I got caught

I just got caught by my mother , she found a used diaper in the bathroom. I was stupid enough and forgot about the diaper and left it there when i took it off. My mom confronted me , i was so embarrassed i didn't know what to say and i just told her to leave it. It is so horrifying for me now , i just wished she will leave it at that and forget about it now. It was so awkward after . Damm stupid me should have cleared my diaper. I don't know what to expect or do now. she found the diaper and i have no excuses for it.

Sorry to hear about that, it's always super awkward and can be really tense when your parents unknowingly discover this side of you. I've been there myself, not with diapers, I was out of them at the time, but my Mother did discover a stash of baby items and she responded quite poorly, outing me to family members and lamenting why she couldn't have a normal son. The feelings of shame I had and was put through were immense. After that I just sort of stopped and would only buy diapers and baby out for a few more times after that until I got my first apartment to myself.

Based on your post, it's hard to tell what the repercussions will be if any. You say you were confronted by your Mother, was it a negative confrontation? Was it a slightly optimistic one? Or did she just raise a few concerns and eventually let it lie? Did she simply mention that she found a used diaper in the bathroom?

Depending on how she responded, this could be a bad or a good thing. If she responded poorly, it's probably best not to force the issue, let her know that this is a part of who you are and respectfully disagree with her if she is being negative, but don't rock the boat. If she is against this, indulge in secret, on the down-low, if you think you can or wait until you have some privacy before deciding to indulge again. If she responded with tepid positivity, she might be willing to hear you out and let you wear as long as you do so discretely. If she seemed generally indifferent, you can keep on keeping on until she makes this an issue or maybe you could even have a talk with her, contextualize things, perhaps you could come to some sort of understanding.

There are many ways in which you could choose to deal with this, the decision is up to you in the end. I think I, myself and many others on here could guide you better if we had more details regarding this confrontation. In any event try not to worry too much.

sgdl88 said:

I just got caught by my mother , she found a used diaper in the bathroom. I was stupid enough and forgot about the diaper and left it there when i took it off. My mom confronted me , i was so embarrassed i didn't know what to say and i just told her to leave it. It is so horrifying for me now , i just wished she will leave it at that and forget about it now. It was so awkward after . Damm stupid me should have cleared my diaper. I don't know what to expect or do now. she found the diaper and i have no excuses for it.

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Something likke this always comes up sooner or later. It was inevitable, so don't beat yourself up over it.

All you can do now is damage control. My suggestion is to not leave your mom to come up with her own miscnclusions. You are much better off having a talk with her. Sooner, rather than later.

Poofybutt said:

was it a negative confrontation? Was it a slightly optimistic one? Or did she just raise a few concerns and eventually let it lie? Did she simply mention that she found a used diaper in the bathroom?

Depending on how she responded, this could be a bad or a good thing. If she responded poorly, it's probably best not to force the issue, let her know that this is a part of who you are and respectfully disagree with her if she is being negative, but don't rock the boat. If she is against this, indulge in secret, on the down-low, if you think you can or wait until you have some privacy before deciding to indulge again. If she responded with tepid positivity, she might be willing to hear you out and let you wear as long as you do so discretely. If she seemed generally indifferent, you can keep on keeping on until she makes this an issue or maybe you could even have a talk with her, contextualize things, perhaps you could come to some sort of understanding.

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I dunno but it is definitely not a optimistic one , yeah she said she found a used diaper in the bathroom and the only people in the house are me and her, there is no other person to push it to , i wished there were . How could it be a good thing , i never intended to let her know this side of me . I really don't know what to do this time , some months ago i managed to give some excuse when i had diapers delivered and she saw the boxes , i made up some excuse that the online seller pack my stuff into diaper boxes and that its some other stuff inside. Now theres no way my mom would buy it this time , this really sucks dammit.

Well now you don’t have to sneak things. Just be more careful and respectful of your housemates. Do your business in private and make sure you clean up after yourself from now on. It will pass, promise that.


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Just out of curiosity, were they plain whit diapers or printed ABDL diapers. If plain, you can always just say you have been having some bedwettinf issues due to stress at work/school. If printed, well then you may need to just come clean.

