makena43 said:
Geez, I wish I read this last post awhile back. The key was if you don't know for sure if the person is or isn't open minded don't Do it.
Can't tell if that's sarcasm or if you had a bad experience telling someone before. In any case, I'm sorry and I wish you luck in telling friends in the near future.
I just think there is never really a surefire way to instigate these things, you really have to know the person and have longevity and a mutual understanding with them. You have to be able to read the room too, I think most people intuitively know if someone will be understanding or not and when the time is right or not.
If you have really good friends, who have been your friends forever and you have shared many interests and a lot of time with, then there is no reason not to confide in them . If you do tell your friends, just make sure you think they can handle it, I don't think anyone wants to lose a friendship over being an ABDL. You could make the argument that a true friend should like you for who you are, unconditionally and I agree, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they will accept you, you need to really feel things out, it's almost like dating or making a big decision in a way.
When I took it upon myself to tell my friends, I waited for the right time, sometimes it came naturally like when we were talking and someone brought up alternative lifestyles and kinks, sometimes I worked up the nerve, prepared what I wanted to say before hand and talked with them in an honest manner without coming across as over-eager or awkward. Every time I decided to tell one of my closest friends, it worked, I even told a more recent friend and she accepted it as well, they all understood to some extent and we are all still friends to this day, that being said I would have never told them if I didn't feel they were honest, accepting people and I certainly wouldn't have told them if we didn't have a history together.
Having friends who know about and understand this side of you is a wonderful thing. I hope everyone can work up the courage to at least tell one close friend and I hope even more that this friend will be accepting