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Hey guys, i decided to make this account because i am obsessed with diapers, i have a grand plan of buying them tomorrow at my local food mart place.

I wanted to ask some questions. i have been a diaper lover since i can remember, of course for 90% of the time i have been living i have been learning about it. So of course i tried to remove it, i got successful for a while and i didn't think or do anything related to diapers for a long time. but the urge to have them took over and i did inappropriate things with my body and finally discovered what this fetish was and i embraced it. since i learned about what m* is i did it more and more often and i am totally addicted but throughout this year its been a bit weird with my fetish. every time i look at someone that looks cute or is sexually comforting i look up that persons look with a drop of diapers in the image. For example, I was on the bus browsing my phone and i saw a kid about my age or maybe even younger with curley hair and i found it attracting so when i got home i searched up "kids with curley hair in diapers," the same thing happened when i was watching a documentary that was related to japan, the girl was naked (obviously not on camera) but they had her shirt and clothes off to imply that she was naked, and then in my head that made me think of diapers, so when i went to bed i browsed on my phone and searched up "japanese girls in diapers"

i know diaper fetish is not wrong

but is me getting sexually turned on by things then me wanting to see them in diapers petophile like?

please help guys

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Also is this where i post stuff like this?
 
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1 unless your under 18 (in which case you shouldn't be on here) it wouldn't be pedophilia looking at someone your own age. 2 Lust comes in many flavors.
 
sorry, about my response i have never been a good writer. What I mean't to say is, people around my age and younger................

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If you find yourself sexually attracted to children, and think you may EVER act on it, get help. That is never acceptable, under any circumstances. Period.

Now, you mentioned that you did "inappropriate things" with your body but I would submit that as long as you're not causing yourself physical harm, you can't really do inappropriate things to your own body. Did it feel good? Did you enjoy it? Did it hurt anyone else? Then you're good.

Sexuality is part of the human experience. We're all different and what turns one person on may turn another off. There's nothing wrong with that, and fetishes are just an expression of a positive memory or feeling. What makes me attracted to diapers? Who knows. But it feels good, I enjoy the hell out of it, and it hurts no one. I see no value in wasting energy on feeling bad that I have something that gives me joy and comfort. It's not like it's going anywhere so I may as well enjoy it.

Look, there have been countless posts about why we're like this. I'll save you some reading. Some of us know why and can trace it back to an experience but most of us don't know and will never know. Is it innate or did something happen? I have no idea, and the answer may well be different for each of us.

-RMS
 
If you are say 18, and see a 16-year-old who turns you on, you're not a pedophile. I would caution you, however, that pictures of said 16-year-old in diapers would be borderline child porn...

It is helpful to figure out whether you are being turned on by the diaper, or the person wearing the diaper. In your case, since you find yourself attracted to the person first, then want to see them diapered, I would say it is both for you. If it's a person around your own age, it's cool. But if say, you're 18, see an eight-year-old, get turned on, then want to see them in a diaper... That would be pedophilia.

Otherwise, take RMS401'S advice.
 
KimbaWolfNagihiko said:
If you are say 18, and see a 16-year-old who turns you on, you're not a pedophile. I would caution you, however, that pictures of said 16-year-old in diapers would be borderline child porn...

It is helpful to figure out whether you are being turned on by the diaper, or the person wearing the diaper. In your case, since you find yourself attracted to the person first, then want to see them diapered, I would say it is both for you. If it's a person around your own age, it's cool. But if say, you're 18, see an eight-year-old, get turned on, then want to see them in a diaper... That would be pedophilia.

Otherwise, take RMS401'S advice.
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Actually, wouldn't it be the other way around, if your 18 and see someone who's 18 of over its not pedophilia, but if your 18 and see someone who's 16 (which is a minor) then that is pedophilia.

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BabyMax2000 said:
Actually, wouldn't it be the other way around, if your 18 and see someone who's 18 of over its not pedophilia, but if your 18 and see someone who's 16 (which is a minor) then that is pedophilia.

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Pedophilia is attraction to children who have not reached puberty, not a certain magic age. Most 16-year-olds are past that.
 