PaddedInPuyallup said:

Just out of curiosity, were they plain whit diapers or printed ABDL diapers. If plain, you can always just say you have been having some bedwettinf issues due to stress at work/school. If printed, well then you may need to just come clean.

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They are plain white diapers but i couldn't bring myself to tell her im having bedwetting issues , its too embarrassing especially if its my mom , if its a friend i would lie about bedwetting no doubt . I wanted to use the bedwetting excuse but i just couldn't , if only i had taken like freaking 15 seconds to dispose of it.

Well what would be more embarrassing for you? Telling your mom you have a bedwetting issue or telling her you like to wear and use diapers just for fun? I’m you situation, I would actually come clean to my mom because she is pretty understanding about that things. Or you can just not worry about it unless she brings it up again.

sgdl88 said:

I was stupid enough and forgot about the diaper and left it there when i took it off.

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I always have mini panic attacks when I change in the bathroom, fearing that I may have left something out. Sometimes I'll do checks to make sure I've got everything incriminating with me.

sgdl88 said:

I dunno but it is definitely not a optimistic one , yeah she said she found a used diaper in the bathroom and the only people in the house are me and her, there is no other person to push it to , i wished there were . How could it be a good thing , i never intended to let her know this side of me . I really don't know what to do this time , some months ago i managed to give some excuse when i had diapers delivered and she saw the boxes , i made up some excuse that the online seller pack my stuff into diaper boxes and that its some other stuff inside. Now theres no way my mom would buy it this time , this really sucks dammit.

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It doesn't have to suck. And like I said, it's expected this was going to happen eventually. It always does.

Now is the time to own up to it, take control of the situation, and make the best of it you can.

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Well what would be more embarrassing for you? Telling your mom you have a bedwetting issue or telling her you like to wear and use diapers just for fun? I’m you situation, I would actually come clean to my mom because she is pretty understanding about that things. Or you can just not worry about it unless she brings it up again.

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I personally advocate never lying so long as it can be helped. If the OP says he has bedwetting problems, now he will be forced to always wear a diaper at night, as well as possibly introduce unnecessary concern on his mother for making her believe he has a physical, medical problem.

Though saying the OP wears them just for fun would also be a lie. He clearly does need them- as all DLs do.

I am so sorry that happened to you...
If it helps, I can suggest some relaxing sites!

https://www.calm.com
Calm.com: Not a game, but very soothing images along with calm music and guided meditations in short increments. Good place to start. (Free)

http://www.ferryhalim.com/orisinal/
Orisinal Games: collection of simple in browser games with pretty graphics. Favorites for relaxing play are “The Crossing” and “Wings over Water”. (Free)

https://www.kongregate.com/games/reflexive/music-catch-2
Music Catch 2: Collect musical notes as they fall in time to instrumental music. Particularly good if you find rhythm to be calming. (Free)


Online—Puzzle, a little thinking required

http://machinarium.net
Machinarium: Amazing puzzle game in an immersive world. If you like Myst, Limbo etc, you will like this. One of my favorite games of all time. (Free demo)


Mobile games for when you’re out and need a distraction


Lyne (iPhone, Android): Puzzle game. Trace lines with your fingers to solve—very soothing and takes a little concentration. Constantly updated with new puzzles. ($2.99)


Quell Reflect (iPhone, Android): Move a silver ball through the puzzles to collect raindrops. Amazing soundtrack and sometimes quite challenging at higher levels. ($.99)


I hope this helps!

Slomo said:

I personally advocate never lying so long as it can be helped. If the OP says he has bedwetting problems, now he will be forced to always wear a diaper at night, as well as possibly introduce unnecessary concern on his mother for making her believe he has a physical, medical problem.

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I agree completely. Attempting to convince somebody that you have a medical problem you do not have is pretty much never cool, especially if said mother begins to worry and/or starts setting up treatment/doctor's appointments/etc. and pays for them out of her own pocket. In the overwhelming majority of cases, I'd agree that it's just better to come clean.

While it will probably feel degrading and further the embarrassment you have, the only way to really clear the air is with honesty. You need to tell her it is an addiction that you have but not one that affects other people or you negatively.

