Why diapers

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Hi,

Just wondering, are people thinking "why diapers"? Or are you done with thinking on it?

Personally, i'm done with the question, but it can pop into my mind from time to time even tho i fully accept my self :)
 
Well depends from which angle you are looking. If you are looking at a wide and abroad view, my answer is "I have no idea why diapers. Probably because I was using it until I was teenager, so that time I still remember what it feels like". But really tho, people are just unique in different ways and sometimes we need to just accept "it is what it is".

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Well, I guess I prefer diapers to an alcohol/drug/gambling/porn addiction. So I never lament that I would have been much better off had I only had a drinking problem! So they make me happy, everything surrounding them is about good things, love-cuddles-warmth-smiles and the most wonderful dynamic in the world with my wife. So, if I ever wonder about anything; it is not why "diapers" over anything else. It is why anything at all? I wonder if people were totally honest would they be willing to tell you their secret...addictions?
 
Other people stopped asking me about it but I still ask myself that because I do it for sleepiness and feeling small during bedtime but yet during the day I still make art about it. (Including it wet) if it was all comfort why am I pandering to the community or am I comforted by the thought though I rarely do it myself?
 
As more of an Adult Baby than a Diaper Lover, I can tell you that in the past, the question was not simply "why diapers?", but as LittleMoosey has said, it was "why anything?". Why act like a baby? Why wear onesies and baby clothes? Why a pacifier? Why drink out of a baby bottle? Why want a Mommy? The list goes on.

I use to have these questions from time to time, when I was still exploring and discovering. These questions came from a place of embarrassment and to a certain extent, shame. As a man, society often dictates that we need to be hard, we need to be rugged, we need to be detached emotionally, so wanting to be a baby again conflicted with that, being a baby makes one cute, vulnerable and emotional. Also, being a child raised by a single parent, my Mother raised me to be mature from a very young age, so certain childish things were frowned upon. So, you can imagine how hard it was to reconcile that I was to be a mature young man even though, I wanted to be put back in diapers, act like and be treated like a baby, pretty much the polar opposite of being a fine young man. Take in those two messages together and who wouldn't be asking, why?

Like you, however, I have since stopped asking these questions. Why? Because I have found my answer; my AB side is a part of who I am, it makes me happy and it's great therapy. So, why diapers? Why be a baby? Why not? The pros so outweigh the cons, in fact, the cons are pretty much nonexistent at this point and I have reached a position of full acceptance, so there is no longer a need to question this anymore :)
 
I spent enough time with that question and I never found a satisfactory answer. Now I'm more "Yay, diapers!"
 
I’ve asked myself the same question several times. The way I see it, it’s my money. If they make me happy, am able to afford them and it doesn’t bother anybody, then I’m going to wear them. The only con I know of is where they end up at when you’re done using them..the landfill.
 
Yeah, I'm the same as Trevor. At this point, "why not diapers". I too had to grow up in a hurry, and I lived in some violent neighborhoods. Wearing diapers makes me feel safer for some reason.
 
What is it means?

CrinklingCajun said:
The only con I know of is where they end up at when you’re done using them..the landfill.



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CrinklingCajun said:
I’ve asked myself the same question several times. The way I see it, it’s my money. If they make me happy, am able to afford them and it doesn’t bother anybody, then I’m going to wear them. The only con I know of is where they end up at when you’re done using them..the landfill.

Actually, isn't that exactly where you WOULD want it to go? Plastic is made from oil. If burned it releases more co2. If dumped into the ocean it breaks down into micro pieces and it ingested by the marine life. By putting it into a land fill, that co2 goes right back to where it came from, in the ground.

And alternatively, cotton strips the land of nutrients, and reauires massive amounts of water to grow (much much more than in making plastic). Add in the machinery and burned gas (more co2) needed to dig up and truck in the replacement nutrients, and now all the sudden plastic diapers don't look much worse for the environment than cloth does. Don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying plastic diapers are good for the environment, jut that it isn't as bad as most make them out to be.
 
