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TheMat said:
One last hurdle before zen master status - explaining everything to my wife who has no idea that I've been getting and using diapers.
Yes TheMat,
That hurdle sounds like something that may require some work on your part, and on the part of your wife. My first marriage was entered into with my wife's full access to my ABDL side, but she never accepted it. I insisted before we got married that she see me wearing a diaper at least once. So she did agree to that, but we never talked about her or my feelings about it ever after that one uncomfortable "encounter."
Obviously that inability to accept on her part at least contributed somewhat to our eventual divorce. My inability at the time to "tease out" both of our feelings about this at the time, probably also contributed to our eventual divorce. There were also many other contributing factors, which I won't bore you with here. Now I know my next marriage will have to be with someone who is able to better understand, and therefore accept this part of me.
I now hope that my next relationship might be with someone who is able to talk openly with me about their own "irrational side," (which I now believe everyone has, whether they like it or not), just as easily as I will have to be willing to talk with them openly about my own "irrational ABDL side." A tall order, which I realize may never be filled, but which I have reason to hope will yet be filled.
Ultimately, I think that the first person in a relationship that must learn to fully understand and accept an "irrational side" is the one with the "irrational side." Why and how could we ever expect another to accept this part of us fully, if we haven't yet figured out how to fully accept and integrate it into our own lives first?
Yooda
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