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Drynites96

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Well I thought that my mother has finally accepted that I'm a DL but boy was I wrong. She just told me that she wants to make an appointment at a Psychologist to get me away from it... She even told my dad. She said that it would stay between me and her as I told her. I think that she doesn't understands that this is a Part of me. I don't know what to do anymore... I guess I should really quit being a DL...

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I'm sorry to hear about that. I haven't told my mother explicitly about my AB side, she found my baby toy stash when I was a teen though and responded poorly, so I know she would likely be against it as well. We'd like to think that our parents can accept us for who we are, but at the end of the day, they're people too with their own concerns and hang-ups. That being said, they might not understand, but they'll always love you.

First off, I'd like to tell you to hang in there. You're young and one day, when you are out on your own, the opinion your parents have regarding this won't mean much of anything.

Secondly, trying to quit being an AB or a DL is fighting a losing battle. Even if you can set the desires aside for a while, as you are living under your parent's roof, they'll still come back eventually. I know for a fact that my being an AB will never go away, I've even had lulls in my baby and regression time where I won't engage for weeks, sometimes even months and at the end of the day, the desires still come back and I wind up diapered and in baby mode when I have the down time. Trying to repress, conceal and remove this side of you can be toxic as well and could lead to depression.

When everyone else fails to accept you, just be sure to accept yourself, that's all that counts. Self-acceptance is the foundation of leading a positive and fulfilling life as an AB or a DL.

I'd say for the time being, maybe you could try to keep your DL side on the down-low until you get a place of your own.

Don't worry about the psychologist thing too much either. Many psychologists are quite progressive and understand that fetishes and alternative lifestyles are harmless and something that can't really be changed. It does worry me however, that your mother is the one setting up this appointment. If she is not accepting, she might be actively searching for a psychologist that isn't kink friendly or aware. Sometimes, talking to a psychologist can bring a new perspective on things and aid in self-acceptance, I have heard of many people having positive encounters with a psychologist that understands to some degree the ins and outs and the immutability of fetishes and alternative interests. Could you maybe try to meet your mother halfway, maybe agree to see a psychologist, but see if she'll let you choose who you end up having a session with? If she's not a total tyrant, she'll give you some say in the matter. Maybe you could find a progressive, kink friendly psychologist that you can set up an appointment with? Furthermore, where I'm from, once you are over 18 you're considered an adult, I know if I was back at the age of 21 and I was being pressured into having a session with a therapist or psychologist, it would have to be with someone I felt comfortable with and I certainly would be the one scheduling and setting things up, not my parents.

In any event, I hope things work out for you. Try not to get down in the dumps, just know that as soon as you have a place of your own everything will sort itself out. Until then, grin and bear it and try not to let it get to you.
 
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I'm sorry to hear about that. I haven't told my mother explicitly about my AB side, she found my baby toy stash when I was a teen though and responded poorly, so I know she would likely be against it as well. We'd like to think that our parents can accept us for who we are, but at the end of the day, they're people too with their own concerns and hang-ups. That being said, they might not understand, but they'll always love you.

First off, I'd like to tell you to hang in there. You're young and one day, when you are out on your own, the opinion your parents have regarding this won't mean much of anything.

Secondly, trying to quit being an AB or a DL is fighting a losing battle. Even if you can set the desires aside for a while, as you are living under your parent's roof, they'll still come back eventually. I know for a fact that my being an AB will never go away, I've even had lulls in my baby and regression time where I won't engage for weeks, sometimes even months and at the end of the day, the desires still come back and I wind up diapered and in baby mode when I have the down time. Trying to repress, conceal and remove this side of you can be toxic as well and could lead to depression.

When everyone else fails to accept you, just be sure to accept yourself, that's all that counts. Self-acceptance is the foundation of leading a positive and fulfilling life as an AB or a DL.

I'd say for the time being, maybe you could try to keep your DL side on the down-low until you get a place of your own.

Don't worry about the psychologist thing too much either. Many psychologists are quite progressive and understand that fetishes and alternative lifestyles are harmless and something that can't really be changed. It does worry me however, that your mother is the one setting up this appointment. If she is not accepting, she might be actively searching for a psychologist that isn't kink friendly or aware. Sometimes, talking to a psychologist can bring a new perspective on things and aid in self-acceptance, I have heard of many people having positive encounters with a psychologist that understands to some degree the ins and outs and the immutability of fetishes and alternative interests. Could you maybe try to meet your mother halfway, maybe agree to see a psychologist, but see if she'll let you choose who you end up having a session with? If she's not a total tyrant, she'll give you some say in the matter. Maybe you could find a progressive, kink friendly psychologist that you can set up an appointment with? Furthermore, where I'm from, once you are over 18 you're considered an adult, I know if I was back at the age of 21 and I was being pressured into having a session with a therapist or psychologist, it would have to be with someone I felt comfortable with and I certainly would be the one scheduling and setting things up, not my parents.

