Because I no longer get to wear very often during the week, the weekends are pretty much all I have, so I've opted for a Northshore Care Air Supreme. That way, if my wife wakes up, she won't be able to hear the telltale crinkle as I walk. Yes, it's a thick diaper--especially when wet, as it is now--but with a long t-shirt on, you cant tell.
Short answer: Northshore AirSupreme, wet, in stealth mode.
-RMS