Welcome to the site Aspiring!
I believe that you have come to the right place. There is no other ABDL site out there that offers what ADISC has as far as reassurance and understanding of oneself.
But in order to get the most out of the site, I encourage you to look through the forums and topics that you are most interested in and that you may have questions about. And don't be shy in posting threads or posts to others with your own questions and observations. That is where I think you may find the most reassurance, understanding, and also friendship with others as you realize you are not alone.
I'm glad to hear that you are accepting this side of yourself as you stated in your post. But don't be surprised when you have instances when you go through struggles with it again as well. Most all of us go through this, but ultimately I have found it is most productive and I find the most happiness with myself when I simply accept this as who I am and don't beat myself up over it.
So, again, welcome to ADISC! Thank you for your introduction.