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    Unhappy Unpleasant experience of loss of control

    I've been looking forward to wearing nappies this weekend - I have never done this for a whole weekend before. I'm a DL and I've even deliberately messed my nappy before.

    So I put on a new M4 nappy and was getting ready to go out this morning when without any warning whatever I competely lost control of my bowels and suddenly filled my nappy.

    It was like I had a spasm or something. By the time I knew what was happening it was over. I wasn't even aware I needed to go.

    So I cleaned up, which was not a pleasant experience and jumped back in the shower. I hurt a bit and bled as the sudden loss of control upset my piles.

    Anyway I started to think about the what-ifs - what if I hadn't been wearing, what if I was a long way from home, what if I've caused this to myself by wearing etc.

    I put a fresh nappy on - which I more or less had to do due to bleeding and finally went out.

    By the end of it I was practically crying. It is hard to express why this was so upsetting - the complete loss of control and not being able to trust my body, worrying
    that I've caused this to myself - I don't know really.

    Anyway I'm sorry if this was a bit yucky and whingey, but it really upset me.

    I guess I'm seaking reassurance that this was a one-off and I shouldn't worry about it too much.

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    Look at it as a premonition. No, I do not think that you did this to yourself. I have been wearing because I have occasional but rare (about once per month) bowel accidents (shatulance). One day fueling my car, I had SUIC for the first time - never had urinary issues in the past. I had one more incident while I was pulling down my diaper at a toilet (that did not go well), but have not had a repeat of that problem in a few months. Just look at it as a one-off unless you have further more frequent problems and keep wearing - pleasure and security all in one.

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    I think you should really seek some medical help with that. A loss of bowel control followed by bleeding is something potentially really serious.

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    Thanks for your helpful and perceptive replies.

    I think the incident and my reaction to it was a warning that I need to look after myself better physically and emotionally.

    I also think I need to see the doctor about my piles again and be more assertive about seeing a specialist. Probably that is going to lead to a painful and unpleasant procedure but it can't go on.

    Thanks for your concern MetalMann - I'm pretty sure the bleeding is "just" the piles as I was checked out a couple of years ago due to a different health scare - though I did think I was going to bleed to death during the prep for the colonoscopy . I'm under no illusion that it is OK to bleed like that - but I'm pretty sure it is piles and not IBD or cancer.

    I feel a lot better now - thanks guys - and I will see the doctor.

    Also I guess such incidents provide a useful excuse to carry on wearing - as if I needed one
    Last edited by Osito; 03-Jun-2017 at 18:25.

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    I have been living with colitis for over 40 years and once I did damn near bleed to death. When tested, my blood values were half of what they should have been, and that was before I bottomed out. I hope that you do not have any further problems and everything checks out with your doctor, but again I would not over-worry at this point as you have only had one isolated episode.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Osito View Post
    I've been looking forward to wearing nappies this weekend - I have never done this for a whole weekend before. I'm a DL and I've even deliberately messed my nappy before.

    So I put on a new M4 nappy and was getting ready to go out this morning when without any warning whatever I competely lost control of my bowels and suddenly filled my nappy.

    It was like I had a spasm or something. By the time I knew what was happening it was over. I wasn't even aware I needed to go.

    So I cleaned up, which was not a pleasant experience and jumped back in the shower. I hurt a bit and bled as the sudden loss of control upset my piles.

    Anyway I started to think about the what-ifs - what if I hadn't been wearing, what if I was a long way from home, what if I've caused this to myself by wearing etc.

    I put a fresh nappy on - which I more or less had to do due to bleeding and finally went out.

    By the end of it I was practically crying. It is hard to express why this was so upsetting - the complete loss of control and not being able to trust my body, worrying
    that I've caused this to myself - I don't know really.

    Anyway I'm sorry if this was a bit yucky and whingey, but it really upset me.

    I guess I'm seaking reassurance that this was a one-off and I shouldn't worry about it too much.
    IT wasn't a one off in my case, it was more a look at things to come.

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    Hemorrhoids can cause incontinence if the tissue is inflamed enough. Just like if you get swelling on a finger, its hard to bend, it loses it's fluidity and stiffens up and movement is limited. Hemorrhoids can do that to your rectum. With that said, surgery to fix it can also increase the chance of incontinence issues as well. Nor to scare you but a doctor can diagnose you a lot better. I wish the best for you.



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    Thanks for the helpful comments Kenn, Rennecfox and MetalMann.

    I feel a bit guilty today as I'm a lot better and really back to normal apart from some soreness - so I guess I overreacted. My theory is that it was a combination of an upset stomach and my 'roid flare-up.

    I'm still going to see the doctor about the bleeding 'roids (and one day I'll learn to spell them )

    The worst thing about 'roids is they keep telling you its your own fault - and if you had a good diet, didn't strain (but they make you feel like you need to go all the time), didn't scratch (but they itch) and looked after yourself properly they would go - which is sort of true - but equally you have to live - and whatever I do they seem to flare up periodically.

    I'll probably go for the surgery this time - but I am a bit worried about it.

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    About a month ago, I had drank 3 cups of coffee then went to the store to pick up some items for my wife. As we all know, coffee induces all lot of things. I was leaving the store and felt the urge come. It was sudden and powerful. I walked quickly to my car so I could unload the groceries and quickly go back to the store to use the restroom. When I bent over to grab the water, everything came out without warning. I was sooooo upset. I remembered I kept wipes and an extra diaper in my car under the seat. Luckily, the bathroom at the store is a one person and was right at the entrance. This happens to me when I drink coffee where it's get out my way I need the bathroom now. I don't think it's a medical issue more or less the coffee .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rado View Post
    About a month ago, I had drank 3 cups of coffee then went to the store to pick up some items for my wife. As we all know, coffee induces all lot of things. I was leaving the store and felt the urge come. It was sudden and powerful. I walked quickly to my car so I could unload the groceries and quickly go back to the store to use the restroom. When I bent over to grab the water, everything came out without warning. I was sooooo upset. I remembered I kept wipes and an extra diaper in my car under the seat. Luckily, the bathroom at the store is a one person and was right at the entrance. This happens to me when I drink coffee where it's get out my way I need the bathroom now. I don't think it's a medical issue more or less the coffee .
    Coffee is a laxative or has laxative properties FYI. I know after my second cup of my full pot of coffee in the AM I am rushing to the bathroom pulling my diaper down and very quickly sit down before it really comes out ! So caution is advised on heavy coffee consumption.

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