Hi, sorry to post yet another thread about coming out to your partner, but I searched through this site and only found threads about coming out as a DL or the combination of DL and AB, none about purely just coming out as an AB or even little. If there is any, please redirect me to it.
I realize that talking about diapers is probably the hardest and that's why people discuss it the most, but I really wanna know how you talk about being AB or little, about little space, feeling safe with them, needing to feel cute etc.
Anyways, I'm not really searching for any specific advice, although any advice is very wellcome, but I'd love to hear your experiences with "the talk" and any other discussions that followed and how your relationship progressed in this aspect. Also I'd love to know weather it made your relationship stronger or weaker and how. Anything you wanna share about this topic is wellcome really.
My experience so far: I've been with my new bf for 5 months now, I told him that I really enjoy being called cute, I told him I sometimes enjoy feeling like a little girl, I like being held. I even told him I have a pacifier. He's been nothing but supportive. He often calles me cute, holds me in his arms if I tell him I want to (he even asks himself weather I want to, I don't have to ask for it). Recently he took me on a secret date - a restaurant where the food was brought to us by little trains (I love toy trains) and told me he wanted me to be able to feel like a little girl.
I also have a strong caregiver side that I feel like he enjoys a lot. He likes being held and cuddled, he likes that I worry about him getting enough sleep, eating enough and generally that I take care of him. He's even jeleous if I call anybody else cute. He has to be the cutest one! (which he is of course!)
Most of the time we treat each other like any other couple though and I like it that way. But I would like to further engage this into our relationship.
I'm currently thinking about asking him how he'd feel if I called him "daddy", bc I feel like it might just slip me soon anyways. I would also like to show him some images, probably not very explicit yet. Just someting that shows the cuteness of it. My biggest problem so far is that I have a hard time just letting go like I would if I were alone - I know it's stupid but I worry if I get into that head space too much I won't control myself enough and will creep him out. Does anybody worry about it too? Or did you in the past? And how did you deal with it? So far I've been trying to be little in front of him just very carefully, but I realize for him to know weather he's truly ok with it or even weather he enjoys it, he needs to experience it. But I still feel kind of awkward. :/
Uff, it feels nice to share this with someone. Please feel free to share too.
I realize that talking about diapers is probably the hardest and that's why people discuss it the most, but I really wanna know how you talk about being AB or little, about little space, feeling safe with them, needing to feel cute etc.
Anyways, I'm not really searching for any specific advice, although any advice is very wellcome, but I'd love to hear your experiences with "the talk" and any other discussions that followed and how your relationship progressed in this aspect. Also I'd love to know weather it made your relationship stronger or weaker and how. Anything you wanna share about this topic is wellcome really.
My experience so far: I've been with my new bf for 5 months now, I told him that I really enjoy being called cute, I told him I sometimes enjoy feeling like a little girl, I like being held. I even told him I have a pacifier. He's been nothing but supportive. He often calles me cute, holds me in his arms if I tell him I want to (he even asks himself weather I want to, I don't have to ask for it). Recently he took me on a secret date - a restaurant where the food was brought to us by little trains (I love toy trains) and told me he wanted me to be able to feel like a little girl.
I also have a strong caregiver side that I feel like he enjoys a lot. He likes being held and cuddled, he likes that I worry about him getting enough sleep, eating enough and generally that I take care of him. He's even jeleous if I call anybody else cute. He has to be the cutest one! (which he is of course!)
Most of the time we treat each other like any other couple though and I like it that way. But I would like to further engage this into our relationship.
I'm currently thinking about asking him how he'd feel if I called him "daddy", bc I feel like it might just slip me soon anyways. I would also like to show him some images, probably not very explicit yet. Just someting that shows the cuteness of it. My biggest problem so far is that I have a hard time just letting go like I would if I were alone - I know it's stupid but I worry if I get into that head space too much I won't control myself enough and will creep him out. Does anybody worry about it too? Or did you in the past? And how did you deal with it? So far I've been trying to be little in front of him just very carefully, but I realize for him to know weather he's truly ok with it or even weather he enjoys it, he needs to experience it. But I still feel kind of awkward. :/
Uff, it feels nice to share this with someone. Please feel free to share too.