Balancing your DL life

Hi all,
im just wondering how everyone manages to balance their DL life with the rest of their life, things like work, friends, partners college / uni etc.

I feel as if i am getting better at balancing everything out so wanted to know how everyone else does it!

Take it one day at a time. Wear your diapers as often as you can without sacrificing relationships or placing yourself in a awkward social situations. Enjoy this aspect of your life.

I wear once a day, except when I'm going to be with family and friends.

I think about balance often myself as well. I try to only wear diapers to bed every other night or so. But I also tend go through streaks of diaper wearing when it applies to daytime use. When I’m traveling, it ticks up, but when I’m busy with work or family during the week back in my home town, not so much wearing. It’s good to have limits and boundaries because like many things, this can become an unhealthy obsession.


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It seems there are times I'm really into diapers and other times I'm not. Two days ago I was and today I wasn't. I probably was less depressed two days ago because my mind was distracted by regressing and the enjoyment of being diapered. Today I wasn't as interested, so I did other things like reading and practicing piano.

I think there's a time and place for everything, diapers being only one of those things. If wearing diapers is sexual, which it is for me, it's going to have a strong pull and then it can tend to offset the balance. Sometimes you just have to fight that if there are other, more important things to do, like work or school or even socializing. The other thing is to not let that sexual pull make you do something you would regret like telling the wrong person, wearing a diaper where an unknowing friend might find out, etc. We all have to live in this world and make life work for ourselves.

The way I manage things personally is to ensure that I only wear when I really want to. This may sound obvious, I know. But there are definitely times when I feel like I 'should' be wearing, because that moment feels like a good opportunity (free time, housemates aren't around, etc), even if I don't actually feel a strong urge to wear.

As it happens, I only wear maybe once or twice a week, and can easily go through a period of a few weeks without wearing. The less times I wear, the more I look forward to it when I actually do. I don't want nappies to become routine.

Bottom line is, I don't let wearing get in the way of other activities such as socialising, engaging in hobbies, and obviously work. Nappies always fit around everything else for me.

Also on a minor note, I often experience problems with rashes, so inevitably have to take a break to allow my skin to recover anyway.

In a word, MODERATION.

Wear what you like, but don't expect the world around you to understand.

My ABDL life is mostly something I do in the privacy of my room on the weekends or days I might have off from work.

I don't go out wearing padding underneath my clothes nor do I wear any article of clothing that might give away my little side.

I wear a diaper maybe once a week or once every two weeks (again on a weekend), just depends when my desire comes back around but its not a regular thing which is good because diapers are expensive!

dogboy said:

It seems there are times I'm really into diapers and other times I'm not. Two days ago I was and today I wasn't. I probably was less depressed two days ago because my mind was distracted by regressing and the enjoyment of being diapered. Today I wasn't as interested, so I did other things like reading and practicing piano.

I think there's a time and place for everything, diapers being only one of those things. If wearing diapers is sexual, which it is for me, it's going to have a strong pull and then it can tend to offset the balance. Sometimes you just have to fight that if there are other, more important things to do, like work or school or even socializing. The other thing is to not let that sexual pull make you do something you would regret like telling the wrong person, wearing a diaper where an unknowing friend might find out, etc. We all have to live in this world and make life work for ourselves.

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That's how it is for me. Diapers for me are purely sexual, so I only wear once in a great while. I think wearing 24/7 would kill the thrill for me. I do all kinds of activities, and I don't feel the urge to wear them when I am out and about.

I just do it in the privacy of my own home, when others aren't around. Everyone's desires are different, so it's a matter of fine tuning lifestyle balance to your own desires.

I generally keep my ABDL side limited to a group of ABDL friends. So it's pretty easy to just keep it all around them. I will wear a diaper generally once a week (excluding the times I'm out with other ABDLs) to satisfy my desires. I know all my other desires and interests don't really go well with ABDL, and you wouldn't expect someone with those interests to also be wearing diapers and drinking from bottles. But I've managed to strike a good balance between my ABDL desires, my non-ABDL interests, and work.

