Was anyone a late bloomer about sexuality?

Back when I was in my teens, I saw nothing wrong about minors being in the community and didn't see anything creepy about minors and adults interacting and seeing underage characters in stories. I was a late bloomer so I was not at all sexual and I didn't see anything sexual about diapers or role playing or regression. I saw it as all innocent and I didn't know the intent behind it like ABDL is about giving up control and it's about being humiliated and it's a form of BDSM. A kid being forced back into diapers and punished is based on bondage and humiliation and it's a fantasy some ABs have so they write it out. I didn't see anything wrong with "that site" either. Is this was asexuality is like? You cannot see anything sexual about this stuff so therefore you will look at it innocently and not notice any sexuality or the intention behind the story?

Now I am an adult and have developed sexual feelings, I can see how this can all be creepy and looking back and being involved in yahoo groups about minors being in diapers and photos of them being posted there. To me it was all innocent and I can remember when Yahoo shut all those groups down including ABDL accounts and they also shut down ABDL groups even if they didn't allow minors nor pictures of them there and shutting down the owner's account and the moderators accounts and closing down accounts who were in either of these groups. I can remember the hype about it and ABDLs saying how they were boycotting yahoo service now because they hate ABDLs and see us as pedophiles and some ABDLs were like "That is their house and they can decide what they want in their house."


I can also understand why my mom thought Ashley's Diaper Adventures was child porn and sick and twisted and she couldn't believe I wanted to be like Ashley. But if you lack any sexual thoughts, you won't see the story the same way my mom saw it. Is this what asexuality is like? You won't be able to see it from another perspective to understand why someone would feel this way about the story?

I am not trying to say I was asexual, I was just a child who was still growing and developing and kids don't get sexual feelings until puberty but I was a late bloomer for my sexuality. When I was 15, I still was not into sex and found it gross and I felt the same way at age 18. I only knew I would have it when I have kids because you have to do that to get pregnant.


So was anyone else here like me, all innocent about this stuff and didn't see the intent behind it and how creepy this all was?

There are times I see exactly what there is, and can't see what someone else sees in it. How long ago was it that bare bum wasn't ABU? I ask because, when bare bums first came out, there was a thread on here, showing a picture of a man wearing one, while another one carried him over his shoulder, and, so many were like, "That's so sexual," and I thought, The Little is a guy! He doesn't need a shirt! What's so sexual? I don't see it!"

Everyone who did see it as sexual, got all sarcastic about it. Still didn't, and don't see it.

Don't feel bad. This was only a few years ago, so, I was grown, and still didn't see it. There been lots of times I didn't see it.

When I first came here I posted a link to a site, that, as it turned out, was, less than reputable. Not the company I talked about above. I was providing a visual reference to the diapers with race cars on them, because I was making the point that there's no middle ground, in full protection diapers, but those. It was either AB ones, or oldielocks ones, otherwise. I had trouble deciding rather to just post a picture, or link to the site. For my purposes, it would've been better to go with a picture, as it was only of the diaper I was talking about, and didn't go to that terrible site. Someone actually had to tell me how sleazy and disgusting that company was. I felt so bad. Miss what others see; see what others miss. Autism.

Kids in ABDL stories, have always creeped me out, though.

Can't tell you what asexuality is like, as I'm not, but, yeah, there are a few things I recognize as creepy now, that I didn't, even then.

As an Autistic, I denied I even had sexuality thoughts and feelings, until late in life.

Asexuality is not the same thing as not recognizing sexual things for what they are. Asexuality just means not having sexual feelings toward other people. Yours sounds more like a case of simple naivety.

I considered myself asexual for multiple years, but still had a pretty dirty mind and among a certain group of online friends would still flirt and engage in sexual conversation for the fun of it.