In any event, I hope things work out for you. Try not to get down in the dumps, just know that as soon as you have a place of your own everything will sort itself out. Until then, grin and bear it and try not to let it get to you.

*sigh* Thanks so much... I thought that she accepted it but I guess I was wrong. I hope that she won't tell the Psychologist anything about it before the appointment. I've been to this one before but I don't know how he reacts to this stuff... I hope that I can talk to him without having my mom or my dad with me first...

I accept myself for who I am mostly

I'm really nervous and tbh really upset...

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Drynites96 said:
*sigh* Thanks so much... I thought that she accepted it but I guess I was wrong. I hope that she won't tell the Psychologist anything about it before the appointment. I've been to this one before but I don't know how he reacts to this stuff... I hope that I can talk to him without having my mom or my dad with me first...

I accept myself for who I am mostly

I'm really nervous and tbh really upset...

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You are very welcome :)

It's good to know that you have a psychologist you already went to and are presumably comfortable with. If your mother forces the issue and still wants you to see someone, see if you can have a session with your usual psychologist.

I also agree, being able to talk things out with the folks before bringing in a third party is a good idea as well.

As long as you accept yourself, that's all that really matters, the rest will pass.

Your nerves and being upset are all understandable, just try to keep it all in check.

Once again, I'm pulling for you :)
 
I'm going to be frank with you. You may not like what I have to say, but it is the truth so far as I have experienced.

There are many people, even those closest to you, that may never accept who you are. There is always hope, but there is also the possibility that you may not be able to share this part of yourself with your family. Unfortunately, this is also a part of yourself that you will never be rid of. You cannot "quit" being DL. In fact, any psychologist with any experience in sexuality whatsoever will be fully aware of this.

Your sexuality is formed at a young age, and while you can largely suppress it, you can never get rid of it.

I recommend honesty. Be honest with yourself, with your family, and with your psychologist if you decide to go. That being said, at your age, your parents cannot force you to do anything. This is entirely your choice, and you need to take charge of yourself and your own lifestyle. If you leave your life to be decided by others, you will never have the life that you want.
 
My mom sent me to a psychiatrist when she discovered my diapers and gay porn. It was a bad combination back in the day. My psychiatrist wasn't very concerned about the diapers, something they referred to as infantalism and still do. If you psychologist is any good at their job, they'll understand paraphilia infantalism and know that it's not something you get over. He may be more interested in balancing it with the rest of your life. He may even give you suggestions as to how to deal with your mom's misgivings.
 
When the Psychologist realizes that it isn't a bad thing and doesn't have serious consequences on your wellbeing, I couldn't see them siding with your mom.
 
BabyTyrant said:
When the Psychologist realizes that it isn't a bad thing and doesn't have serious consequences on your wellbeing, I couldn't see them siding with your mom.
I've told her multiple times that it isn't a bad thing...

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dogboy said:
My mom sent me to a psychiatrist when she discovered my diapers and gay porn. It was a bad combination back in the day. My psychiatrist wasn't very concerned about the diapers, something they referred to as infantalism and still do. If you psychologist is any good at their job, they'll understand paraphilia infantalism and know that it's not something you get over. He may be more interested in balancing it with the rest of your life. He may even give you suggestions as to how to deal with your mom's misgivings.
I hope so... I only wear diapers to bed and it's not like I'm running around with them in full view... I just hope that this guy understands this stuff and that my mother hasn't talked to him yet...

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If your psychologist does understand this stuff he may want to talk to your parents to try to help them deal with this in a more positive way. He could shed some light on the strength and permanence of this 'condition' and assure them that this isn't a sign of mental illness. He would no doubt work on ways to help them, and you, accept it, and he would also probably try to open channels of communication between the three of you. It won't be easy for your parents to accept this, if they ever do, so you will have to be patient. Good luck!
 