BabyMax2000 said:
Actually, wouldn't it be the other way around, if your 18 and see someone who's 18 of over its not pedophilia, but if your 18 and see someone who's 16 (which is a minor) then that is pedophilia.

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Technically it is ephebophilia (attraction to mid-to-late teens), though it doesn't really count if you're in the same age range (at least psychologically. Legally is a different story).
 
filthyboy said:
sorry, about my response i have never been a good writer. What I mean't to say is, people around my age and younger................

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your how old?and are attracted to people that are how much younger than yourself?? this would be the deciding factor.


This topic is the MAIN (and probably only) reason why i feel completely repelled against myself for having a diaper fetish. Lots of confusion and grey area within our community and outsiders about this and it raises my blood pressure when someone points at us and says pedophile. People on here and elsewhere bring up these topics (am i a pedophile? am i wrong for being turned on by younger teens? etc) and I know he and others probably arent attracted to children, them posting things like this makes it difficult to truly know the answer though. We have sex offenders that were said to have diaper fetishes, which also doesn't help :/

I also think that posting topics like this isnt good for visitors on this site. This could be someones wife or girlfriend/boyfriend that is trying to understand abdls in a positive manner and when you have people questioning themselves whether they are pedophiles or not on a diaper/ab site which is already frowned upon as being "creepy" or questionable as to whether we are attracted to minors or not :/. It ruins those chances of acceptance by those onlookers to say the least. :/
 
ryan2127 said:
your how old?and are attracted to people that are how much younger than yourself?? this would be the deciding factor.


This topic is the MAIN (and probably only) reason why i feel completely repelled against myself for having a diaper fetish. Lots of confusion and grey area within our community and outsiders about this and it raises my blood pressure when someone points at us and says pedophile. People on here and elsewhere bring up these topics (am i a pedophile? am i wrong for being turned on by younger teens? etc) and I know he and others probably arent attracted to children, them posting things like this makes it difficult to truly know the answer though. We have sex offenders that were said to have diaper fetishes, which also doesn't help :/

I also think that posting topics like this isnt good for visitors on this site. This could be someones wife or girlfriend/boyfriend that is trying to understand abdls in a positive manner and when you have people questioning themselves whether they are pedophiles or not on a diaper/ab site which is already frowned upon as being "creepy" or questionable as to whether we are attracted to minors or not :/. It ruins those chances of acceptance by those onlookers to say the least. :/
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On the other hand... should we refuse to offer confused people an ear, simply because it might make us look bad?
 
Starrunner said:
I can only imagine the courage it must have taken to open up here and write about these feelings. I admire the strength you have shown. As others have said here, if you are attracted to children while fantasizing about diaper scenarios, then there are evident signs of pedophilia for which you should seek treatment immediately.

It is important to differentiate your diaper fetish from pedophilia. The ABDL community has frequently been bashed by media and social media portraying us as child molesters, perverts, while mistakenly equating it with pedophilia. It can be difficult to accept our own feelings of a harmless fetish while being constantly exposed to negative stereotypes and misinformation about our fetish. So the first thing you need to do is differentiate from harmful public perceptions and your own actual feelings.

It should be noted that pedophilia is an illness. You have a lot going for you in that you are willing to ask questions, you are open to getting help, and you have not physically acted on any inappropriate feelings. There are a lot of reasons to be hopeful. If you come to the realization that you are indeed suffering with this illness, you need to realize that it does not not make you a bad person, it is only an indicator that you need professional treatment to manage the symptoms.

There is a stigma attached to pedophilia and even when people are just questioning their feelings, the shame can prevent them from seeking the help they need. Asking questions here about something that could be a problem for you is both honourable and courageous. It puts you in a better position to get closer to 'normal,' and to obtain proper care for an illness, or to stop obsessing over feelings that may not be symptoms of pedophila.