The #1 concern of people who find out (that I have seen) is that they think the diaper (being a childish object) is connected to children themselves, they'll think pedophilia. That is a highly dense fog that you certainly need to clear to prevent any further concerns as if you are in a position where your parents may not be the most respectful of your privacy, they may inspect your digital history for anything that incriminates towards such a notion.

But look at the bright side. An addiction to diapers is waaaay better for you than being addicted to something else. You can use diapers indefinitely with no real damage to yourself, but just about any other thing would cause real damage. You have one of the safest addictions in existence.

I think doodooballs is actually, The Crow. All is hopeless and useless, etc. Anyway, Robot Chicken did a great take on the The Crow. I derive all of my philosophy from Robot Chicken.

As to the problem at hand, I agree to not go the bed wetting route. Some of the medical tests involving incontinence can be very unpleasant, plus, you're living with a lie that affects so many things. As others have said, having to wear diapers to bed every night and all that goes with being incontinent could cause a lot of anxiety.

Things could be worse however. At least there is only your mother who knows. When I got caught as a college age student, both my mom and my dad knew. We have younger members on this site who have been caught and besides having a mother and father, they also have siblings living at home, all now knowing.

My mom was not understanding, but it was a long time ago, before the internet. I was having some psychological problems and so my mom searched my bedroom while I was back at college. Instead of finding drugs, she found diapers and gay porn, a hideous combination to have to suddenly deal with. Oddly enough, she knew about infantalism so she knew what I was in to. Unfortunately, she sent me to see a psychiatrist at a residential mental facility and I had to tell him about my desire to wear diapers as well as my attraction to other males, etc.

I tried not to discuss any of this with my mom and I think she eventually wanted to just let it fade into bad history. I graduated from college, got a job and moved out where I could wear diapers to my heart's content, until I got married, and that changed a lot of things. Whether you chose to discuss this with your mom or not is your decision. There may be some things gained by discussing it. She may have her own preconceived notions as to who we are and what we do. She may through time, be more accepting, but she may not. Only you can guess what the outcome might be. All you can do right now is bide your time and see where this goes.

If she does confront you, don't lose your cool or be confrontational. Get your ducks in order as to what you would want to say. Most of it should be informative and putting Infantalism into its best light. It's just a thing that some people do. You might look up what "imprinting" is. There are several good, on-line articles. Knowledge is power.

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I dunno but it is definitely not a optimistic one , yeah she said she found a used diaper in the bathroom and the only people in the house are me and her, there is no other person to push it to , i wished there were . How could it be a good thing , i never intended to let her know this side of me . I really don't know what to do this time , some months ago i managed to give some excuse when i had diapers delivered and she saw the boxes , i made up some excuse that the online seller pack my stuff into diaper boxes and that its some other stuff inside. Now theres no way my mom would buy it this time , this really sucks dammit.

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Thanks for the clarification.

Once again, I am sorry to hear you are in this situation, but it doesn't sound too dire at the moment. From the sounds of things, she hasn't completely disowned you or responded too poorly, so it's not the end of the world, try to keep your composure.

As far as I'm concerned, you have a few options open to you at the moment. You could come out to her about this, that might clear the air and make things less awkward, of course, from the sounds of things you might be too embarrassed or hesitant to do so. You could also simply wait it out, if she doesn't bring this up again and she isn't making it an issue then there's really no reason for you to do so. Let it lie for now and maybe return to indulging these interests in private, especially if coming clean is something that you don't feel comfortable doing.

So, keep your cool, you'll get through this, it's not the end of the world. You can come clean or continue keeping this a secret. At the end of the day, if my Mother found one of my diapers in the trash she probably would have blown a gasket and booted me out, so thank your lucky stars that your Mom, from my understanding anyhow, hasn't blown this out of proportion.

sgdl88 said:

They are plain white diapers but i couldn't bring myself to tell her im having bedwetting issues , its too embarrassing especially if its my mom , if its a friend i would lie about bedwetting no doubt . I wanted to use the bedwetting excuse but i just couldn't , if only i had taken like freaking 15 seconds to dispose of it.