Drifter said:
If your psychologist does understand this stuff he may want to talk to your parents to try to help them deal with this in a more positive way. He could shed some light on the strength and permanence of this 'condition' and assure them that this isn't a sign of mental illness. He would no doubt work on ways to help them, and you, accept it, and he would also probably try to open channels of communication between the three of you. It won't be easy for your parents to accept this, if they ever do, so you will have to be patient. Good luck!
I know and I really hope that this will happen. The only Problem is that I haven't been there for about a year and I don't know what he thinks about ABDL stuff. I just hope that they won't tell him anything wrong in advance

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Psychologist and therapist have been around the block. I really don't think you have to worry about your psychologist. They may question you a bit on its origins, but ultimately being a abdl is harmless. Your Mother unfortunate doesn't understand and that's ok. You are an adult, do what makes you happy.
 
Ravensteel said:
Psychologist and therapist have been around the block. I really don't think you have to worry about your psychologist. They may question you a bit on its origins, but ultimately being a abdl is harmless. Your Mother unfortunate doesn't understand and that's ok. You are an adult, do what makes you happy.



Okay... I've talked with my best friend about it and he said that I should not worry and that the Psychologist will try to help me...
 
Drynites96 said:
Okay... I've talked with my best friend about it and he said that I should not worry and that the Psychologist will try to help me...

Your friend is correct. The psychologist is there to help you not to hurt you. There is nothing wrong with talking to one. It's also important to remember client confidentiality. You are an adult, meaning unless you give consent everything you say to that psychologist will stay in that room. You don't have to worry about your parents knowing what is said.
 
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Your friend is correct. The psychologist is there to help you not to hurt you. There is nothing wrong with talking to one. It's also important to remember client confidentiality. You are an adult, meaning unless you give consent everything you say to that psychologist will stay in that room. You don't have to worry about your parents knowing what is said.

Yeah... tbh I'm kinda starting a bit to look forward to it. Maybe he can help me to accept myself better and maybe he can help my mother to understand it
 
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Update:

I've made an appointment with the Psychologist on the 12th of July (3 days before we all head to Spain for our Camping Trip) *sigh* I hope that everything goes well and I think I know what made my mom decide that I should go. She found my Adult diapers with tapes...

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Drynites96 said:
I know and I really hope that this will happen. The only Problem is that I haven't been there for about a year and I don't know what he thinks about ABDL stuff. I just hope that they won't tell him anything wrong in advance

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You COULD do a net search to see if infantilism is something he has addressed and if he considers it to be aberrant. Better than waiting anxiously.
 
LittleSissieJolie said:
You COULD do a net search to see if infantilism is something he has addressed and if he considers it to be aberrant. Better than waiting anxiously.
Well I've checked his Website but it doesn't says what he has adressed. I've been to this Psychologist twice already...

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Not all psychologists are created equal. But in support of what others have shared, yes, I truly believe most psychologists are there to help those that they are counseling and not meant to be judgemental.

The profession itself is established to help those in need, not to make fun of or embarrass anyone. So please don't be afraid.

Perhaps if anything, the psychologist may be able to help you better understand yourself, and in so doing, help your parents understand themselves and even maybe they are the ones that need counseling.

I can't guarantee you that everything will go as you might like, but I do believe you should not be stressed or worried over it. Times have changed significantly, and what was once was taboo has become much more acceptable and understood.

I wish you the best and hope that all goes well with your appointment.
 
DryNites96 I know what you're going through. I have a pretty good idea of who you are on the other end, so I can figure out exactly how this is affecting you. I had the same problem, and since my mother was both a doctor-shopper and a therapist-shopper, she got her wish in one that is judgmental, and needless to say it ended in disaster. My mother isn't really the judgmental type, she just likes hurting people, myself included. I now have no therapists but I still don't really have a judgment-free home, which sucks. As for your mother, I don't think she's like mine. I don't think it's that she is against you and judging you, I think that she's concerned about you being into diapers and she perceives it as a problem that you need help with. As for how you can convince her that that's not the truth, it's pretty hard. There's no good resources on being an AB/DL, since the photos and images that exist are exploitative at best and porn at worst. Also, the few reputable sites with info on this (Wikipedia is all I can think of) only has other studies on it, and some words on there have negative connotations, and other words just sound bad. Just tell her that nothing is wrong with you and that this is just who you are. She'll eventually get used to it, and she'll hopefully realize that nothing's wrong with you, that this isn't a problem, it's not something you need help with, and it's not something you can "fix". Even though she'll get used to it, there's no guarantee that she'll accept it. Naturally, diapers will take a backseat in life, and I know that because even though my friends accept it (and even take part in it), we don't really discuss it only because it's not important. If your mother can't bring herself to see you without judgment, then you may need to put some distance between the two of you. I'm not saying cut her off (that's a major last resort, if there's no hope for a relationship at all), just maybe move out, call her every day or every few days, just so that you can live without judgment. Hope that helps! :)
 
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