Eriksrud said:
I think we all have windows of what we're willing to tolerate from a partner, and when the consequences of stepping outside that window are so serious, it's a decision not to be taken lightly.
By that same mark, there are limits as to how far we are willing to accommodate our partners in turn.
for instance, you are worrying, or limiting yourself from wearing or being as open as you might wish too.
your choices, as far as this thread goes, seem to reflect that this is based on her reactions as you imagine them. to give an example.
Eriksrud said:
I want to be more open with my diaper wearing. I would love to feel like if I wanted to put on a diaper before bed I could, but her and I have never really talked about me wearing for fun.
She doesn't seem to mind the way I use diapers now, but I feel like she would be less understanding if it was because I liked them rather than because...
You have already confirmed that she does not mind how you wear them now, regardless of why you are wearing them, you are still wearing them. You have also mentioned that the reason you have not communicated and been honest with her is "I feel like she..." you are guessing at her reaction.
I would also quote this, to give you an indicator of how open minded she may be on the issue.
Eriksrud said:
The wife gets up a couple of times a night, and I've jokingly suggested a diaper, and she's said something along the lines of "don't joke, some nights I would gladly not get out of bed."
It seems like this really might be something you should consider discussing with her, for honesty's sake if for nothing else.
Who knows, she might even appreciate it.