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This is another option you have open to you as well. If you are having some legitimate bedwetting issues then you shouldn't hesitate to tell your Mom that, in fact having a reason for why the diaper was there could make this a lot more understandable and a lot less random to an outside party. I know it might be embarrassing to cop to, but if this is legit, then you have a valid reason for needing the diapers on hand.

Also, don't beat yourself up about this, we all make mistakes. There have been times when I've had company over and I've left a balled up diaper in washroom wastebasket. Now, I'm not in the same situation as you, but still, I've had oversights when it comes to keeping my AB side on the down-low when company is present, in fact, I think a lot of ABDL's have.

I hope things work out for you, hang in there

As some have said i cannot really tell her i have a bedwetting problem as i don't want to have to be forced to wear diaper every night plus i am not really a bedwetter and she may ask me to see a doctor which is stupid since im totally fine, i also absolutely DO NOT want to tell her that i like to wear diapers, i just can't bring myself to say it and it will be weird , its like telling your mom what choice of pornography you like to watch so thats a no way . Well i do have siblings , a brother and a sister but they are married and do not live with us , we're not that close though as our age gap is about 12 years apart . I hope she wouldn't tell any of my siblings too , i dunno what to say now ,i will probably feigned ignorance and pretend it didn't happen and hope my mom keeps quiet about it and forget.

Themanswifesman said:

While it will probably feel degrading and further the embarrassment you have, the only way to really clear the air is with honesty. You need to tell her it is an addiction that you have but not one that affects other people or you negatively.

The #1 concern of people who find out (that I have seen) is that they think the diaper (being a childish object) is connected to children themselves, they'll think pedophilia. That is a highly dense fog that you certainly need to clear to prevent any further concerns as if you are in a position where your parents may not be the most respectful of your privacy, they may inspect your digital history for anything that incriminates towards such a notion.

But look at the bright side. An addiction to diapers is waaaay better for you than being addicted to something else. You can use diapers indefinitely with no real damage to yourself, but just about any other thing would cause real damage. You have one of the safest addictions in existence.

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Actually this too would be a lie. Being a DL is not an addiction no more than being gay is an addiction. I highly suggest you do a little researching yourself.

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sgdl88 said:

As some have said i cannot really tell her i have a bedwetting problem as i don't want to have to be forced to wear diaper every night plus i am not really a bedwetter and she may ask me to see a doctor which is stupid since im totally fine, i also absolutely DO NOT want to tell her that i like to wear diapers, i just can't bring myself to say it and it will be weird , its like telling your mom what choice of pornography you like to watch so thats a no way . Well i do have siblings , a brother and a sister but they are married and do not live with us , we're not that close though as our age gap is about 12 years apart . I hope she wouldn't tell any of my siblings too , i dunno what to say now ,i will probably feigned ignorance and pretend it didn't happen and hope my mom keeps quiet about it and forget.

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Then don't tell her you need them for bedwetting, and don't tell her you just like wearing them. Tell her the truth.

If she is the type of person to confront you about it and you don’t think you can just “not ever discuss it” can I suggest you write down succinctly what you are comfortable with her knowing so you can either read it out or just hand it over.

So your options being:

Lying about it. As some parents might not get over the fact that their child is some weirdo who loves diapers this is an underestimated choice. However I would say you only bedwetted a few times because of high stress or you had a few drinks too many (dk how old u are). This way medical responses are unlikely...

Coming clean. Lots of threads about this one. Check em out if u want.

Ignore. I'd say this is not the worst option. It's wonderful how people can forget about things and diminish their importance over time.

My mom asked me today again about the diapers, i told her i don't wanna talk about it and that it was nothing for her to worry about and it is nothing really . i don't even know how to explain to her , i tried to divert the topic to other stuff , anyway she seem to not be privy at the moment but i know for sure this issue is at the back of her mind . The worst thing is when we were watching tv while having dinner and theres a diaper ad came up , it is so embarrassing for me , well she didn't say anything but i know she wanted to. It is kinda ironic as when people say they got caught i will think to myself i will not get caught like this but it actually happened to me . Looking back i could only blame myself for being stupid enough to not take 10 seconds to clear it.