How to subtly let parents know?

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I know this is a near repetitive topic, but supposing I wanted to drop the bomb (and its a pretty potent bomb), is there any way I could do it subtly. To simply say "I like to ..." seems a bit out there for me, but I do feel like i could deal with my parents knowing, and think theres the potential for more benefits than negatives.
 
Normally I would usually say take the advice of the big little podcast and tell them if you think it won't cause you harm to employment, your living situation, education, or will provide some enhancement to the relationship.

As for telling parents, I'd say let them in gently and don't go in to it with a "I'm super weird" or this "thing I like is is really weird". It's a part of you and you are trying to embrace it and let them know so they don't find out another way.

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I know this seems cowardly and difficult, but is there a more subtle approach than explicitly saying it.
 
Just don't. Really, your underwear fetish is none of their business, and it will probably make your mother cry. Do you want to be the kind of jerk who makes their mother cry?

Unless you live in some weird family situation where you share your porn and kinks with your parents, then there is no reason to share this with them.
 
It aint a kink for everyone.
 
Your profile says you're 27 - do you still live with your parents? Either way, anything subtle I can think of (leaving a browser open to this site or xp medical or similar, or not disposing of one secretly enough) my parents would take to the absolute extreme and assume the worst ("he's in to pedophilia!"). Best bet is to just have a conversation with them and tell them what's really going on if you really feel this is necessary. I don't recommend it though.
 
Foxroxsox said:
Just don't. Really, your underwear fetish is none of their business, and it will probably make your mother cry. Do you want to be the kind of jerk who makes their mother cry?

Unless you live in some weird family situation where you share your porn and kinks with your parents, then there is no reason to share this with them.

this, 100%. From what I've heard, everyone that has shared ABDL stuff to their parents either intentionally or mistakenly, has ended up in an awkward situation and has regretted doing it. I get that you want to alleviate discomfort in the house between you and your parents by doing this. But it most likely wont. It will make things even more awkward.
 
First, determine if you have a sexual diaper fetish (SD), OR if you are ABDL.

If it's a fetish, then like the others have said, you're better off keeping your sexual habits to yourself. Your parents don't describe the sex habbits to you, so neither should you to them.

If you're abdl, AND close to your parents, then that's completely different. You are right there are more benefits than down sides (for both of you).

Ultimately though, the only way to really tell them is to be open and direct. Just start off picking a time when you know they are not rushed, AND in a good mood. Tell them you'd like to talk about something very personal to you. Once you have their attention, then go into your explanations.

This is also a good spot to otherwise hand them a letter of everything you plan to say. You'll be nervous, so this is one way you can be sure you'll go over everything. As always though, be there when they read it.
 
well i think you gotta really know your parents, for me i would never tell my parents (being asian) the stereotypical asian parents that you see on tv, internet etc are more or less true but not to the point that my parents would disown or anything like that. From what i see the american parents are kinda like their friend and can confide to their parents about anything usually without judging them.
 
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Secret240 “Knock knock”
Parents “who’s there?”
Secret240 “I wear diapers”

Secret240 “mom, dad, I wanted to let you know how awesome you are and that I’ve wet my self twice while talking. It’s ok though because I’m wearing a diaper”

Secret340 “I’ve decided that I don’t want to go in to old age unprepared. So I’m practicing now by wearing adult diapers and forgetting things. Like where the bathroom is”

Secret240 “all I want for my birthday is adult diapers”

Secret240 “what smells like pee? Oh, that’s my diaper”


Oh wait... you needed subtle...
 
My parents are the head pastors of a Christian church. There is no way I would tell them about my DL side because I'm positive they would say I was possessed by a demon and I have to be prayed over constantly until it's out. That was basically my wife's reaction when I told her too, but I felt I had to tell her since she is my wife.
 
sgdl88 said:
well i think you gotta really know your parents, for me i would never tell my parents (being asian) the stereotypical asian parents that you see on tv, internet and meme are more or less true but not to the point that my parents would disown or anything like that. From what i see the american parents are kinda like their friend and can confide to their parents about anything usually without judging them.

Well that's the way it's "supposed" to be. Kind and with uncnditional love for their children, without judgement. The sad reality is a LOT of parents are not like that.

That's why I always put in that disclaimer of "if you're close to them". Not all parents allow their kids that trust or unconditional love, and so we sometimes have to keep a certain physical and/or emotional distance from them. In cases like this, yeah it's a bad idea to tell them about your diapers.
 
PaddedInPuyallup said:
My parents are the head pastors of a Christian church. There is no way I would tell them about my DL side because I'm positive they would say I was possessed by a demon and I have to be prayed over constantly until it's out. That was basically my wife's reaction when I told her too, but I felt I had to tell her since she is my wife.