Why diapers

I never really gave it much thought.

I've got no compelling need to find an explanation for any of my desires.(or disgusts, etc)

It's pretty similar to asking yourself "why am I straight?" or "why am I gay?" or "why is my favorite color blue?"

There is no answer. And if there was, it wouldn't matter anyway. Stop stressing over it and just go with it. (as long as it's safe for yourself and others of course)
 
Well i have gave it alot of thought before, but as i said, not anymore.

I think it is interesting to know, but it comes to a certain point where you just accept it, if you can't find out of it.
 
I do still have these thoughts sometimes. Like when I’m sitting in a diaper, I sometimes think “Why can’t I just be like my friend who spends his free time building and fixing things around his house?” Last week he installed a sprinkler system and the month before he repaved his driveway. Here I am wasting time in a diaper instead of learning how to do those things like a man should.
 
PaddedInPuyallup said:
I do still have these thoughts sometimes. Like when I’m sitting in a diaper, I sometimes think “Why can’t I just be like my friend who spends his free time building and fixing things around his house?” Last week he installed a sprinkler system and the month before he repaved his driveway. Here I am wasting time in a diaper instead of learning how to do those things like a man should.

In a better situation, wearing your diapers wouldn't be any barrier to doing those other things.
 
Trevor said:
In a better situation, wearing your diapers wouldn't be any barrier to doing those other things.

While that’s 100% true, my interest in diapers far outweighs my interest in learning how to do those things. I did redo my guest bathroom by myself last summer and I can do small things like paint and install fans and stuff, but I just don’t have the know how (or desire) to take on those big projects and sometimes that plus the diapers make me feel like a failure as a man.
 
PaddedInPuyallup said:
While that’s 100% true, my interest in diapers far outweighs my interest in learning how to do those things. I did redo my guest bathroom by myself last summer and I can do small things like paint and install fans and stuff, but I just don’t have the know how (or desire) to take on those big projects and sometimes that plus the diapers make me feel like a failure as a man.

I have a friend who wears (for pleasure) all the time who did some fantastic renovations to his bathroom. Diapers sure don't make physical labor any easier but it's a manageable hurdle. There's zero reason they should make you feel like a failure as a man, unless you're into that. You're fine.
 
"Why?"... Well, since for me diapers are a necessity, I never really had this kind of problem, but if I have to answer — probably because they are much more comfortable and safe, than any other ways of dealing with my situation I've been offered.
 
PaddedInPuyallup said:
the diapers make me feel like a failure as a man.

Hey, no need to feel that way! It may not be much, coming from some random maniac-girl on the Internet, but I'd love to have a diapered boyfriend and him wearing (for need or pleasure, no matter) certainly wouldn't mean to me, that he's a failure , you know. [emoji4]
 
Elenwen said:
Hey, no need to feel that way! It may not be much, coming from some random maniac-girl on the Internet, but I'd love to have a diapered boyfriend and him wearing (for need or pleasure, no matter) certainly wouldn't mean to me, that he's a failure , you know. [emoji4]

I’m not saying the diapers make me feel like I failed as a man sometimes, I’m saying that the fact that I’d rather be diapered and relaxing than using that same time to learn how to build or fix something makes me feel like a failure sometimes. Like I’m sure my wife would rather have a husband like my friend I mentioned who is always fixing or building something than the diaper wearing husband she has. I’d much rather pay a pro to do the big projects.
 
Why diapers? I spend very little time wondering about it these days. It's not that I wouldn't like to know. Rather, I simply don't expect to find out. Some people here can point to childhood events that seem to correlate with the onset of ABDL-related feelings/desires. I can't. For me, a desire to wear diapers was a "bolt from the blue," as they say.

I think the closest thing to a secret ingredient for self-acceptance is just time. Time brings new perspective. Or at least bigger problems. :)
 
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