardman (my buddy at work) and a Muslim man who used to work with us. The Muslim guy told me "I'll send one of my daughters when you get old...she'll keep an eye on you!" XD)
 
CuddleWoozle sounds like you need new friends. My friends all I had to do is tell them I am not interested and they left it at that. For others well that the great part you can just walk away, and if they follow you, you can report them for harassment. But sorry that you get hounded about it.
 
CuddleWoozle said:
Doesn't mean that asexual's have no experience with it.

Of course not. Only an idiot would assume that. However, the OP specifically stated that they have never had sexual intercourse.
 
I'm in agreement with CuddleWoozle and the other asexuals.
 
Yep, I'm asexual and a member of AVEN. My mom and her best friend just laughed and asked if I was an amoeba, and my dad had the audacity to tell me, "You're not asexual, you're just afraid of being in a relationship because it's something new and different." When I told him I know how I feel [about sex, romance, partnerships, etc.] he told me, "I don't think you do." How could he possibly think he knows what I'm feeling and I don't? I found that very presumptuous. It frustrates me to no end the way people take asexuality as a joke, or something not to be taken seriously. We exist too, and deserve the same amount of respect as any sexual person.

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Mayhem, there are some things people know that, just by witnessing them, are not acceptable to them. I'm sure most of us here can agree that eating babies is "repulsive", and yet I'm equally certain that no one here has ever had to actually taste baby flesh in order to make the determination that baby-eating is repulsive. I know that I find sex repulsive without ever having tried it, because I know the types of touch I do and don't like. I'm also aware of the ramifications of sexual activity which are in themselves repulsive (e.g STDs) and which by association, make sex repulsive for some, without it being connected to physical contact in any way.
 
bobbilly said:
I find sex repulsive, I have never had sex or looked at porn be that make or female. I don’t find looking at peoples bodies that appealing. I love my nappies and wearing them and wetting, I love to pretend I'm incontinent.

I'm asexual! Trying to tell ''normal'' people your asexual they haven't got a clue what asexual means and I hate explaining to them so its easier to tell them I'm gay (its keeps the women away) but they always ask ''I have a gay best friend, when did you know you were gay?) it feels uncomfortable sometimes. I am not straight or gay, I have a sexual feelings for nappies. If I said that I would be the alien in the room.

Do you have similar experiences?

Yup, I hear you, I'm another alien in the room
 
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