Drifter said:The problem is there is no rational way to explain it to others. Even people on this site are reluctant to accept the only rational explanation for loving diapers, so it's unlikely that others outside our group would accept any explanation. For those who have managed to keep it a secret from their families, being outed would most likely change the family dynamics in unwanted ways. In rare cases some family members would be openly accepting and supportive but most would harbor suspicions of your mental health and moral standards. There is no shortage of testimony here that family relationships can be strained or destroyed by being discovered.
Most of us would be uncomfortable with coworkers or friends in social groups finding out our secret. There is no way to prevent anyone from coming to a "misconclusion". They have the right to decide for themselves if our desires are sick, disgusting, and/or signs of serious mental illness. Some people would display a 'live and let live' attitude and feign disinterest but even they would no doubt find our freakish behavior at least a little disturbing, and that would have a dampening effect on the relationship.
Most of us aren't overly concerned about strangers noticing, but the consequences of unknowing relatives or acquaintances noticing would be, at the very least, uncomfortable.
Of course there is, and you just said it. Loving diapers. And preventing miscommunication is easily done with lots of good communication.
I've been able to see a far amount of those negative reactions come from people here saying, admitting, or otherwise describing, just how little they were trying to communicate that loving diaper is a part of who we are. Then there's those who say they were ourtright trying to hide it and or avoid that communication outright.
Now yes, there are people who have already come to their own misconclusions before any actual communication was attempted. Again though, that would still be partly the fault of members here who chose to keep this hidden yet failed to do so and were caught before any explanation was attempted.
And as far as things being uncomfortable, they don't have to be. It's only when we ourselves are uncomfortable with our diapers that having others know is also uncomfortable. If diapers are no big deal to you, then it's no big deal if others know about them, regardless if they are informed well enough to be able to accept it.