That sounds like a location I personally would endeavor to escape...
 
You said there would be some benefits from telling them and I was wondering what those benefits might be. Are you still living at home, so you would like to wear diapers more freely? That might be a benefit but I think it might be better to wear discretely on the chance that they might eventually discover a diaper or two. If discovered, you then have a legitimate reason for explaining why you wear diapers. Otherwise, I wouldn't tell as those conversations are usually extremely uncomfortable simply because of the nature of wearing diapers.

On a side note, I thought Mayhem's comment was pretty funny. He does make a point though. How does one just segue into that kind of discussion, especially with parents? Mine discovered my stash and sent me to a psychiatrist so obviously, not all parents accept diaper wearing.
 
Subtly tell them by forcing yourself to get caught. You just need to get it over with and endure what happens. Life goes on, do you want to freely wear diapers, or not? Leave a diaper out somewhere in your own space that they may see it. And leave it there until someone acknowledges its existence. Its a bold move but ripping the bandaid off in one quick pull just becomes the best solution.
 
Personally, I would probably refrain from divulging your interest to your parents unless you're 100% sure that they will be okay with it AND there is a good reason to do so. I've always treated it as "need to know," and unless I was certain that there was some reason someone else needed to know I'd keep it to myself. It's impossible to say what reaction you'd receive, but more likely than not it would be mixed to negative unless your parents are very open-minded, and in any event it is likely to be an unpleasant and awkward conversation.

If you're certain you want to tell them or there is some reason it is necessary, however, the best option is likely to be honest, confident, and positive throughout. Focus not so much on what the interest itself is, but rather why it is important to you. Be sure to answer any questions they have so they don't jump to incorrect conclusions, but avoid extra details that could lead to a negative impression. It is probably better to have one complete conversation about the subject at a time of your choosing rather than hinting at it and trying to provoke a conversation, though if you have a strong suspicion that they know something it is probably best not to let it sit idle.

I can't say for sure the above is best in every case, but it is likely the route I would choose should I feel the need to share with someone lacking the same interest.
 
mayhem said:
Secret240 “Knock knock”
Parents “who’s there?”
Secret240 “I wear diapers”

Secret240 “mom, dad, I wanted to let you know how awesome you are and that I’ve wet my self twice while talking. It’s ok though because I’m wearing a diaper”

Secret340 “I’ve decided that I don’t want to go in to old age unprepared. So I’m practicing now by wearing adult diapers and forgetting things. Like where the bathroom is”

Secret240 “all I want for my birthday is adult diapers”

Secret240 “what smells like pee? Oh, that’s my diaper”


Oh wait... you needed subtle...

God dammit haha
 
dogboy said:
You said there would be some benefits from telling them and I was wondering what those benefits might be. Are you still living at home, so you would like to wear diapers more freely? That might be a benefit but I think it might be better to wear discretely on the chance that they might eventually discover a diaper or two. If discovered, you then have a legitimate reason for explaining why you wear diapers. Otherwise, I wouldn't tell as those conversations are usually extremely uncomfortable simply because of the nature of wearing diapers.

On a side note, I thought Mayhem's comment was pretty funny. He does make a point though. How does one just segue into that kind of discussion, especially with parents? Mine discovered my stash and sent me to a psychiatrist so obviously, not all parents accept diaper wearing.

Telling parents does have benefits. First, it isn't a matter of IF they will find out anyways, it's WHEN. And when they do find out, your parents will automatically come to their own misconclusions. This is almost always going to be bad for both of you. Them overreacting, and you being punished for having them. By telling your parents, and more importantly fully explaining it all, you will be saving them from that overreaction.

Secondly, telling them up front also gives you the chance to point out how much you are trusting your parents with this inner most part of yourself. And how vulnerable it makes you by opening up to them. Smart and loving parents will see that, and be comforted by it. Furthering the love they share with you.

Third, simply having them know (but still keeping your diapers private) will save both of you any awkwardness when they do stumble across your stash or otherwise spot when you are wearing one.

Of course, all of this is dependent on your ability to explain your diapers fully, AND their openess to listen and love/trust you. A failure on any one part could lead to a bad situation- one that is pretty well guaranteed to happen even if you try and keep it hidden anyways. So the only logical choice is to try and head it off first, good or bad.

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rideoflife1000 said:
Subtly tell them by forcing yourself to get caught. You just need to get it over with and endure what happens. Life goes on, do you want to freely wear diapers, or not? Leave a diaper out somewhere in your own space that they may see it. And leave it there until someone acknowledges its existence. Its a bold move but ripping the bandaid off in one quick pull just becomes the best solution.

Why would you do this? It's bad advice! Don't force your parents to come to their own misconclusion for why you have diapers. Get in front of the discussion and guide them to the proper conclusion- one that helps both of you.
 
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