Psychologist ?!

TeddyBearCowboy said:

Not all psychologists are created equal. But in support of what others have shared, yes, I truly believe most psychologists are there to help those that they are counseling and not meant to be judgemental.

The profession itself is established to help those in need, not to make fun of or embarrass anyone. So please don't be afraid.

Perhaps if anything, the psychologist may be able to help you better understand yourself, and in so doing, help your parents understand themselves and even maybe they are the ones that need counseling.

I can't guarantee you that everything will go as you might like, but I do believe you should not be stressed or worried over it. Times have changed significantly, and what was once was taboo has become much more acceptable and understood.

I wish you the best and hope that all goes well with your appointment.

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Starlight99 said:

DryNites96 I know what you're going through. I have a pretty good idea of who you are on the other end, so I can figure out exactly how this is affecting you. I had the same problem, and since my mother was both a doctor-shopper and a therapist-shopper, she got her wish in one that is judgmental, and needless to say it ended in disaster. My mother isn't really the judgmental type, she just likes hurting people, myself included. I now have no therapists but I still don't really have a judgment-free home, which sucks. As for your mother, I don't think she's like mine. I don't think it's that she is against you and judging you, I think that she's concerned about you being into diapers and she perceives it as a problem that you need help with. As for how you can convince her that that's not the truth, it's pretty hard. There's no good resources on being an AB/DL, since the photos and images that exist are exploitative at best and porn at worst. Also, the few reputable sites with info on this (Wikipedia is all I can think of) only has other studies on it, and some words on there have negative connotations, and other words just sound bad. Just tell her that nothing is wrong with you and that this is just who you are. She'll eventually get used to it, and she'll hopefully realize that nothing's wrong with you, that this isn't a problem, it's not something you need help with, and it's not something you can "fix". Even though she'll get used to it, there's no guarantee that she'll accept it. Naturally, diapers will take a backseat in life, and I know that because even though my friends accept it (and even take part in it), we don't really discuss it only because it's not important. If your mother can't bring herself to see you without judgment, then you may need to put some distance between the two of you. I'm not saying cut her off (that's a major last resort, if there's no hope for a relationship at all), just maybe move out, call her every day or every few days, just so that you can live without judgment. Hope that helps!

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Schwanensee said:

A psychologist in Germany actually mostly does councelling and therapy, so they talk to you and analyze where any issues may be coming from mentally.

A psychotherapist is medically trained, they're more likely to search for chemical imbalances in your brain. They are also certified to write recipes for medications, which a psychologist can't.

I'd say if your mum wants you to see a psychotherapist rather than a psychologist, she's looking for a quick solution, like "just throw some meds in there and all will be fine." But since that is not likely to happen, I'd recomment a psychologist for you.

Don't let your mother dictate everything you do: You're already indulging her request by going to see someone in the first place. Maybe also mention that it can take months to get an appointment with a psychotherapist, whilst you already have one with your psychologist.

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Drynites96 said:

Another Update:

Well I've tried to get an appointment with a Psychotherapist but he only had one available in about a year... now I should make one with another Psychotherapist but I really don't want to... she says that I don't need to go if I don't want to but I feel like she's kinda forcing me... GODDAMNIT!!!!

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Argent said:

Don’t go.

You are perfectly fine the way you are, seeing any sort of headshrink armed with a notepad to peddle corporate brain ruining chemicals to get points toward a junket in a tropical country is NOT going to do anything to you that’s good.

If you feel you want to talk out your frustrations with a trained psychologist on your parents or society in general not accepting ABDL then see that person.

Sorry you are in this situation but just know you are accepted here.

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Stickerprincess said:

I'm sorry to hear that your mother doesn't understand that this is a part of you and that she told your father without consulting you- it should always be your choice to tell someone or not tell them.

I think that you should only quit being a DL if it is truly what you want to do because honestly at the end of the day your opinion is the one that matters the most in your life because you are the person you are with every day no matter what. As long as you don't see an issue with your actions and your actions aren't harming anyone- your interests are totally valid.

As for seeing a psychologist about it- this might actually be beneficial in some ways to you because it might help you understand the origin of these interests more and you might learn more about yourself while talking with them. Psychologists are taught how to handle these sorts of things and talk to many different types of people all the time so I wouldn't worry too much about judgement coming from them.

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Drynites96 said:

I don't know why she's against it all of a sudden. She was okay with it about 2 Months ago... I just don't get it...

Tbh I don't want to quit but the mental pressure is kinda killing me. I feel good when I wear but also weird since all this happened... It's not like I'm running around the House in just a diaper. I keep it to my room and only wear them to bed. I sometimes wore Drynites during the day. You couldn't see them...

I hope so but I guess that my mother would drag me to someone else if he can't 'fix' me... I really hope that he can help me to understand myself better and to help my mother to understand

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Stickerprincess said:

It sounds like she's overthinking all of it-especially if she just suddenly changed her mind after just two months. She probably thinks what she's doing and how she is behaving will help you in some sort of way and her goal is probably to protect you. However, she clearly doesn't understand how important this side of you is and it sounds like she has some misconceptions about it if she is so quick to change this aspect of you.

I'm sorry she's made your feelings toward diaper wearing change by saying these things-- it's not fair to you at all. It sounds like you are pretty secretive about DL stuff at home so it's not like you are forcing it on her or anything.

I think that seeing someone might help you both understand each other more and make her realize that there is nothing to be fixed- just something to be understood and accepted.

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