I would say really late bloomer for anything sexy with other people. There are still complications but it's possible. On my own, I was right on track or possibly precocious since I would say the feelings I had for diapers were sexual excitement as far back as a preschooler. I couldn't articulate them but they're the same feelings I have today. Despite not seeing people sexually, I think I had a pretty good early understanding of how others were interacting and knew what others in a given group found sexy even if it generally didn't do much for me.

SpAzpieSweeTot said:

There are times I see exactly what there is, and can't see what someone else sees in it. How long ago was it that bare bum wasn't ABU? I ask because, when bare bums first came out, there was a thread on here, showing a picture of a man wearing one, while another one carried him over his shoulder, and, so many were like, "That's so sexual," and I thought, The Little is a guy! He doesn't need a shirt! What's so sexual? I don't see it!"

Everyone who did see it as sexual, got all sarcastic about it. Still didn't, and don't see it.

Don't feel bad. This was only a few years ago, so, I was grown, and still didn't see it. There been lots of times I didn't see it.

When I first came here I posted a link to a site, that, as it turned out, was, less than reputable. Not the company I talked about above. I was providing a visual reference to the diapers with race cars on them, because I was making the point that there's no middle ground, in full protection diapers, but those. It was either AB ones, or oldielocks ones, otherwise. I had trouble deciding rather to just post a picture, or link to the site. For my purposes, it would've been better to go with a picture, as it was only of the diaper I was talking about, and didn't go to that terrible site. Someone actually had to tell me how sleazy and disgusting that company was. I felt so bad. Miss what others see; see what others miss. Autism.

Kids in ABDL stories, have always creeped me out, though.

Can't tell you what asexuality is like, as I'm not, but, yeah, there are a few things I recognize as creepy now, that I didn't, even then.

Click to expand...

I remember the race car diapers and Tyger underwear stuff and I could not find any pedophilia in it if there was no genticals or sex involved. But somehow people found it all sexual and all I saw were just boys wearing that stuff. If I am not turned on, it's not sexual. Are all those other people pedophiles for complaining?

In my view, anyone that tries to sexualize things and complain about it, I think "They are the ones sexualizing it or they wouldn't be complaining." Talk about projection. One thing I have learned from a local ABDL is if anyone tries to accuse you of pedophilia for your pacifier or baby bottle or whatever you have on, they must be a pedophile for even thinking about children being involved or otherwise they wouldn't have brought it up. That is a good comeback.

IMO people will sexualize anything even if it's not meant to be sexual. The author who wrote ADA said the story was not sexual and not meant to be but people sexualize it anyway. I am sure there will be people who will sexualize my stories as well even though they are not meant to be sexual. If they say you are sick, just tell them they are the ones who are sick for even sexualizing something that wasn't even sexual. Good comeback there.

- - - Updated - - -

KimbaWolfNagihiko said:

Asexuality is not the same thing as not recognizing sexual things for what they are. Asexuality just means not having sexual feelings toward other people. Yours sounds more like a case of simple naivety.

I considered myself asexual for multiple years, but still had a pretty dirty mind and among a certain group of online friends would still flirt and engage in sexual conversation for the fun of it.

Click to expand...

But asexuals are still capable of sexualizing things right?

Certainly. I lost my virginity when I was 22, had a fling with a housemate a couple of years ago. But I've never actually had a long term relationship.

Calico said:

But asexuals are still capable of sexualizing things right?

Click to expand...

I think most asexuals can recognize when something may have sexual overtones, even if they themselves aren't turned on by it. If I had looked at a picture of a person tied up and being whipped a year ago, I still would have understood that the intention was to turn someone on.

Just because something doesn't arouse one person, doesn't mean it doesn't arouse others. Rule 34 of the Internet: if it exists, there is porn of it.

To top it off, some asexuals have fetishes and DO get turned on by certain stuff, just not people. This was my case, for diapers and pee obviously, but let's just pretend I had a fetish for purple monsters with 16 eyes, and saw a drawing of one. To other people it would have just been a silly drawing, but I would have found sexual.