You deserve to be happy and to have the opportunity to develop healthy relationships. If you have any reason to suspect your inclinations may be harmful to yourself or others, my hope is that you will reach out and talk to a professional in the real world as soon as possible. Most of us have things in our lives that can depress, worry, stress, or cause anger. Sharing such personal issues can be difficult, but finding answers to ourselves can be empowering.

My thoughts are with you.
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Thank you for you're opinion, it was indeed hard posting this because it gives abdls and dl shame and makes us look like pedophiles. I don't wanna name us like this, but i had too address this issue before its too late

kimbawolf:

are you saying i am a bad person? and I don't deserve a place on this forum. Well I am sorry if you don't mean to offend me but i feel offended by you.
 
filthyboy said:
Thank you for you're opinion, it was indeed hard posting this because it gives abdls and dl shame and makes us look like pedophiles. I don't wanna name us like this, but i had too address this issue before its too late

kimbawolf:

are you saying i am a bad person? and I don't deserve a place on this forum. Well I am sorry if you don't mean to offend me but i feel offended by you.
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I don't know how you got the idea that I said you're a bad person, rather I was saying to ryan2127 that just because he thinks a topic makes us look bad that doesn't mean we shouldn't offer advice to the person posting it.
 
Sorry kimba i thought you where explaining what you where talking about to me directly. I apologise
 
KimbaWolfNagihiko said:
Pedophilia is attraction to children who have not reached puberty, not a certain magic age. Most 16-year-olds are past that.
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Well I don't know where your from, but in America if your under 18, then your a minor. Even if your 17, until you hit the legal age then it's not considered pedophilia.

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Babymax2000:
I live in Australia in society pedophilla is considered at any age. For example at 12 year old sexually attracted to a baby or a toddler, people would consider a pedophile or a 16 year old sexually attracted too a 11 year old. In people's minds they would think of you as a pedophile. Legally I think you have to be 18+ too be considered a pedophile and be convicted one. The point I am trying to say in this thread is, if I should get help Because It could lead to a Very unhealthy mental future.

Star runner:

Star runner you're right, I do feel confused (not so much pain) but I am still 'discovering' the abdl/dl/ic community, I'm still learning. And this is why i joined this community too help me, its also why i posted this thread

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In fact starrunner I am actually about to go out and buy pull-ups, your comments have motivated me. Thank you
 
BabyMax2000 said:
Well I don't know where your from, but in America if your under 18, then your a minor. Even if your 17, until you hit the legal age then it's not considered pedophilia.

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What laws say is illegal does not always match up with what society actually thinks. I also think you are slightly confused about what I'm trying to say.

Say a 16-year-old is dating a 17-year-old, and the older kid turns 18. The 17 wasn't a pedophile before their birthday, and they don't magically become one when they turn 18. In some places, an 18-year-old having sex with a 16-year-old is considered illegal, but I doubt that many people actually think it's morally wrong.
 
KimbaWolfN is right in that the psychological nomenclature for the word pedophilia relates to children who haven't reached puberty. Beyond that age they use the word Hebephilia. You can find the terms in Wikipedia, which I just referenced. She's also correct in that hebephilia is illegal when the older person is two or more years older than the younger, at least in the U. S. Age of consent differs from country to another.

When I was a young teenager, I found it was easy to be attracted to other males my age because males often look feminine before maturation makes us look like adult males. I got hit on by slightly older males all the time when I was a kid. But when we mature, we have to realize we aren't the child we once were. For whatever reason, we as a society, make age separations regarding our relationships. That doesn't mean that a 20 year old can't date someone 50 or 60, but it doesn't happen often. What you can't do of course is have a sexual relationship with someone who is below the legal age of consent.

Usually as we get older, we are naturally attracted to people our own age. If however, one is attracted to children, their life can become hellish and help of some sort is needed. Give yourself some time to figure out who and what turns you on. Try having a relationship with someone your age and see how you feel. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and you might find you like it.
 
KimbaWolfNagihiko said:
On the other hand... should we refuse to offer confused people an ear, simply because it might make us look bad?
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im not meaning to offend filthyboy in any way. Im just saying that IMO this topic would be better dealt with elsewhere. Could be Reddit, a psych forum etc.
 
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