I guess my diaper life is unbalanced base on i wanted so badly to wear in public that something in my mind makes it so I will always be uncomfortable around people in diapers. So its disappointing. But maybe for me its best being with a girl and keep it home with only her. So looks like my diaper buying is going to change also. Well at least I got people to help me here at adisc.

I wear 24/7 unless I'm going to Drs or anywhere I need to change in public like gym changing rooms etc.

I'm probably a bit addicted tbh,,,

I've been 24/7 since April and see no point in going back to normal underwear. Nobody except those I've told know about it and since I view diapers as just awesome underwear I see no point in wearing the normal kind that do nothing for me.

Balance is the key to of most anything in life. I love pizza and chips. If I live on that exclusively, I will likely become quite unhealthy. So some moderation is necessary. For me, diapers are a sexual turn on as well as a convenience at night or on long driving drips. Definetly not a need at my stage of life. But I know it has at times made close contact with my wife (who is not a fan of me wearing) difficult or even taken the sexual urge away from her if I used a diaper recently for the pleasurable end result. So it can be a struggle at times to balance things out. It is why I tend to wear only a few times a month now. It is a challange for sure, but that needs to stay more in the background for me if my home life is to stay healthy too. Balance is always key.

Well, on one hand I guess you could say that this is a thing that can/needs to be “balanced”, but in my opinion there really is neither a way nor reason to “balance” it.

The only thing that you need to consider is where and when do you feel comfortable with wearing a diaper.
For example I will never wear one at work, but I will always have one in my backpack to get in after work and go on my way home or any other errands that I might have that day.
Sure even besides work there are situations where I’ll probably never be diapered like for example visiting certain family members or having certain guest over at my apartment.
But besides that you could say that ever since the day I moved out in my own, like TRULY mine and only mine own place I’m diapered about as 24/7 as it gets.
And when proper precautions are taken you shouldn’t have any problems wearing during whatever you are doing out and about.
Okay sure there are activities where being diapered would make zero sense or even be a hindrance like let say some sports or physical activities, so I guess holding back at those times should be a no brainer to anyone.

Altho on the other hand one could argue that this is being balanced which would render this post pointless, but ehh... just my thoughts on the subject.


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I had been wearing diapers for quite some time without my wife knowing. Unfortunately she found some I had stashed. Thankfully she basically took it all in stride. Finally one day I told here I was going to start wearing them at night to keep from having to get up so many times. She didn't object at all and I was in heaven. I totally love my diapers and now will wear one during the day at times. I now buy them by the case and she is fine with that too. Guess you could say my DL life is totally balanced now.

Wish I had someone who was OK with my addiction, I basically only wear when I'm home alone or going out alone. But that is what works for me.

Pete67 said:

I wear 24/7 unless I'm going to Drs or anywhere I need to change in public like gym changing rooms etc.

I'm probably a bit addicted tbh,,,

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I wear all the time

I have a weird schedule now, where my days off are during the week. So I'm diapered those days from when the kids go to school until 30 minutes before they come home. I'll also wear one of my diapers when I go out to a movie or for beers.

I also have some Depend underwear that I use when running, on long drives, out for beers or shopping trips.

I don't know if it's balanced...but I feel comfortable with my current amount of diaper wearing. I do get kind of frustrated if I have to do something that interrupts that schedule, but it doesn't happen too often.

The wife and I have recently been discussing this very thing in couple's therapy (we found a wonderful, kink-positive therapist), and we have decided that a fair arrangement would be for me to wear every other night... Daytime isn't really an option right now except for the one day a week I work from home.

I'm fine with this arrangement... She's a little squicked out by my diapers, but accepts me and my love of being diapered, so that seems like a balanced solution. I'd prefer to wear every night, but it doesn't work for her... Still... everyone is different, so what works for someone won't work for others.