littlemoosey said:No, not me have never wished for the, "daddy" experience. It just feels more natural to me for a female to fill that role, more....nurturing.
Poofybutt said:Much like Littlemoosey, I have never felt like having a Daddy type relationship or dynamic, I have only ever wanted a Mommy.
I think the reasons behind me not even entertaining the idea of a daddy are quite varied. While I am demisexual, I am still straight, I only seek romantic relationships with women, so even though my baby time is a very innocent and emotional thing, my sexuality makes the idea of having a man seeing me like that and caring for me like that unenticing. While I have many rewarding male friendships, I have some unresolved emotional baggage when it comes to the male parental figures in my life. My father abandoned me and my Mother shortly after I was born and when he came back into my life at 6, he abandoned me again at a carnival, I'm not even joking, hence I have never had the desire for a Daddy figure, only a Mommy. From personal experience, my Mommies have been much more nurturing and trustworthy.
With that out of the way though, I do know of many AB's who have desired both. I know a few bisexual AB's who have had both a Mommy and a Daddy at some point in their lives. I also know of, although it is quite rare, an individual who had a polyamorous relationship wherein he had both an active Mommy and Daddy to look after him and play the part of a family to his baby side.
I think Joeypp, that you are a bit of a rarity, as a straight man, I have never fantasized about men in any context be it sexual, romantic or AB related, but yet you seem to have entertained the idea of a Daddy and there is nothing wrong with that. Heck, if regressing and baby mode is a strictly platonic experience for you, whether it's with a woman or a man, then I can totally see where the desire for a Daddy is coming from. It makes sense if only to experience the differences between the two types of caregivers whilst in baby mode; A Daddy figure strikes me as more no nonsense, stern and paternal versus a Mommy figure who has a more sensitive, nurturing approach
In any case, no, it is not unheard of for AB's to desire an experience with one or the other, a Mommy or a Daddy or even both at the same time.
Schwanensee said:That's actually an interesting perspective, linking it to sexuality...in that case I'm probably a bit of a oddball too, because I'm a straight female, but I would really prefer a mommy (as mentioned above^^). I don't even think it is a gender role thing for me, my father was a very kind and loving parent, but somehow calling someone "daddy" just feels wrong to me. (In any language, so it's not just what the internet has done to that word.)
SpAzpieSweeTot said:Amory doesn't always need to apply, either. In the 1 instance I was thinking of, the mommy and daddy were married, and the Little would come over, compensate them, and be parented and played with, and just normal kid stuff. I think the mommy always changed him, but, the daddy was like, "Hey, sport." Pretty sure sex only happened between the mommy and the daddy.
Right? It was interesting to me, too, because, the Little was constantly vigilant about what he did with mommy. e.g., he wanted to put his head on her shoulder, but didn't, lest it be seen by daddy as inappropriate.Poofybutt said:That's interesting. It makes sense though, I can see a relationship/dynamic like that playing out without any amorous intent. At that point, the relationship isn't much different from seeking out a professional Mommy or Daddy and we must remember, some AB's have a preference strictly for that as well.
The person that I knew though was in an adult relationship with both a man and a woman and they played the role of Mommy and Daddy for him when he regressed. Outside of AB time, they were a romantic trio.
Anyways, to each their own. Being an ABDL is multifaceted and complex, it isn't surprising that everyone's a little different with regards to their caregiver preferences. I actually like that everyone is a little different, it makes our community feel much more nuanced and diverse on the whole
joeypp said:Thanks for all the inquires..I sometimes feel guilty I Having a desire for this..just I guess would like a mommy figure for nurture and a daddy figure for discipline.