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So this begs the question what would you do in this type of situation if you've been outed. I've already faced it with my diapers so far nonthing elsr. For a year or so now my youngest has played my forgetfulness to his advantage. Example i just got out of the shower. While typing this this realized my baby product's are still in the shower. I've tried hidden drawers, lock drawers, but being so forgetful they were out of sight out of mind for me. Anyhow I kept finding diapers under my youngest son's bed.
Story before I joined adisc. I found my self lying to my youngest son about my diapers. Telling him they were for medical problems. This went on for a while, and the problem persisted even as of the first of this month. I've had that proverbial conversation we've all had with our parents. Why? It took a while but the answer started comming. Boiled down to "They're comfy". Facepalm I should have known.
Most recent past. (Last month)
I've read and read a lot of this fourmn and from my own child hood experiences started having big reservations about my stance with him. The big thing I'm sure we can all agree on. Is the simple fact we was driven underground to indulge ourselves.
Having time to stew on all that I was reading and trying to understand my life. I had a very hard time accepting and knowing that I was being the biggest hypocrite a parent could be.
So what did I do.
Well knowing that he's embarrassed by it. I had a chance with him to have a private conversation.Before i go to much farther this biy is very smart. So it was only time before serious questions came up. I sat him down explained the community ab/dl. He did not ask what I was. I showed him my stash of diapers. Now that he knew my secret. I knew his secret we bonded to keep it amongst the 2 of us.
As we wound the conversation to a close I set some clear expectations with him. Take better care of your personal hygiene (showering, hand washing, general care.) If he did that. I would buy him a pack of diapers/pull ups. I did put the stipulation. Mom had to be at work, brother had to be over at friends and if he wanted to put a diaper on and wet run around that was his thing. I would not allow him yo run around smelling like a bucket of pee.
While hes not earned his chance to wear a diaper/pull up. If placed in this situation what would you do? Be in denial or have an earnest conversation?
I guess from my perspective. I have a sliver of hope he grows out of it. At the same time if its something he choose he wants then he should not have to live in fear.
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