Makubird
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I know there are many threads about telling others, but I would like to share my personal experiences and hope that it can be reassuring or comforting to others.
I met a woman last year during a holiday and we have occasionally been in contact since then. In the past months I went through a difficult time and it turned out that she was having the same kind of problems. Since then we have had daily conversations over whatsapp, sharing lots of things. About our common problems and illness, but also about increasingly personal things. In the short time that I know her I have become to consider her a very close friend.
Last night I was having a long whatsapp conversation and suddenly the moment felt right and I couldn't resist telling her about my ABDL/little side. I had no intention whatsoever beforehand but that moment, everything seemed OK to tell her. I have to add that there is only one other person that I have ever told before.
So I started telling her that I am not an ordinary person regarding identity and that I might have some peculiar interests. She encouraged me to tell her so I continued. I told her about being ABDL and little. That it is a very important thing in my life and that I wanted to tell her so she would know me better. I also stressed that I was feeling very vulnerable and ashamed to tell, and that I was hoping that our conversation could remain private.
She reacted very well. She was mostly ABDL unaware but she was curious and interested asking for more information. Then unfortunately she had to leave.
During her absence I wrote a long app. About the lifelong struggle, about the benefits like the comforting and relaxing aspects of wearing and being little, about the community and ADISC, my recent progress in accepting myself and wanting to be more open about it to someone else. I also joked a little bit, telling about the occasional cognitive dissonance and I sent her a giff of Maggie Simpson tossing a pacifier :smile1:
Later we had a long conversation into the middle of the night. Talking about it. She is very accepting, finds it an honour that I chose her to tell my greatest secret.
In am now very much reassured that telling her deepened our contact without risking a very close friendship. I still have my worries though. Can I completely trust her? What if someone reads her whatsapp? Can she keep it a secret? But I have to let go of that.
It is hard to tell beforehand how someone will react but I think my experience shows that it is not only for very longstanding friendships. Despite that I didn't plan to tell her, I am happy that I did. And very excited that she took it so well. It feels liberating and emotional. I think I could not have expected a better result.
I met a woman last year during a holiday and we have occasionally been in contact since then. In the past months I went through a difficult time and it turned out that she was having the same kind of problems. Since then we have had daily conversations over whatsapp, sharing lots of things. About our common problems and illness, but also about increasingly personal things. In the short time that I know her I have become to consider her a very close friend.
Last night I was having a long whatsapp conversation and suddenly the moment felt right and I couldn't resist telling her about my ABDL/little side. I had no intention whatsoever beforehand but that moment, everything seemed OK to tell her. I have to add that there is only one other person that I have ever told before.
So I started telling her that I am not an ordinary person regarding identity and that I might have some peculiar interests. She encouraged me to tell her so I continued. I told her about being ABDL and little. That it is a very important thing in my life and that I wanted to tell her so she would know me better. I also stressed that I was feeling very vulnerable and ashamed to tell, and that I was hoping that our conversation could remain private.
She reacted very well. She was mostly ABDL unaware but she was curious and interested asking for more information. Then unfortunately she had to leave.
During her absence I wrote a long app. About the lifelong struggle, about the benefits like the comforting and relaxing aspects of wearing and being little, about the community and ADISC, my recent progress in accepting myself and wanting to be more open about it to someone else. I also joked a little bit, telling about the occasional cognitive dissonance and I sent her a giff of Maggie Simpson tossing a pacifier :smile1:
Later we had a long conversation into the middle of the night. Talking about it. She is very accepting, finds it an honour that I chose her to tell my greatest secret.
In am now very much reassured that telling her deepened our contact without risking a very close friendship. I still have my worries though. Can I completely trust her? What if someone reads her whatsapp? Can she keep it a secret? But I have to let go of that.
It is hard to tell beforehand how someone will react but I think my experience shows that it is not only for very longstanding friendships. Despite that I didn't plan to tell her, I am happy that I did. And very excited that she took it so well. It feels liberating and emotional. I think I could not have expected a better result.