anton
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- Diaper Lover
- Incontinent
Ok, to start I am DL and slightly incon. I wear almost 24/7 and my wife is fine with it. Early on I was just DL and she was not ok with it. I let her know very early in our relationship and basically did it when she was not around. Every once in a while it would cause a pretty good argument, but never came to anything.
We hit a point about 7 years in where she decided she was ok with me wearing as long as everything was kept from the kids or anyone else finding out. Good deal for the most part. During this time I told her that I would love for her to participate from time to time and she did indulge me once, for a few minutes. Fast forward many years, incon came on and I started wearing to bed at night and eventually daytime as well.
I have told her from time to time that it would speak love to me if she would be willing to put on a diaper occasionally. Her response was, “why would I do that?”. I was crushed, but soldiered on.
She has developed a drinking problem that has led to problems with bladder control at night, but refuses to try diapers. Disposable pads and a waterproof pad with a bath towel are her preferred diaper at this time. A week or so ago, she ran out of pads and ended up putting on one of my Tykables overnights.
Imagine my surprise when I came to bed.
I mentioned it a few days later and we had a good discussion about it. I told her that it spoke to me on a deep level and was very thankful. She let me know that it was not intentional, she just had no other option. Since then, she went without the next night and wet the bed and is now back to the pads.
Yes, we both know that drinking to this point is unhealthy and she does need to get to a place where she can stop altogether.
Here is where I am driving myself crazy. She did something unintentionally that spoke to me deeply. Now she is intentionally choosing not to do it again. I can’t fully explain the hurt I feel because of this.
Am I over reacting? I’d love to get the opinion of an SO on this as well. I love her with all my heart and am totally confused by the situation. Is it me being weird?
We hit a point about 7 years in where she decided she was ok with me wearing as long as everything was kept from the kids or anyone else finding out. Good deal for the most part. During this time I told her that I would love for her to participate from time to time and she did indulge me once, for a few minutes. Fast forward many years, incon came on and I started wearing to bed at night and eventually daytime as well.
I have told her from time to time that it would speak love to me if she would be willing to put on a diaper occasionally. Her response was, “why would I do that?”. I was crushed, but soldiered on.
She has developed a drinking problem that has led to problems with bladder control at night, but refuses to try diapers. Disposable pads and a waterproof pad with a bath towel are her preferred diaper at this time. A week or so ago, she ran out of pads and ended up putting on one of my Tykables overnights.
Imagine my surprise when I came to bed.
I mentioned it a few days later and we had a good discussion about it. I told her that it spoke to me on a deep level and was very thankful. She let me know that it was not intentional, she just had no other option. Since then, she went without the next night and wet the bed and is now back to the pads.
Yes, we both know that drinking to this point is unhealthy and she does need to get to a place where she can stop altogether.
Here is where I am driving myself crazy. She did something unintentionally that spoke to me deeply. Now she is intentionally choosing not to do it again. I can’t fully explain the hurt I feel because of this.
Am I over reacting? I’d love to get the opinion of an SO on this as well. I love her with all my heart and am totally confused by the situation. Is it me being weird?
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