From experience, showers are always a big help. A shower can clean-up that area and leave you feeling refreshed in minutes. I guess my question to you would be, why do you not want to use the shower? Is it because it takes too long? Is it because your husband uses it frequently? Is it because you can't be completely little when operating it? I'm not judging, I'm just curious, most AB's who mess use the shower at some point in their clean-up.
That being said, showers aren't the only way. Try using moist baby wipes. I have gotten pretty close to being fully clean down there with moist baby wipes, of course, be prepared to use a fair amount of them if you aren't going to hop in the shower afterwards. I had a friend once who used a warm, damp, wash cloth for clean-up, but you'd probably have to wash that wash cloth almost immediately after.
The reason a shower is great is because it can help you to fight odours down there and wash the area properly. I suppose you could use scented baby wipes to eliminate the smell and clean thoroughly, but I personally like using moist unscented wipes, there's something to the scented wipes that can irritate that area, but hey, just because scented wipes irritate me doesn't mean they'll do the same for you.
Also, this post possibly could have been started under the Diaper Talk discussion forum.