BabyLink9 said:
So do you think it might be possible that because women don’t know this type of lifestyle exists that’s why the numbers lean more towards men? I feel like cause everyone is born into wearing diapers there should be an equal chance of people finding some sort of attachment to them.
I find it interesting you found out about it by chance reading fan fiction, how far have you dived into being an Abdl?
I just think that you are more likely to find out about this lifestyle if you notice anything unusual in your behaviour or interests, and since it's deemed more "normal" for women to have an interest in cute stuff like stuffed animals or even baby items, they are less likely to read up on it. Like, say person A and person B are really interested in seeing a piano being tuned. Person A grew up in a musical family and has seen pianos being tuned left and right and their parents expect them to be interested in it, so Person A will just live their life regularily having someone tune their piano and not worrying about their interest. But person B's family knows nothing about music, they don't own a piano and don't understand B's interest in it, so Person B goes on the internet to search for videos of pianos being tuned, just to find that there is a whole community out there that is obsessed with tuning pianos and will talk about it in forums.
In this scenario person A is a woman who has spent her life being told that cute things are for girls, maybe even discussing diaper brands and potty training methods with her mother, and collecting stuffies with not one batting their eye. Do you think a person like that would search their interest up on the internet, or would they just assume it's normal? Because I surely would never have considered searching for other people who like cute things, since I just assumed everyone did, a belief that was validated by many of my friends. My brother and most of my male friends on the other hand had absolutely not interest in babyish stuff (at least they didn't show it), so it's not the "norm" for males apparently. So if person B is a guy who really likes looking at babyish stuff, cuddling stuffies or acting really young, but sees that his peers don't do that, isn't he more likely to search for other people like him on the internet?
I'm not saying that there are more male ABDLs out there, but that there may be a lot of females who just don't know it's a thing and aren't likely to find out. Though if we talk more about the DL side, isn't there a thing that potty training is more difficult for boys, so the likelyhood of them fixating on diapers is higher?
To answer your second question, I think I'm pretty deep^^" So far I've tried baby pacis, adult pacis, bottles, sippy cups, formula, baby food, baby snacks, teethers, Onesies, rompers, tape/pull-up/cloth diapers...I like most of those things, though I'm not a fan of disposables or wetting my diapers. I have baby toys, books, stuffies, a good amount of babyish clothing...you name it, I probably have it.
Since I still live at home, having full days to regress are super rare, but hiding stuff isn't hard. At my age I can get away with a lot of things, "young people these days not wanting to grow up" and all that jazz. Sadly, where I live there isn't really an ABDL community to be found...I know they exist in Germany, but most of the ones I did find were either really far away or hyper-focused on the sexual side. So most of my Little time is spent alone or with a vanilla friend who lets me, in her words, "little out" around her, with her taking the role of a babysitter or something along those lines without there actually being any kind of dynamic between us. The only way I could get deeper into this life style at this point would probably be to have a caretaker and a nursery with AB furniture^^ (Yes, that is a dream of mine.)