I have to agree with ArchieRoni. That's why I wondered what the particulars of the argument were, because that gives us more insight. In my case when my stuff was discovered, I had come home from college for the weekend, something I often did. My parents were having company for dinner, friends whom I also knew. As dinner started, I began to cry and I couldn't stop. I had a psychotic break when I was in 7th grade and now I was having another. Seeing the psychiatrist wasn't only because of diapers and being gay, but having difficulties coping with life, which was very complicated at the time.
My mom had here suspicions that I was gay, because I was always with a male friend and during the summer, I was always with this boy who lived on our street. She'd ask me the usual mother questions, was I seeing a girl, etc. Eventually the rhetoric got more and more ugly.
The point was, and one ArchieRoni was making, my mom wanted me to be happy, and successful. In 1970, they didn't think you could be gay and happy, because homosexuality was considered a mental illness and you could be put in either a mental institution or jail, just for being gay. She had my best interests at heart, but she wasn't able to understand that like wearing diapers, you can't change who you are.
I didn't mean to be blunt with you. I genuinely feel sorry for you because I've been there. You know the expression, "It gets better?" For me it did. I graduated, moved several states away, met a girl, got married and started a family. I was successful at my job and I became mentally stable, which others on this site may be laughing over. Dogboy is never actually stable.
I do think that having a roof over your head and three meals a day is going to be more important than having your baby things. You did score by not having to throw them out, and I'm glad for you. Like Archie said, if there are other issues at hand, now is the time to address them. Often the big argument deals with education and employment, something we all have to do eventually.
We're always here to talk to so please know that you are supported here and you have friends. We care.