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Okay, I have loved diapers whether me wearing or a female ever since I can remember. I find a female in a diaper the sexiest thing ever. It is absolutely no different than a sexy pair of panties or a teddy. None. It is just part of who I am and that is how I am wired so why should there be anything wrong with that? There isn't.
Now I have dabbled in the online community for years only to not have success due to many reasons. A lot of these reasons were mentioned in this thread:
https://www.adisc.org/forum/showthread.php/114214-So-few-Females
In this thread it is mentioned that most of the woman are in the DDLG/CG/Little community and do not frequent the Diaper sites because they get hit on by guys who make it all about the diaper. Yeah, I know, I get hit on by guys too and it really pisses me off because I clearly state that I am straight.
Hint to these people....YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION WON'T CHANGE BECAUSE YOU LOVE WEARING DIAPERS!!!!
The fact is that there are asshole guys in the vanilla community and everywhere else you turn so why should it be any different in the fetish world. Let me tell you, there are asshole woman in the vanilla scene as well as the fetish community too.
I am just recently divorced and once again I am going to attempt to find a compatible partner, one who is diaper friendly. If I do not find this person I will be 100% happy being alone. I'm not going through that shit again so please no one tell me to use the vanilla avenues to find a partner. I've been there. I'm 56. It's too frikin' time consuming because people say it's cool but really, they do not get it unless they have kinks themselves.
I am just a regular nice guy who has a great job, great friends and many interests and hobbies. I do wear 24/7 but that is just my choice of underwear and absolutely no ones business but my own and who I choose to talk about it with. I just started attending events last year when my now ex and I first split up. After this first happened I became 100% accepting that I am simply a diaper lover and I am not ever going to hide this fact from anyone I am involved with again. Anyway, I do wet the bed often so I have to wear every night anyway.
Now, I also am a switch so I would welcome taking the daddy role and I am damn good at it. Just because I love to wear myself is totally separate from that. I honestly do not act like a little. I have little tendencies and do love to wear onsies and printed diapers but I do not act little at all. I am just me wearing that type of clothing. That's it. Oh, and I love the feeling of a wet and messy diaper.
If I were to meet a woman who has the same desires, she would have to be completely open minded. Not closed. I have met a few that are so strict that they do not want someone who also wears. This is the exact opposite of what the complaints are about men in the ab/dl community. I am very open minded and not very strict. My girl doesn't even need to wear herself, just let me be me....that's it!! But, again there is nothing sexier than a woman in a diaper, just like a sexy pair of panties or teddy. WTF is wrong with that? Nothing. There is no difference in my mind but it is acceptable for a guy to buy a sexy teddy for a woman and have her wear it but not a diaper? hmm....interesting.
So, being a guy who is 100% normal and likeable in the vanilla world but also an ab/dl I can tell you, it is hard to connect with a straight ab/dl woman because of the assholes. I cannot ever message a woman without her thinking I am a creeper right off the bat.
It is for this reason that I have come and gone in the online community throughout the many years of searching for my compatible female companion. Then, you have to hope that you hit it off with having similar interests outside of the ab/dl interest.
The online sites are terrible. Fetlife is okay to find events but not a partner. It seems this place frowns upon it, ABDL Match is a complete scam. I can't use any online dating site because there are people I know that will see if I post some subtle hint. Also, I have a business I am just starting and do not want it known somehow that I am an ab/dl or need to wear protection 24/7 because I pee the bed and may have overactive bladder now and have to wear pullups to work just in case.
I respect all people and that includes women so what does one do?
I am not giving up this time. I'll figure it out.
Now I have dabbled in the online community for years only to not have success due to many reasons. A lot of these reasons were mentioned in this thread:
https://www.adisc.org/forum/showthread.php/114214-So-few-Females
In this thread it is mentioned that most of the woman are in the DDLG/CG/Little community and do not frequent the Diaper sites because they get hit on by guys who make it all about the diaper. Yeah, I know, I get hit on by guys too and it really pisses me off because I clearly state that I am straight.
Hint to these people....YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION WON'T CHANGE BECAUSE YOU LOVE WEARING DIAPERS!!!!
The fact is that there are asshole guys in the vanilla community and everywhere else you turn so why should it be any different in the fetish world. Let me tell you, there are asshole woman in the vanilla scene as well as the fetish community too.
I am just recently divorced and once again I am going to attempt to find a compatible partner, one who is diaper friendly. If I do not find this person I will be 100% happy being alone. I'm not going through that shit again so please no one tell me to use the vanilla avenues to find a partner. I've been there. I'm 56. It's too frikin' time consuming because people say it's cool but really, they do not get it unless they have kinks themselves.
I am just a regular nice guy who has a great job, great friends and many interests and hobbies. I do wear 24/7 but that is just my choice of underwear and absolutely no ones business but my own and who I choose to talk about it with. I just started attending events last year when my now ex and I first split up. After this first happened I became 100% accepting that I am simply a diaper lover and I am not ever going to hide this fact from anyone I am involved with again. Anyway, I do wet the bed often so I have to wear every night anyway.
Now, I also am a switch so I would welcome taking the daddy role and I am damn good at it. Just because I love to wear myself is totally separate from that. I honestly do not act like a little. I have little tendencies and do love to wear onsies and printed diapers but I do not act little at all. I am just me wearing that type of clothing. That's it. Oh, and I love the feeling of a wet and messy diaper.
If I were to meet a woman who has the same desires, she would have to be completely open minded. Not closed. I have met a few that are so strict that they do not want someone who also wears. This is the exact opposite of what the complaints are about men in the ab/dl community. I am very open minded and not very strict. My girl doesn't even need to wear herself, just let me be me....that's it!! But, again there is nothing sexier than a woman in a diaper, just like a sexy pair of panties or teddy. WTF is wrong with that? Nothing. There is no difference in my mind but it is acceptable for a guy to buy a sexy teddy for a woman and have her wear it but not a diaper? hmm....interesting.
So, being a guy who is 100% normal and likeable in the vanilla world but also an ab/dl I can tell you, it is hard to connect with a straight ab/dl woman because of the assholes. I cannot ever message a woman without her thinking I am a creeper right off the bat.
It is for this reason that I have come and gone in the online community throughout the many years of searching for my compatible female companion. Then, you have to hope that you hit it off with having similar interests outside of the ab/dl interest.
The online sites are terrible. Fetlife is okay to find events but not a partner. It seems this place frowns upon it, ABDL Match is a complete scam. I can't use any online dating site because there are people I know that will see if I post some subtle hint. Also, I have a business I am just starting and do not want it known somehow that I am an ab/dl or need to wear protection 24/7 because I pee the bed and may have overactive bladder now and have to wear pullups to work just in case.
I respect all people and that includes women so what does one do?
I am not giving up this time. I'll figure it out.