BoundCoder said:
Hate to be the realist, but as an adult his mother is also no longer under any obligation to provide him room and board (or anything for that matter). Unless there's a lease agreement involved (which I doubt), there's not much in terms of practical recourse. Since most people who live at home are doing so because they can't afford to be out on their own, antagonising the person providing you cheap (or free) room and board is a colossally bad idea.
TLDR: he has the right to his own property, but she has the right to put him out on the curb (alongside his property), so unless prepared for option 2, I'd avoid exercising option 1.
Exactly. I didn't say he shouldn't be prepared for that. She can kick him out. If he's prepared for that, it could be a good thing. Those who show no interest in your interests, have no interest in you, and parents who show no interest in their kids, aughtn't be parents! Shot in the dark guess here, but. . .
"Mom, look! I got a medal at school, Y'know; the place you ship me off to, because it makes it easier for you to live your life, without a clue who I am, instead of giving me a real, non governmental indoctrination, learning experience at home?"
"Yeah, yeah, kid, a medal. My nose is in my phone, I have to use for work, because I don't care enough about you to learn how to find you a decent father, and myself a decent husband, who will support us, while I do my job, which is to make sure my kids are securely attached, so, I can't be bothered with you, but, I don't want you to ever give me responsibility for that, 'I'm your mother,' or, 'I did the best I could with what I had,' or whatever."
Yeah, besides letting your future kids decide who you. . . (Ahem.)
Years later.
"Mom, why did you destroy my property?"
"Because I don't care why you're interested in this. I don't understand it, so, it's wrong! I can't be bothered to have a conversation with you!"
She's probably been doing this his whole life. Letting her be an abusive C U Next Tuesday is fine, because she's letting him live there for free while she does it? O.P., don't forget, nursing homes are for old parents who pushed their kids away. Children with good parents, usually let said parents live with them when they get old.