Looking back on it, the way the boys were standing, and the camera angles on that race car didey site, were clearly intended to turn someone on, and the fact that they claimed to be anti AB, but sold adult smalls, mediums, and larges, as boys large, XL, and XXL, was so they could make us look bad, but still get us caught up in it. Ever notice no model looked above what they call a Boys' large? Bet you every single model was underage. It took someone saying something to me, for me to even notice, because I was hyperfocused on my point. It wouldn't have mattered to the cops, what my point was, or how focused I was. That site is a bunch of terrible people, who needed caught. Too many spectrumites go to jail, for all kinds of things, over misunderstandings! No, thank you!

KimbaWolfNagihiko said:

I think most asexuals can recognize when something may have sexual overtones, even if they themselves aren't turned on by it. If I had looked at a picture of a person tied up and being whipped a year ago, I still would have understood that the intention was to turn someone on.

Just because something doesn't arouse one person, doesn't mean it doesn't arouse others. Rule 34 of the Internet: if it exists, there is porn of it.

To top it off, some asexuals have fetishes and DO get turned on by certain stuff, just not people. This was my case, for diapers and pee obviously, but let's just pretend I had a fetish for purple monsters with 16 eyes, and saw a drawing of one. To other people it would have just been a silly drawing, but I would have found sexual.

Click to expand...

Yeah, consider Giantess fetishists. Their fetish specific AV entertainment, doesn't even look like what it's supposed to be. It's comical to me. I think it looks like a b or c movie, with very attractive, scantily clad giantesses.:lol:

I'm afraid I was sexually active before I even knew what was happening. I lived in underpopulated, small communities where there was usually only one other kid to pall around with and he was older. This happened twice, and they would make me touch and rub them in inappropriate places and they would do the same to me. I guess they got off on it but I was just confused. This started when I was about 10 years old. I also think things were different years ago before the internet and the exchange of information.

This is a tricky question for me as an asexual. The definition of asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to other people, in other words it's not a lack of sexuality itself.

I started acting on sexual urges to wear diapers and act little when I hit puberty at about age 13, but the truth is that I had had those feelings before then without being able to understand them as such. I guess the hormones just amplified everything during puberty and kickstarted my attraction. It was essentially a mix between regression and sexual attraction, and I got really "excited" both before and during the act.

On the other hand I never ever experienced this attraction to people at all, and it took until about age 18 until I truly started to understand how important sex was to a majority of people. Now I also understand why I was banned from this very forum when I joined as a teenager years ago, but I couldn't wrap my head around why at the time...

In short: My sexuality for other people never bloomed, but it did for ABDL. Due to that I had to learn about our sexualized society without actually experiencing the same feelings myself, which in turn meant that it took a long time until I could understand sexual implications of different situations, images etc.

While there could be a sexual element to it, it's not always sexual. Even though a caretaker would have to have contact with my crotch and probably see me naked, it's not anything dirty to me. I honestly would feel little. I wouldn't feel vulnerable, I'd actually feel safe. There would be emotional pleasure, but there's not really anything sexual for me. If someone tried to make my little time sexual, I have no clue how that would turn out, but it wouldn't be fun for me.

Starlight99 said:

While there could be a sexual element to it, it's not always sexual. Even though a caretaker would have to have contact with my crotch and probably see me naked, it's not anything dirty to me. I honestly would feel little. I wouldn't feel vulnerable, I'd actually feel safe. There would be emotional pleasure, but there's not really anything sexual for me. If someone tried to make my little time sexual, I have no clue how that would turn out, but it wouldn't be fun for me.

Click to expand...

Just because one is vulnerable, doesn't make him, or her, unsafe, necessarily. Whenever one hugs another, the hugger, is making the vulnerable chest and belly, to the huggee. If the huggee, wanted to hurt the hugger, he, or she, certainly could. To hug, is to trust that you aren't about to be stabbed. Would you trust a caregiver you're meeting for the first time, automatically? Also, maybe you're on the wrong thread?